[Rambo]

^ prove it

[Anderson]

Rambo said:

^ prove it

Lol you expect me to go through 4000 of you posts only for you to deny it when I finally do find it?

[Rambo]

littleslim said:

Do you have a job man ? If that is the case, then the first step for your independance is to stop being financially dependant on them and the second step is to get a house or an appartement where to live ==> When they see you start doing things like an adult, they wont be able / or feel the necessity to control your life anymore.

Financial independance ==> That's the big key.

i have had a good job for almost 3 years now, i am in finance.

i have been contributing everymonth to pay for many thing around the house since the last 3 years. Financial situation is not the problem, i can easily live independantly and they know this too, My dad is also working so there no financial problems for them too. I could have left the house 3 years ago when i got this job, but i didn't because i hoped their attittude towards me could change. But unfortunatly for me things haven't changed, infact have gotten worse. They give my younger brother more freedom in everyway, he does what he likes and they dont really care. Personally i have never questioned thier decisions, but now if they expect me to be always like this, then they are clearly wrong. I know we should give parents the most respect, but it feels like they are taking advantage of me or doing this on purpose. I know this could just be my thinking, but it surely feels like this.

Anderson said:

Lol you expect me to go through 4000 of you posts only for you to deny it when I finally do find it?

prove it again, i never said such a thing. I know you were involved in stocking a cow incident and getting arrested by indian police

This post has been edited by Rambo: 07 July 2010 - 03:59 PM
Reason for edit: This was automatically merged to prevent double-posting.

[EirinnMoChroi]

Macaca said:

I wanted to warn people in the muslim community, but I was told by someone not to bring it up unless this person is brought up by someone in conversation first. It's just that he's dangerous...no he doesn't want to kill anyone, but he expresses very bad ideas and still has a prison mentality which doesn't seem to go away.

lol...well unless he lives in the southern Wisconsin area, I dont think I have much to worry about.

Rambo said:

I am not saying i will disrespect them, thats why i said moving out peacefully. Ofcourse i want to continue good relations with them after i move out, but i dont want them to control every aspect of my life.

guys, seriously, how many of us can relate to this? I know I can....lets stop attacking Rambo and assuming that he wants to disrespect mom and dad and just answer his question.

Rambo, just explain to them that you love them but you want to try to be more adult by assuming the responsibility of living on your own. Dont mention "live my own life" or any of that...simply say that you want the extra responsibility in order to truly feel like an adult.

Insha'Allah they will understand.

[Macaca]

IrishMuslimah said:

lol...well unless he lives in the southern Wisconsin area, I dont think I have much to worry about.
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No, he doesn't live there. But they are amongst us..and it's kind of scary because they can fool people who study the behavior of humans (like psychologists) so people should be careful insha Allah.
Someone very knowledgeable on deen told me not to just go out and proclaim this about this particular brother, but just to warn people if they bring him up.

I still have my doubts about not telling people because if something happens I know I will feel responsible because I know who he is...again, it's not life or death, but I worry about him cheating people out of their finances,etc.

You would be so surprised how these people behave and how they can mimic human emotions like crying, happiness,etc...but they don't really feel them. On one hand you feel sorry for the person, but at the same time you think why don't they get help? They're in denial, this guy especially. To describe him as needing psychological help would be an understatement and it doesn't help that he sees a psychologist (which he does) because that will just give him more insights on how he can groom his victims and how he can manipulate people better.

[Variable]

IrishMuslimah said:

lol...well unless he lives in the southern Wisconsin area, I dont think I have much to worry about.



guys, seriously, how many of us can relate to this? I know I can....lets stop attacking Rambo and assuming that he wants to disrespect mom and dad and just answer his question.

If you decide to do so... do it realizing that you probably aren't talking to someone on the other end of the internet who has the problems they say they have, or presents themselves in a truthful manner in any way.

[Shivermetimbers]

show them your islamica posts

[ChotooMotoo]

tell them you've joined a cult, and that if you speak to them again, the cult leader will kill you

[Revert]

IrishMuslimah said:

guys, seriously, how many of us can relate to this? I know I can....lets stop attacking Rambo and assuming that he wants to disrespect mom and dad and just answer his question.

Rambo, just explain to them that you love them but you want to try to be more adult by assuming the responsibility of living on your own. Dont mention "live my own life" or any of that...simply say that you want the extra responsibility in order to truly feel like an adult.

Insha'Allah they will understand.

He's already made it very clear that his parents are traditional Desi's. They won't buy it.

[Rain]

omg remember that time rambo admitted he got arrested for stalking?

[Rambo]

IrishMuslimah said:

lol...well unless he lives in the southern Wisconsin area, I dont think I have much to worry about.



guys, seriously, how many of us can relate to this? I know I can....lets stop attacking Rambo and assuming that he wants to disrespect mom and dad and just answer his question.

Rambo, just explain to them that you love them but you want to try to be more adult by assuming the responsibility of living on your own. Dont mention "live my own life" or any of that...simply say that you want the extra responsibility in order to truly feel like an adult.

Insha'Allah they will understand.

The only advice on this thread I like!

I was thinking of doing the same, Inshallah i will, i am just waiting for the right time to do it. Lets hope it works.

This post has been edited by Rambo: 08 July 2010 - 07:39 PM

[EirinnMoChroi]

Variable said:

If you decide to do so... do it realizing that you probably aren't talking to someone on the other end of the internet who has the problems they say they have, or presents themselves in a truthful manner in any way.

well whatever his reason, my response didnt exactly take up my valuable time.

[Rambo]

^ and variable is wrong to begin. My main problem is that i need "freedom" , ofcourse i wont tell this to my parents but i want freedom to do what i want in life, make my own decisions.

[MuslimSamurai]

I'm going through something similiar-stay strong bro.