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Nine Keys to True Brotherhood - Imam Sulami

Nine Keys to True Brotherhood - Imam Sulami

Imam Abu Abd al-Rahman al-Sulami (Allah have mercy on him), one of the great masters of the spiritual path, wrote in his work The Proper Manners of Companionship (Adab al-Suhba) that,

Proper companionship with one’s friends is through:

[1] Remaining constantly cheerful

[2] Doing the good

[3] Spreading mention of their virtues

[4] Concealing their errors

[5] Considering great this little acts of good

[6] Considering little anything one does for them

[7] Taking care of them with one’s person and wealth

[8] Avoiding malice, envy, harming, hurting, and all matters
that they dislike, in any way

[9] Leaving anything one would have to apologize for.



آداب الصحبة لأبي عبد الرحمن السلمي – (ج 1 / ص
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الصحبة مع الإخوان والصحبة مع الإخوان بدوام البشر ، وبذل المعروف ، ونشر المحاسن ، وستر القبائح ، واستكثار قليل برهم ، واستصغار ما منك إليهم ، وتعهدهم بالنفس والمال ، ومجانبة الحقد والحسد والبغي والأذى وما يكرهون من جميع الوجوه ، وترك ما يعتذر منه .

[Rambo]

the two biggest problems among muslims are back stabbing and rivalry. They always backstab each other and always compete with each other and become rivals. There will be no brotherhood until these two problems go away.

[jinnzaman]

Rambo said:

the two biggest problems among muslims are back stabbing and rivalry. They always backstab each other and always compete with each other and become rivals. There will be no brotherhood until these two problems go away.

Rivalry's a manifestation of hasad (jealousy) and there's a spiritual cure.

With that said, one strives within one's ability and relies upon Allah (subhana wa ta'ala).

[ShakirSahab]

do lists like these really have much benefit? legitimate question.