[Rain]

psychoteddybear said:

Psycho, I love you, really, but stop quoting him in his days of ignorance, please. it makes me want to throw something.

[Jaysh]

Rain said:

Psycho, I love you, really, but stop quoting him in his days of ignorance, please. it makes me want to throw something.

but he still says stuff like that all the time on chat

[Jamroll]

Rain said:

Psycho, I love you, really, but stop quoting him in his days of ignorance, please. it makes me want to throw something.

What you say on the internet lives forever.

[Haramoobobi]

In Hong Kong, a betrayed wife is legally allowed to kill her adulterous husband, but may only do so with her bare hands.

[psychoteddybear]

Rain said:

Psycho, I love you, really, but stop quoting him in his days of ignorance, please. it makes me want to throw something.

i'm glad some sense has been knocked into him hehe

p.s. me luv u 2

[DawudIsrael]

Anderson said:

1. Feminism kills.

Gold!

Sisters are getting very manly lately...she had the gusto to do anything, and yet not do anything fisabilillah? Muslims in the West really need to figure out gender roles and make sure they work tazkiya into there.

The husband was mistaken because he has to keep in mind the emotions and feelings of his wife. Who is going to keep his side in his old age? Guys who take second wives, always return to their first wife when they are humbled by life. What if something horrific happens to him, he is paralyzed...or whatever- how is he going to get through that if he makes the woman who has devoted so much to him for so long, his enemy?

Imam Ali (radiallahu anhu) wanted to get a second wife and it was his right to do so. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam told him not too, because he knew how emotionally fragile Fatima (radiallahu anha) was. That proves you need to care for her emotions and take them into account. Islamic knowledge is not dogmatic and static, it takes context into account.

The best way to prevent this is to put it in the pre-nuptial contract, so he is prohibited from taking another wife.

[EirinnMoChroi]

DawudIsrael said:

Gold!

Sisters are getting very manly lately...she had the gusto to do anything, and yet not do anything fisabilillah? Muslims in the West really need to figure out gender roles and make sure they work tazkiya into there.

I think what she did very much has to do with femininity. She felt betrayed and unloved and that made her outraged.

Its not by coincidence that most ancient deities who had temper problems were females. lol. Many female deities in pagan religions are extremely nurturing but have a very very dark side. Think of Kali. Shes the goddess of destruction. The ancients recognized this in females and gave their goddesses those attributes.

[Anderson]

stop being plebs.

[Rain]

Anderson said:

stop being plebs.

U make me sick.

[thelowestslave]

As-salaamu-alaikum, or greetings of peace and prosperity, well wishes, and much love to everyone and their families. :-) It definitely isn't justified. But the issue of polygamy to women is deeper than i initially thought. I was always under the impression that as long as a wife was well taken care of, in all aspects, she wouldn't be unduly concerned about her husband marrying another woman. I had a conversation with my aunt/second mother that opened my eyes. Apparently, when most women think about their husband having sex with another woman, regardless if the first wife has ok'd the marriage or not and it is legal...alot of stuff go through their mind. ALOOOOT.

[sara83]

If she couldn't except it she should have divorced him, sounds like she went crazy.

[EirinnMoChroi]

sara83 said:

If she couldn't except it she should have divorced him, sounds like she went crazy.

its really easy to sit on the outside and say it like that though. However, imagine that your companion of many years suddenly wants to abuse his right to a second wife and basically tell you with his actions that he doesnt give a hoot about your feelings.

Its more than just wanting a divorce. Its also wanting a little recognition that what he did really hurt her.

I dont agree with what she did but I can sort of feel what would cause her to do it.

[riad19]

Anderson, on 10 August 2007 - 05:49 PM, said:

Like Aryan said polygamy is the right of every man, this guy was doing something very noble considering todays lesbonazi climate.

Just goes to show two things:

1. Feminism kills.

2. Polygamous marriages should stay a secret, the Prophet (pbuh) said women were created deficient and sometimes their minds are unable to cope with awesome stuff like polygamy.

lol

[BaronChairman]

Jaysh, on 20 April 2010 - 10:29 AM, said:

I'm going to add one more point to solidify my neo-hippie views on this site.

Not only do I think that the wife can deny the right to marry a second wife in the nikah contract, I also believe that a man is sinning if he takes a second wife if he married his first wife with any implicit understanding that they would be monogamous (which is clearly the case today for those of us living in the West) and if his marrying a second wife hurts the feelings of the first wife.

Hurting the feelings of someone else is a sin, and of one's own wife, is a big deal.

If this happens, then all it is is cheating.

[Tanasi]

Ok Anderson and Riad and whoever else thinks a man can do whatever he wants without regards to the feelings of his wife. WHat if it were the other way around and polygamy was the right of eveery woman? How would YOU feel if your wife decided to take a second husband and did so without even consulting you? And when you protested she pretty much blew you off and then added insult to injury by letting you know she was going to prefer this new husband over you?

Even if you have a right to do something, you should always put yourself in the place of those who, you will affect by your actions. If it will hurt someone, why go there?

Anderson, women are not deficient in any way. God made men and women different so that we would compliment each other. Men have their strengths and weaknesses, talents and ineptitudes, virtues and faults. We women have ours. When you look it it all, our strengths cover your weaknesses, our talents cover your ineptitudes, and our virtues cover your faults and vice-versa.

So God gave to women 9 parts of desire...he also gave to us 9 parts of strength so we could put up with menfolk and not throttle the lot of you.

[Rain]

Tanasi, I speak for anderson when i say...he is a changed man.

[Anderson]

Rain, on 30 August 2010 - 06:56 PM, said:

Tanasi, I speak for anderson when i say...he is a changed man.

Women are people too.

[TrentReznor858]

Anderson, on 31 August 2010 - 07:56 AM, said:

Women are people too.

when did this happen!!!!!!