[annie_359]

Salaam all

I recently saw a post somewhere on Islamica saying how there is no literature (hardly any) on men and how they should behave (I agree there is always more criticism geared towards women). I received this email a coupla weeks ago from a brother in Jordan.. It's actually very innocently sweet.. it made me smile.

Please don't reply horribly and say negative things as some Islamicans do most of their time on here.. I'm not saying this is the be-all-end-all to a successful marriage but some tips we can keep in our minds that can benefit ourselves inshAllah

Annie


1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time you went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (peace be upon him) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don’t treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (PBUH) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A). It’s a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when the Prophet (PBUH) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salaah, even when he was fasting I see most of these points don't have citations or references, if anyone can provide, that would be great..

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup.
Don’t let that be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don’t have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8. Don’t belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (RA) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel. SubhanAllah.. how kind..

9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (PBUH) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that? (Yes, we don't have deserts at the end of our streets but paint-balling is damn fun )

10. Always remember the words of Allah’s Messenger (PBUH): ‘The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.' Try to be the best!

[farah]

jazakAllah khair for posting

[Sha_]

Not to be negative or anything... But who cares about designer pyjamas?

[Salika]

Originally Posted by Sha_

Not to be negative or anything... But who cares about designer pyjamas?

I think the point was to just look nice

[ChotooMotoo]

Originally Posted by Sha_

Not to be negative or anything... But who cares about designer pyjamas?

Really... I mean, how long will....... I better stop now

looking nice is important though.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Salika

I think the point was to just look nice

In a fashionable and expensive kinda way
(designer Lungis are much more fashionable donchaknow )

[ChotooMotoo]

Originally Posted by wheelworks

In a fashionable and expensive kinda way
(designer Lungis are much more fashionable donchaknow )

and much easier to...

[Salika]

Originally Posted by wheelworks

In a fashionable and expensive kinda way
(designer Lungis are much more fashionable donchaknow )

You can get designer stuff for a pretty good stuff on sale or even places like Marshall's or something.

Anyways, just look nice, sheesh.

[shadha]

Chotoo: Really... I mean, how long will....... I better stop now

LOL!!!


shadha-

[wheelworks]

Well to put it a nutshell...Muslim husbands should be nice'n'lovely like me.donchaknow

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

and much easier to...(ride a lady's bicycle...)

I'm not letting my mind go that way

[Sha_]

Originally Posted by Salika

I think the point was to just look nice

Lol I know, just thought it was a weird/silly example.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Sha_

Lol I know, just thought it was a weird example.

Weird examples are nice to make mountains out of molehills when you feel like it

[annie_359]

Originally Posted by Sha_

Lol I know, just thought it was a weird/silly example.

Haha, I do agree with that!!
I should have taken it out but I was doing a million things at once.. like now

Chotoo - STOP BEING NAUGHTY

Annie