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Originally Posted by A_Muminah
As-salaamu 'Alaykum,
Fear Allaah. Dont make general statement like that because of a few bad apples.
Baraka-Allaahu Feek.
-I just realized, no matter how many flowers and smily faces I add to my post to make it seem as nice I am really am, people never take it the way I mean it. I hope you do not get offended by my many posts.-
Was-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaah.
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I'm not offended at all. I'm just speaking from experience as a convert, and as one who has seen many others convert, go to "extreme" and then leave the faith. There are some genuinely pious people out there who are also religious looking, but they are not nearly as vocal as the religious looking people who are not pious. New converts need something to cling to, and sometimes the very vocal religious looking bad apples bring new converts under their wings and teach them un-islamic things. These poor kids have no idea that they aren't being told the whole story, and so often blindly follow whatever they are told. I've seen new converts being told that they have to take up the veil immediately (face veil) and quit their jobs once they convert to Islam, and that they must get married immediately or there will be fitnah and they will go to Hell. I've seen lots of cases of converts going to fast too soon becuasee certain individuals push them too hard, and then they leave Islam entirely. Recent well publicized cases of converts being brainwashed as terrorists are another example. It's all the same phenomenon. Converts trust people who look religious, and sometimes those people look religious just to lead people astray.
Another thing I've seen happen is converts not being accepted by the Muslim community becuase they are not Muslim enough. To some people, being born Muslim and speaking Arabic makes you automatically a better Muslim than a convert, and a convert can never hope to be as good a Muslim as you. On the flip side of that is the pressure converts feel becuase some people will tell them that they are the best Muslims becuase they accepted Islam, whilst born Muslims are only following the religion of their forefathers. In both cases, the convert can feel judged by other Muslims, and feel that no matter what they do, they are always being judged by other Muslims. A person can only do so much.