[A_Muminah]

As-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaah,

Originally Posted by Songbird

Oh and oops, I'm not 37 years of age. I do things like that to throw people off.

Lol, looks like it's working

P.S can you guess my real age?

According to Islamica, I am 94 years old and they stopped counting after I reached 50.

Originally Posted by shadha

A_Muminah: Ahhhh, I love how we, at Islamica, care and respect each other to the highest degree, Masha-Allaah.
May Allaah forgive us for the sins we commit knowingly and unknowingly, Aameen.
btw - I think that lady just wants attention that she never received from her husband.
Was-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaah.

You open up your post by perching on your high horse about caring and respecting others, "Masha-Allaah", then go make a negative and *****y side remark about the relationship between the woman and her husband. She can't possibly being doing this to sincerely educate the Ummah on Islamic practices to prevent further damage, no, she must want and desire and seek attention because she obviously didn't receive any from her husband, right? Lovely. Practice what you preach sweetheart or shut the hell up FisabiAllah.


shadha-

Thank you for enlightening me and offering me your sincerest naseeha.

lol, btw - Do you REALLY think someone would go into such a profession if their husband didnt give them enough attention? It cracks me up (it was a joke btw...Yes, i tend to joke at times too) . lol

Was-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaah.

[WarriorAndWiseman]

Originally Posted by Songbird

Oh and oops, I'm not 37 years of age. I do things like that to throw people off.

Lol, looks like it's working

P.S can you guess my real age?

...must....resist.....

[Songbird]

Originally Posted by shadha

Practice what you preach sweetheart or shut the hell up FisabiAllah.


shadha-

Shadha sis, I notice in your picture you're in Hijab. Please don't speak in such a manner. The Hijab isn't a piece of cloth - it is to extend to your manner of speech too.

You're not Britany Spears or some gangsta chick. You're a Muslimah and a Muhajbeh to boot.

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

shall I start passing out midol?






i'm jk, don't hurt me

[A_Muminah]

As-Salaamu 'Alaykum,

Originally Posted by iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu

shall I start passing out midol?






i'm jk, don't hurt me

HAHAHAHAH!!

I wanted to say that so bad but refrained. lol

Was-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaah

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

Originally Posted by A_Muminah

As-Salaamu 'Alaykum,



HAHAHAHAH!!

I wanted to say that so bad but refrained. lol

Was-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaah

LOL yeah, my bad angel always seems to win

[shadha]

Songbird, do spare me of your thesaurus theatrics for it is the furthest thing from being even relatively intimidating.

Moving on...having the acquired skill of reading comprehension would afford one the ability to read and understand key points made in the article posted above. Now if those points seem to be escaping you, Allahu Alim.

A_Muminah: lol, btw - Do you REALLY think someone would go into such a profession if their husband didnt give them enough attention? It cracks me up. lol

...and that speaks volumes.


shadha-

[ChotooMotoo]

Okay, when you create a really excelent recipe, you make the best chocolate cake ever lets say... you want to share the recipe with others. You've mastered the art of making the most delicious desert ever, and you want everyone to know how to make it too so their chocolate cakes will be as delicious and successful as yours.

If this therapist is trying to teach others the secrets to a fulfilling intimate life, it clearly shows that she knows those secrets and is fulfulled herself. You can't teach others what you don't know. Some lightbulb when off in her head and "OMG EUREKA, I MUST share this with others!"

At least that's why my mom gave me "the talk" before I got married, so I wouldn't have to go through the same ackwardness she went through. She told me all the secrets first so I didn't have to spend lots of time being miserable hoping to figure it out for myself.

[shadha]

ChotooMotoo: At least that's why my mom gave me "the talk" before I got married,

Unfortunately, that isn't the case for many children. Their parents leave them in the dark, expecting them to find their own way. If their own parents won't educate them on the Islamic etiquette of sex and relationships- who will? The media? The internet? A friend who is just as naive as they are or maybe a friend who is experienced yet unmarried? The non-Muslims? Who will it be? MashaAllah, this sister is counseling married couples in the privacy of her clinic and then MashaAllah, has the courage and faith to go on television to educate her viewers from an Islamic perspective on a topic that is normally and sadly viewed as taboo to speak of. She gives the uneducated a way to becoming educated. Even if one is shy, they can still call in anonymously or reading her writings to have their burning question answered based upon the teachings of Islam. I can only imagine the level of negative feedback she is receiving, a few of the replies in this thread are just a drop in the ocean, and can only pray for her- pray that she continues to do the work that she does and pray that no harm comes to her because of the work that she does. Ameen.


shadha-

[Variable]

Originally Posted by Songbird

Shadha sis, I notice in your picture you're in Hijab. Please don't speak in such a manner. The Hijab isn't a piece of cloth - it is to extend to your manner of speech too.

You're not Britany Spears or some gangsta chick. You're a Muslimah and a Muhajbeh to boot.

Why did you start attacking her like that? What is it to you if she wants to help people?

[Songbird]

Originally Posted by Variable

Why did you start attacking her like that? What is it to you if she wants to help people?

Because she sounds like a gangsta chick and not a lady in Hijab.

Helping people is fine, so long as it falls within the boundaries of Islam.

[Variable]

Originally Posted by Songbird

Because she sounds like a gangsta chick and not a lady in Hijab.

Helping people is fine, so long as it falls within the boundaries of Islam.

Judging what I've learned from her over the past few years, the one word I wouldn't use to describe Shadha is 'immature'. And certainly not 'gangsta chick'.

Anyway, who's to say it isn't Islamic. One thing I've always appreciated about Islam was the complete left hand turn it seemed to take from Christianity on the matter. I thought being educated and aware about sex was an important component of the faith.

[WickedSam]

Salaamz

Saw something about sex so I thought I'd drop by. I saw this woman on tv once. She's interesting. I think it's pretty cool. She goes by the Qu'ran and Islam when talking about sexual relations between a married couple.

I don't think it's something to be embarrassed about. People should know what to expect and stuff. From what I've heard, sex is 50% of a marriage and is argued about and whatnot. I think it should be studied and discussed from an Islamic viewpoint. Many people only learn the Western philosophies and viewpoint of sex, and that does cause a lot of marital discord. Perhaps, it would do us good to learn what Islam has to say about it.

Wasalaamzzzz

[ChotooMotoo]

Originally Posted by WickedSam

Salaamz

Saw something about sex so I thought I'd drop by. I saw this woman on tv once. She's interesting. I think it's pretty cool. She goes by the Qu'ran and Islam when talking about sexual relations between a married couple.

I don't think it's something to be embarrassed about. People should know what to expect and stuff. From what I've heard, sex is 50% of a marriage and is argued about and whatnot. I think it should be studied and discussed from an Islamic viewpoint. Many people only learn the Western philosophies and viewpoint of sex, and that does cause a lot of marital discord. Perhaps, it would do us good to learn what Islam has to say about it.

Wasalaamzzzz

I don't know if it's half of marriage, but it certainly is an important component. Just like women need to know their rights in regards to mehr, inheritance, property disputes, they need to know their rights when it comes to the more mundane and intimiate parts of their relationships as well.

It's important for women to know that they have rights when it comes to sex, not just the men. It's important to know the etiquitte of sex as well. These are imporant topics, and alhamdulillah, Islam teaches us all these things.