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One boy, one girl -- one dorm room
"Co-ed" Dorm Rooms
(AP) -- Erik Youngdahl and Michelle Garcia share a dorm room at Connecticut's Wesleyan University. But they say there's no funny business going on. Really. They mean it.
They have set up their beds side-by-side like Lucy and Ricky in "I Love Lucy" and avert their eyes when one of them is changing clothes.
"People are shocked to hear that it's happening and even that it's possible," said Youngdahl, a 20-year-old sophomore. But "once you actually live in it, it doesn't actually turn into a big deal."
In the prim 1950s, college dorms were off-limits to members of the opposite sex. Then came the 1970s, when male and female students started crossing paths in coed dormitories. Now, to the astonishment of some baby boomer parents, a growing number of colleges are going even further: coed rooms.
At least two dozen schools, including Brown University, the University of Pennsylvania, Oberlin College, Clark University and the California Institute of Technology, allow some or all students to share a room with anyone they choose, including someone of the opposite sex. This spring, as students sign up for next year's room, more schools are following suit, including Stanford University.
As shocking as it sounds to some parents, some students and schools say it's not about sex.
Instead, they say the demand is mostly from heterosexual students who want to live with close friends who happen to be of the opposite sex. Some gay students who feel more comfortable rooming with someone of the opposite sex are also taking advantage of the option.
"It ultimately comes down to finding someone that you feel is compatible with you," said Jeffrey Chang, a junior at Clark in Worcester, Massachusetts, who co-founded the National Student Genderblind Campaign, a group that is pushing for gender-neutral housing. "Students aren't doing this to make a point. They're not doing this to upset their parents. It's really for practical reasons."
Continued at... One boy, one girl -- one dorm room - CNN.com
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05-04-2008, 01:01 AM
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Re: One boy, one girl -- one dorm room
ok so even if we believe them  ...thats going to be the exception not the rule.
hmm maybe i dont get the practical reasons...is it that they didn't have another male to partner up with the guy?
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05-04-2008, 02:37 AM
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Re: One boy, one girl -- one dorm room
uuuh. no. not halal.
saw this in the morning... e_e
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ok so even if we believe them ...thats going to be the exception not the rule.
hmm maybe i dont get the practical reasons...is it that they didn't have another male to partner up with the guy? |
I've roomed with quite a few girls... I'd say the exception/rule is definitely the other way around. |
05-04-2008, 06:25 AM
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Re: One boy, one girl -- one dorm room
what a load of nonsense.
even if they're not doing anything, they'll still be thinking about it which will probabaly lead TO it. it's the way things are and the way we're made.
“No man is alone with a woman but the shaytaan is the third one present.” [Narrated by Ahmad, al-Tirmidhi and al-Haakim; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2546)].
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Re: One boy, one girl -- one dorm room
So I take it you don't believe platonic friendships can exist?
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what a load of nonsense.
even if they're not doing anything, they'll still be thinking about it which will probabaly lead TO it. it's the way things are and the way we're made.
“No man is alone with a woman but the shaytaan is the third one present.” [Narrated by Ahmad, al-Tirmidhi and al-Haakim; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2546)].
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Shotgun: So I take it you don't believe platonic friendships can exist?
The majority of my friends are guys, what can I say?  , and honestly no matter how platonic our friendship may be- there's no way in hell I could dorm with any of them. It'd only be a matter of time eh.
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It is always shocking to hear that apparently Muslim and hijabi girls are adopting the Western lifestyles and habits and having guy friends. It is IMPOSSIBLE for a man and a woman to just be friends - there is always shaytan who is the third in such a friendship and the man always thinks of the woman as someone of the opposite gender, someone whose beauty is there to judge and rate, and someone to have "fun" with (not necessarily sexual) and someone to lust over.
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It is always shocking to hear that apparently Muslim and hijabi girls are adopting the Western lifestyles and habits and having guy friends. It is IMPOSSIBLE for a man and a woman to just be friends - there is always shaytan who is the third in such a friendship and the man always thinks of the woman as someone of the opposite gender, someone whose beauty is there to judge and rate, and someone to have "fun" with (not necessarily sexual) and someone to lust over.
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I don't have many male friends. although I find that male friendships can have their pitfalls, guys are easier to deal with than girls. you guys don't pull the crap girls do..all the gossiping and backstabbing and cattiness.
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It is always shocking to hear that apparently Muslim and hijabi girls are adopting the Western lifestyles and habits and having guy friends. It is IMPOSSIBLE for a man and a woman to just be friends - there is always shaytan who is the third in such a friendship and the man always thinks of the woman as someone of the opposite gender, someone whose beauty is there to judge and rate, and someone to have "fun" with (not necessarily sexual) and someone to lust over.
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Just like its always shocking to hear grandstanding newbie idiots like you prance about how shocked they are to hear that hijabi girls have guy friends.
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Yeah, that's her pic. And if you go over to the Islamica Photo Album you'll find loads of pics of Islamicans.
In other words, get a life.
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A pic of my mom is already up on Facebook for many Islamicans to see, and they've already seen it.
I'm not to sure if I'd wanna show such pics to bani shar-mutahs, though.
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the gay kids were pro this at my uni...it just got shut down. Its funny, every article I've read about this says "its not about sex."
This would be great for married couples who are forced to dorm by their universities. But most of them make exceptions for married people.
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whoa...I didn't know we could put pictures in our profile.
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I used to think whenever I'd come to Islamica I'd get the latest news before hearing it anywhere else. lol. This story has been on cnn.com for almost 2 days now.
and when did this kind of stuff and stuff like 'man dials 911 with his toes' turn into "news" worthy of cnn.com's home page?
blaaahhhhhh. Let's hear some real news!
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