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Parted-at-birth twins 'married'

A pair of twins who were adopted by separate families as babies got married without knowing they were brother and sister, a peer told the House of Lords.

A court annulled the British couple's union after they discovered their true relationship, Lord Alton said.

The peer - who was told of the case by a High Court judge involved - said the twins felt an "inevitable attraction".

He said the case showed how important it was for children to be able to find out about their biological parents.

Details of the identities of the twins involved have been kept secret, but Lord Alton said the pair did not realise they were related until after their marriage.

'Truth will out'

The former Liberal Democrat MP raised the couple's case during a House of Lords debate on the Human Fertility and Embryology Bill in December.

"They were never told that they were twins," he told the Lords.

"They met later in life and felt an inevitable attraction, and the judge had to deal with the consequences of the marriage that they entered into and all the issues of their separation."

He told the BBC News website that their story raises the wider issue of the importance of strengthening the rights of children to know the identities of their biological parents.

"If you start trying to conceal someone's identity, sooner or later the truth will out," he said.

"And if you don't know you are biologically related to someone, you may become attracted to them and tragedies like this may occur."

Pam Hodgkins, chief executive officer of the charity Adults Affected by Adoption (NORCAP) said there had been previous cases of separated siblings being attracted to each other.

"We have a resistance, a very strong incest taboo where we are aware that someone is a biological relative," she said.

"But when we are unaware of that relationship, we are naturally drawn to people who are quite similar to ourselves.

'Incredibly rare'

"And of course there is unlikely to be anyone more similar to any individual than their sibling."

Mo O'Reilly, director of child placement for the British Association for Adoption and Fostering, said the situation was traumatic for the people involved, but incredibly rare.

"Thirty or 40 years ago it would have been more likely that twins be separated and, brought up without knowledge of each other," she said.

Today, however, adopted children grow up with a greater knowledge of their birth families - and organisations try to place brothers and sisters together.

If that were not possible, the siblings would still have some form of contact with each other.

"This sad case illustrates why, over the last 20-30 years, the shift to openness in adoption was so important," Ms O'Reilly added.

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And this is why, Islamically, adopted children MUST know that they are adopted, and must be told about their biological families.
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That would totally screw with your brain. You are totally in love, you married, most likely did the dirty deed... and then "Oh, btw, you're brother and sister" Just imagine how that would feel????
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and what about all the women who conceive through the same sperm donor? same kind of thing could happen to the kids.
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That would totally screw with your brain. You are totally in love, you married, most likely did the dirty deed... and then "Oh, btw, you're brother and sister" Just imagine how that would feel????
that's really sad. I imagine there must be a lot of counseling going on.
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And this is why, Islamically, adopted children MUST know that they are adopted, and must be told about their biological families.
This case totally showcases the wisdom behind Islam's adoption rules. I'm sure this has happened several times in the past.
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so sad.

imagine if they were STILL in love with one another after that? It'd be hard to just switch that off i'm sure.

And what if they wanted to be Brother and SISTER after that? How without...thinking about what went on :s

I hope they turn out ok insha Allah.
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maybe this is why I like girls with brown eyes.
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That's sad.. I kept seeing the headlines outside every newsagent/tube station to/from work today and wondered what it was all about...

I can imajin this havin a great psychological affect in them.. depression, anger, disgust with themselves altho they're not to blame at all..
May Allah SWT make this as easy as possible for them...

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That's sad.. I kept seeing the headlines outside every newsagent/tube station to/from work today and wondered what it was all about...

I can imajin this havin a great psychological affect in them.. depression, anger, disgust with themselves altho they're not to blame at all..
May Allah SWT make this as easy as possible for them...

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Ya same..but now that I've read the whole thing thanks to Yahya I'm pretty much grossed out. I feel SO bad for them two..it must hard tryna except that the one they loved and married is actually their bro/sis. hope they move on!
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This is why I do not feel an attraction to people like me. I am afraid they will somehow be my brother. My cousin thinks it's crazy but this story totally goes in my favor,
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