[shadha]

Sex-offender parents pose dilemma for schools
Boards debate how much access to school grounds they should allow

STEELE, N.D. - School boards across the country are debating how to deal with parents like Cody Mittleider. The 28-year-old married father of three young children spent a year in prison for a 2005 rape conviction, but has since worked to become a respected member of the community.

He quit drinking, attends counseling, got a job at a potato farm and joined the volunteer fire department in this central North Dakota town of about 760 residents.

But as a convicted sex offender, Mittleider, is not allowed to attend his children's school programs or athletic events, pending a Steele School Board decision.

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Oh, hell no.

I would not want a convicted sex-offender anywhere near my child, no less watching my child play sports and be involved in school activites. No. Thank you. Keep the perverts off school grounds.

And I am highly disturbed at the fact that the pervert Cody Mittleider only spent a year in prison for his rape conviction.

I do not care how much he has supposedly changed his life around, or how many therapy classes he participated in- a rapist is a rapist, a molester is a molester. Why they are given second chances, is disgusting and beyond me.

I can not even begin to fathom how ANYONE can support these perverts being around children. I'm a convicted rapist, but I promise I won't rape your child...yeah, oki.


shadha-

[zakk]

they have a website that shows where convicted molesters live in your neighborhood.

[shsh]

"...got a job at a potato farm..."

LOL

the real question is would you like to buy your potatoes from a sex offender?

[MoonStar]

I don't understand why the laws are so lenient on child molesters/rapists. Though I read that Florida just increased the term to 15 years for them, but I wonder whether that'll be enforced, and I don't think it's long enough.

Maybe I've been watching too much To Catch a Predator, but personally if I had a kid, whether a boy or girl, I wouldn't trust any male teachers in schools either, nor male islamic school teachers/maulanas, I've heard too many disturbing stories.

[Variable]

I was only recently introduced to the idea of how it feels to be responsible for kids when there are molesters around.

Working in Victoria this summer, we'd take the kids to the beach on Fridays. I'd go into the same kind of alert/survival mode as when I was in central San Salvador or Guat City... but that was easier because then I only had myself to protect, not 15 annoying children.

First I'd prepare them by telling them that if any creepy people made them feel uncomfortable, to scream as loud as they could and run to us. We also paired them up in buddy units.

Then I'd commandeer the highest part of the playground (it was the smoke stack of this big 'ship') and I'd go through a head count of my kids while at the same time assessing the threat level from the surrounding crowd. Big lady with dog and little kids - threat level green. Single guy walking around alone who normally shouldn't have any reason to be at a playground - threat level red. Then when I got to the end of my head count I'd start again, sometimes for the whole hour and a half. All this while mediating playground fights, helping kids get over the 'hard parts' of the playground and deflecting inquisitive members of the public.

It was exhausting, but all in all was an effective strategy - we didn't lose one kid, and only injuries were minor scrapes and bruises.

[ChotooMotoo]

Originally Posted by MoonStar

I don't understand why the laws are so lenient on child molesters/rapists. Though I read that Florida just increased the term to 15 years for them, but I wonder whether that'll be enforced, and I don't think it's long enough.

Maybe I've been watching too much To Catch a Predator, but personally if I had a kid, whether a boy or girl, I wouldn't trust any male teachers in schools either, nor male islamic school teachers/maulanas, I've heard too many disturbing stories.

the justice system cares more about punishing prostitutes, petty thieves, and drug addicts than it does about child molesters.

[shadha]

Vari: Working in Victoria this summer, we'd take the kids to the beach on Fridays. I'd go into the same kind of alert/survival mode as when I was in central San Salvador or Guat City... but that was easier because then I only had myself to protect, not 15 annoying children.
First I'd prepare them by telling them that if any creepy people made them feel uncomfortable, to scream as loud as they could and run to us. We also paired them up in buddy units.


I so know how that feels. Watching and protecting children is one of the scariest feelings I have ever had to endure.

I become furious when I see little kids, little as in younger than 4 [not that they should between the ages of 4-12 anyway], running around stores by themselves. I speak my mind and I do not care if the parents hear me. How many damn times have you heard parents say, "I only turned away for a second and he/she was gone"...biggest lie ever. At one of the stores I work at, the moment I see a little kid wandering around I alone, I attach myself to him/her. Following closely behind. I swear, these parents would be at the other end of the store. It's so sad and angering. It's like they don't care about the well-being of their child. Selfish bastards.

What also gets me is when parents leave their kids in the car. I go off. This one time I saw it as I was walking into work, course I couldn't keep my mouth shut about it- I started ranting and raving, talking about the chances of the child being kidnapped, telling the person who I was walking in with that I'm damn close to calling the police. I noticed, as I was walking in fully, the mother was on line, heard everything I said, looking at me petrified as I walked past. I got up to the counter, turned around, she wasn't there. She went to the car, got her child, and came back on line.


shadha-

[Musashi]

Asallamu 'alaikum wa rahmatulLahi wa barakatuh

You're awesome, shadha. You know that, right?

Scary scary stuff.

[shadha]

Wa Alaykum Salam,

Hehe, thanks.


shadha-

[nooni]

Originally Posted by MoonStar

Maybe I've been watching too much To Catch a Predator, but personally if I had a kid, whether a boy or girl, I wouldn't trust any male teachers in schools either, nor male islamic school teachers/maulanas, I've heard too many disturbing stories.

i agree.

sadly the same is happening with women too. there have been so much news coverage in america of teenage boys sleeping with their young and hot teacher. sickening.

[Timbit]

I don't think there's anything wrong with male teachers. But I'd be careful about who my kids spend time with alone.

I'm always telling my little brother and cousins (there're 5 of them under the age of 5) not to talk to strangers. But they're so friendly to everybody. For example, I was taking my baby brother to the water park and we met this old lady on the way. He goes like "I'm going to the waterpark!" And so obviously she started talking to him, about whether he knows how to swim or not.

I took them all to the library and they started talking to the security guard there and told him their full names and where they live and all that. Turns out he knows my dad.

Then my cousin met a random man in our area when I was with her and she started the conversation like "Hi! This is [Timbit]. I'm Nabihah." I dunno why she had to introduce me first. He was like "Hi Nabihah! I'm Steven!" Then he asked her if she lives around here and he explained how he was just visiting his brother's family. Then he was like "Nabihah, you're a sweetheart. Don't ever change." And she was all "Okay!" And I got her out of there and went like "Don't talk to strangers!"


And yeah, the original post... that's just wrong.