To talk or not to talk?

[seeker84]

FOR THE BROTHERS -- When considering a sister for marriage, would you ask the parents to let you guys talk to gauge compatibility before making an official proposal?

If yes, then what would to talk to her about? I am asking cuz I am in this situation now but not sure what we’ll talk about when and if we start talking?


FOR THE SISTERS -- Would you want to talk to the brother before deciding on accepting and rejecting a proposal or would you just take your parents word for it?

What would be your preferred medium of communication with a marriage candidate, i.e”: PHONe, MSN, YAHOO, EMAIL ETC ETC?

[TrentReznor858]

[PhDGirl]

Oh dear.....

[sally]

It's hard... Like I can't seem to decide if AIM is a better communication medium or MSN?

[clarity_muslimah]

LOL^

Talk to the sis before u present her with the idea. It would be kinda creepy if a girls parents were lik "oh yah, so bro Z wants to marry you"
the sis is gonna get creeped out..and think...what..why was I not informed about this beforehand?!

Oh and jusat be like, hmm..
"I get 2 for 1 cinema tickets. Lets get married?"

[seeker84]

clarity_muslimah said

LOL^

Talk to the sis before u present her with the idea. It would be kinda creepy if a girls parents were lik "oh yah, so bro Z wants to marry you"
the sis is gonna get creeped out..and think...what..why was I not informed about this beforehand?!

Oh and jusat be like, hmm..
"I get 2 for 1 cinema tickets. Lets get married?"

ya the sister knows everything.

[Zam]

clarity_muslimah said

LOL^

Talk to the sis before u present her with the idea. It would be kinda creepy if a girls parents were lik "oh yah, so bro Z wants to marry you"
the sis is gonna get creeped out..and think...what..why was I not informed about this beforehand?!

Oh and jusat be like, hmm..
"I get 2 for 1 cinema tickets. Lets get married?"

wth, in the other thread the girls were saying its so scandelous if the guy asks the girl instead of the wali first???

[nooni]

no u should not talk to each other at all.... in fact even after marriage dont talk... cause apparently if its not that important to get to noe the person before marriage... why then would it matter afterward???

on a serious note... yes talk to your potential before marriage/engagement.. why make the commitment if you arent even compatible

[Anderson]

Don't say anything to her directly, talk to yourself as if it were a soliloquy to pry the information you require as in this following example.

Him- 'I wonder if she has a name, i must know if she does'

Her- 'I wonder if he knows my name is Zangula'

As long as you keep references to each other in third person you will technically not be talking to each other thus not commiting sin. Similar rules apply to interactions on instant messaging applications.

[Zam]

Anderson said

Don't say anything to her directly, talk to yourself as if it were a soliloquy to pry the information you require as in this following example.

Him- 'I wonder if she has a name, i must know if she does'

Her- 'I wonder if he knows my name is Zangula'

As long as you keep references to each other in third person you will technically not be talking to each other thus not commiting sin. Similar rules apply to interactions on instant messaging applications.

rofl
10/10

[TrentReznor858]

Zam said

wth, in the other thread the girls were saying its so scandelous if the guy asks the girl instead of the wali first???

[Zam]

TrentReznor858 said

http://www.islamicaweb.com/forums/lo...is-number.html

[dreamingofbeards]

Anderson said

Don't say anything to her directly, talk to yourself as if it were a soliloquy to pry the information you require as in this following example.

Him- 'I wonder if she has a name, i must know if she does'

Her- 'I wonder if he knows my name is Zangula'

As long as you keep references to each other in third person you will technically not be talking to each other thus not commiting sin. Similar rules apply to interactions on instant messaging applications.

Wise, wise words. So wise, that I have nothing to add.

[Zam]

Anderson said

Don't say anything to her directly, talk to yourself as if it were a soliloquy to pry the information you require as in this following example.

Him- 'I wonder if she has a name, i must know if she does'

Her- 'I wonder if he knows my name is Zangula'

As long as you keep references to each other in third person you will technically not be talking to each other thus not commiting sin. Similar rules apply to interactions on instant messaging applications.

This is classic Aahnderson humor like back from '04. Please bless us with some more.

[Jaysh]

Anderson said

Don't say anything to her directly, talk to yourself as if it were a soliloquy to pry the information you require as in this following example.

Him- 'I wonder if she has a name, i must know if she does'

Her- 'I wonder if he knows my name is Zangula'

As long as you keep references to each other in third person you will technically not be talking to each other thus not commiting sin. Similar rules apply to interactions on instant messaging applications.

bwahahahahhahaha

You are genius. I am so proud of the fact that you came out of my own uterus.