[dumbum123]

I'm a young girl interested in marrying someone. He feels the same way, but I just don't know how to bring it up with my parents. My mom knows that I want to get married but she just doesn't know with who or anything about the situation. How do I tell her that I'm interested?

[minab]

Just be like, mom im interested in this dude and i wanna marry him so gimme some money

[IbnMardhiyah]

Originally Posted by dumbum123

I'm a young girl interested in marrying someone. He feels the same way, but I just don't know how to bring it up with my parents. My mom knows that I want to get married but she just doesn't know with who or anything about the situation. How do I tell her that I'm interested?

Get a mutual acquaintance [someone who knows both you and the guy] to mention him to your parents. Or have that person mention the guy to his / her parents, and then they mention or recommend that guy to your parents.

[jinnzaman]

Sing a song about love in a high pitched voice and then engage in a long and drawn out flagrantly gay dance sequence and then profess your undying love to the boy in front of your parents.

It always works in Indian movies.

[ChotooMotoo]

You can do what my sister did, elope and show your mom the marriage certificate after the fact.

[LEGALEAGLE]

Ask Rambo.

[minab]

Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

You can do what my sister did, elope and show your mom the marriage certificate after the fact.

HAHA no way! That is so awesome. I would receive one or two thappars but it would be totally worth it

[Tairra]

Originally Posted by minab

Just be like, mom im interested in this dude and i wanna marry him so gimme some money

Thats what I'm talking about, lol. but yeah sis, I went through the same thing, don't say anything until this guy says he wants to meet your parents. Then bring it up, and be like he's ready to meet you.

[dumbum123]

Originally Posted by Tairra

Thats what I'm talking about, lol. but yeah sis, I went through the same thing, don't say anything until this guy says he wants to meet your parents. Then bring it up, and be like he's ready to meet you.

Well, yeah, obviously THEN I'm gonna bring it up. But, I just don't know what exactly to say to my mom. I don't want her being like NO! Should I say..I like someone? I'm interested? I don't know man I'm confused. Lol

[Sim]

Originally Posted by IbnMardhiyah

Get a mutual acquaintance [someone who knows both you and the guy] to mention him to your parents. Or have that person mention the guy to his / her parents, and then they mention or recommend that guy to your parents.

what he said.

but if the guy is old enough, just tell him to explain to his parents first and take it from there.

you dont really need to tell your parents anything yet, because its normally the guy who makes the first move. so he should tell his parents; and then somehow make contact with your parents.

[dumbum123]

Originally Posted by Sim

what he said.

but if the guy is old enough, just tell him to explain to his parents first and take it from there.

you dont really need to tell your parents anything yet, because its normally the guy who makes the first move. so he should tell his parents; and then somehow make contact with your parents.

Yeah I see that, but the thing is, he lives in a different state. Far from here...so how can I bring it up then? My parents don't even know him.

[shsh]

Salaam,
just be like, mom, there is a guy i am interested in. and he likes me back. i wanted to tell you before things go any further. and inshAllah your mom will understand. just ensure her that you wont do anything stupid and that if she gives you advice you will listen to her.

thats what i did. i told my mom that i like a guy and my mom was like, ok, we wil take a look, but you have to make a promise. i asked her what it was and she said that i had to promise that if my mom criticized the guy, i would actually look into that criticism because my parents would never want anything bad for me. Alhumdulillah, my mom hasnt criticized the guy. she even met him a few weeks ago.

so yeah. just make dua and inshAllah everything will work out.

[dumbum123]

Originally Posted by shsh

Salaam,
just be like, mom, there is a guy i am interested in. and he likes me back. i wanted to tell you before things go any further. and inshAllah your mom will understand. just ensure her that you wont do anything stupid and that if she gives you advice you will listen to her.

thats what i did. i told my mom that i like a guy and my mom was like, ok, we wil take a look, but you have to make a promise. i asked her what it was and she said that i had to promise that if my mom criticized the guy, i would actually look into that criticism because my parents would never want anything bad for me. Alhumdulillah, my mom hasnt criticized the guy. she even met him a few weeks ago.

so yeah. just make dua and inshAllah everything will work out.

That seems like a good idea. Thanks
So are you and that boy going to get engaged and stuff?

[shsh]

Originally Posted by dumbum123

That seems like a good idea. Thanks
So are you and that boy going to get engaged and stuff?

haha. no nothing right now. we are leaving it up to Allah (swt). if we are meant to be, then inshAllah it will happen. if not, Alhumdulillah.

plus my parents wont let me get married until i am done with college.

[amina9183]

have the guy speak to his parents first. then have them call your mom...when your mom mentions to you that someone called with a proposal say "i know " and then tell her youre interested in him as well. and if she says no, do what it takes to convince her.

one time, this boy wanted to come over, and my mom kept saying no because he's younger than me..but i liked him--cuz he was a hafiz..and we had lots of mutual friends and they all said hes super nice.. plus, it didnt bother me that he was younger than me. so i slept on the floor(theyre wooden) with no padding underneath(and i made sure she knew i was doing it to convince her) until my mom felt bad and agreed to let him come over it actually only took two days of sleeping on the floor. im a brat

insha Allah it works out for you