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Just say you like somebody and he (and his family?) want to meet them. The end.
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07-24-2008, 01:54 PM
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have the guy speak to his parents first. then have them call your mom...when your mom mentions to you that someone called with a proposal say "i know  " and then tell her youre interested in him as well. and if she says no, do what it takes to convince her.
one time, this boy wanted to come over, and my mom kept saying no because he's younger than me..but i liked him--cuz he was a hafiz..and we had lots of mutual friends and they all said hes super nice.. plus, it didnt bother me that he was younger than me. so i slept on the floor(theyre wooden) with no padding underneath(and i made sure she knew i was doing it to convince her) until my mom felt bad and agreed to let him come over it actually only took two days of sleeping on the floor. im a brat 
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See, that would work if my parents knew him. I am young, and my mom is gonna be like "I DONT KNOW YOU. WHY ARE YOU ASKING FOR A RISHTA!" Lmao. Really, she would do that. I know I'm going to have to break it down to her..somehow.
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07-24-2008, 01:55 PM
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See, that would work if my parents knew him. I am young, and my mom is gonna be like "I DONT KNOW YOU. WHY ARE YOU ASKING FOR A RISHTA!" Lmao. Really, she would do that. I know I'm going to have to break it down to her..somehow.
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How old are you?
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07-24-2008, 02:28 PM
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How old are you?
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17. And please don't criticize my age. It's not your problem |
07-24-2008, 02:48 PM
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Yeah I see that, but the thing is, he lives in a different state. Far from here...so how can I bring it up then? My parents don't even know him.
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And you're 17?
Please dont tell me you met over the Internet. If you met over the internet, get out. Now.
I suggest you block all contact with the boy, delete him from your facebook/ AIM/ IM lists and go cold turkey.
Its easy for guys to fake it.
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And you're 17?
Please dont tell me you met over the Internet. If you met over the internet, get out. Now.
I suggest you block all contact with the boy, delete him from your facebook/ AIM/ IM lists and go cold turkey.
Its easy for guys to fake it.
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07-24-2008, 11:07 PM
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How old is he? The most important thing is for his parents to take him seriously.
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07-25-2008, 04:32 AM
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17. And please don't criticize my age. It's not your problem |
Okay, I won't. If you're mature though, you'll just come right out and tell your parents.
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17. And please don't criticize my age. It's not your problem |
There's nothing wrong with being 17, but how did you meet someone out of state and get to know him enough that you'd like to marry him?
Anyway, are you planning to go to college? Your parents might be concerned that you will forego your education if you get married, so you ought to think about how you will assuage their fears. Also, how old is this guy? Can he support you? If he is also a student, then you will really need family support, so think about that as well. Good luck |
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There's nothing wrong with being 17, but how did you meet someone out of state and get to know him enough that you'd like to marry him?
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Thank you, this is what I was trying to get at.
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Okay, I won't. If you're mature though, you'll just come right out and tell your parents.
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Yeah, that's what I plan on doing hopefully. Now that I think about it... |
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There's nothing wrong with being 17, but how did you meet someone out of state and get to know him enough that you'd like to marry him?
Anyway, are you planning to go to college? Your parents might be concerned that you will forego your education if you get married, so you ought to think about how you will assuage their fears. Also, how old is this guy? Can he support you? If he is also a student, then you will really need family support, so think about that as well. Good luck
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Look, it's none of your business how old he is or any of the other stuff. I got that handled. I just want to know how I can break it down to my mom that's all. My mom isn't the type of woman who will be like "Oh your too young", because she wants me to get married at a young age. And now that I've found someone that I wanna get married too...I wanna tell my mom.
Everyone PLEASE STOP ASKING QUESTIONS THAT ARE NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. IM JUST ASKING FOR ADVICE SHEESH |
07-27-2008, 10:47 PM
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Look, it's none of your business how old he is or any of the other stuff. I got that handled. I just want to know how I can break it down to my mom that's all. My mom isn't the type of woman who will be like "Oh your too young", because she wants me to get married at a young age. And now that I've found someone that I wanna get married too...I wanna tell my mom.
Everyone PLEASE STOP ASKING QUESTIONS THAT ARE NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. IM JUST ASKING FOR ADVICE SHEESH
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You don't sound mature enough to get married.
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07-28-2008, 09:19 AM
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Everyone PLEASE STOP ASKING QUESTIONS THAT ARE NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. IM JUST ASKING FOR ADVICE SHEESH
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You made it our business when you asked for advice.
Question is, are you looking for advice you need to hear, or just advice you want to hear?
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marriage is the devil dont do it. shaadi hai barbaadi
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