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How to go about finding a mate
Salaams islamicans 
I was wondering how one should go about finding a mate. My mother wants me to wait till I'm done with college and then get married but she's not totally opposing me getting married now. But she really isn't looking for me, she said that I'll find my own mate, so with that being said how do I find one? And also, I moved to the country, and I truely doubt I'll find a mate here where I live, so I was looking for someone maybe in a different city or state for that matter. Have any of you gone through this? Share you experiences.
Thanks.
Side note: No one really knows me at the masjid that I'm currently attending for I just moved the the area like two weeks ago.
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07-14-2008, 07:19 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
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Salaams islamicans
I was wondering how one should go about finding a mate. My mother wants me to wait till I'm done with college and then get married but she's not totally opposing me getting married now. But she really isn't looking for me, she said that I'll find my own mate, so with that being said how do I find one? And also, I moved to the country, and I truely doubt I'll find a mate here where I live, so I was looking for someone maybe in a different city or state for that matter. Have any of you gone through this? Share you experiences.
Thanks.
Side note: No one really knows me at the masjid that I'm currently attending for I just moved the the area like two weeks ago. |
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07-14-2008, 07:21 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
there's only like one masjid in hagerstown right? the one with the imam (qasim burmi)'s house connected to it? off like day road or something?
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07-14-2008, 07:28 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
lol yes thats him
why derail this thread? Are you going to help me or what?
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07-14-2008, 07:30 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
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I really dont want to do the internet thing, I've just known people with bad experiences, and I would like for like a person I'm really familiar with who knows the brother, but even then some people can be nafaq and not show their evil side....
ahhh, but do you think the internet is a bad idea?
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07-14-2008, 07:37 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
All of life is a risk...have you read a book called 'The Risk Society' ?
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07-14-2008, 07:39 PM
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I really dont want to do the internet thing, I've just known people with bad experiences, and I would like for like a person I'm really familiar with who knows the brother, but even then some people can be nafaq and not show their evil side....
ahhh, but do you think the internet is a bad idea?
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Most of my married friends met their spouses online.
Use all the avenues at your disposal.
The internet is a tool, you just have to use it wisely.
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07-14-2008, 07:40 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
I think it should be something like "pin the tail on the donkey"
..except with people... and wedding rings
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No, I think it would make me feel even more skeptical about people and their motives... :/
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I think it should be something like "pin the tail on the donkey"
..except with people... and wedding rings
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lol, except we're not blindfolded. haha
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07-14-2008, 07:48 PM
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No, I think it would make me feel even more skeptical about people and their motives... :/
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you should be sceptical...just remember there are no guarantee's for relationships... |
07-14-2008, 08:11 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
Should try a bar.
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07-14-2008, 08:42 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
WHy not wait and move to a bigger community? If not then the Net is your only friend..that or the Aunty Rishta Network™
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07-14-2008, 09:14 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
get a mutual friend to introduce you 
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07-14-2008, 09:28 PM
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Re: How to go about finding a mate
Bake a bunch of brownies and hide a wedding ring in one of them. Shake up the container and wait outside the MSA hall for the brothers to leave. Once they start coming out, hold out the container and tell them to help themselves.
The one that chokes is your soul mate. 
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