[zeyneddine]

Originally Posted by Timbit

Funny thread.
'Cause I'm too young (haven't finished school) and my parents haven't started looking yet. Maybe in a couple of years.

But we're all gay. The real answer is 'cause all Allah hasn't willed it yet. Duh.

lets not divert into bland responses like "I'm too young", or "I havent found the right person" or "its destiny".
people get married at 15, and people dont get married at 35. No one knows what the "right" person is for you. And Allah wills it when you make the effort.

[infamousbrown]

I don't feel like I'm ready. There's so much I feel like I want to do before I take on that responsibility and dare I say it, burden.

[zeyneddine]

Originally Posted by infamousbrown

I don't feel like I'm ready. There's so much I feel like I want to do before I take on that responsibility and dare I say it, burden.

like clean your room?
i'll help you bro. then lets finish up marriage business.

[infamousbrown]

Originally Posted by zeyneddine

like clean your room?
i'll help you bro. then lets finish up marriage business.

Hahah I still haven't done that. My mom is getting really annoyed. She 'threatened' to clean it herself today but I told her I'd get around to it.


I think subconsciously I don't want to clean it up, because once that done I have no excuse!

[wheelworks]

Cause I'm not rich enuf (and don't have a degree)

[Bruinrab]

Because I've given up. I'm now actively trying to avoid finding myself hitched to a stranger.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Bruinrab

Because I've given up. I'm now actively trying to avoid finding myself hitched to a stranger.

Go invest in a fake large hairy mole and place it on your upper lip

(a fake peach fuzz mustache works too)

And then give a big grin take a picture and send it to the stranger

[CaptainHairyNeck]

Salaam

i think its stupid how these days you have to be graduated and with a job, AND enough money for a wife and 3 kids even before your considered. Its more like a friggin job application than getting married. If your ready I think the person should get married. In the olden days guys got married at like 16 now we're getting married at like 24+. I think its wrong and unnatural (no im not a vegetarian)

[Timbit]

Originally Posted by zeyneddine

lets not divert into bland responses like "I'm too young", or "I havent found the right person" or "its destiny".
people get married at 15, and people dont get married at 35. No one knows what the "right" person is for you. And Allah wills it when you make the effort.

Well, you might think they're bland responses but they're very true for most people. Islamically, a man has to be able to support himself and a wife financially before he gets married and it's simply not possible for a lot of college-going brothers.

My reason was that I'm too young. Yes, people get do married at 15, but that doesn't happen in my family. My parents have not started looking for me or even my older brother yet and that's 'cause we're both still in school. Personally, I think it's a good rule to wait till you're done school and have a job (for men 'cause like I said, Islamically, they kinda have to be able to support themselves and for women, I'm not a fan of them using their husbands as financial plans). Even if I didn't think it was a good rule, I'm not about to go and get myself married off without my parents' consent.

As for the "I haven't found the right person" yet: how's that a bland response? Do you think people should just get married to whoever they meet? The person does have to be compatible with you; you're gonna be spending your whole life with them.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Timbit

Well, you might think they're bland responses but they're very true for most people. Islamically, a man has to be able to support himself and a wife financially before he gets married and it's simply not possible for a lot of college-going brothers.

For some people who are too poor to get married, It is recommended that they get married, and once they do Allah gives them Rizq enough for both. I've hear plenty of stories to support it too donchaknow

For example: I know a guy with 9 kids. His rizq has actually increased with the arrival of each kid masha Allah

Of course it only works if you have enough trust in Allah in the first place (unless you take a gamble and Allah plants trust in your heart through your experience)...

[Glasgow]

I wouldn't wanna marry while studying... too many distractions

Any hooo cherish you bachelor years guys.. in your older years you will be like

"hmmm ... I could have done without her... for a little longer" lol

[Timbit]

Originally Posted by wheelworks

For some people who are too poor to get married, It is recommended that they get married, and once they do Allah gives them Rizq enough for both. I've hear plenty of stories to support it too donchaknow

For example: I know a guy with 9 kids. His rizq has actually increased with the arrival of each kid masha Allah

I've never heard of that being applied to marriage. Just kids once you're already married.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Timbit

I've never heard of that being applied to marriage. Just kids once you're already married.

There was a hadith about a guy who complained to the prophet that he was too poor to get married. The prophet told him to get married anyway. After awhile he told the prophet he was still poor. The prophet told him to take another wife. Again the man told the prophet he was still poor. The prophet told him to take a third wife and then the man's Rizq increased.

I was just paraphrasing from what I remember. Allahu A'lam

[sally]

cuz i joined islamica and it brainwashed me and now im too picky.



islamica = jews

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by sally

cuz i joined islamica and it brainwashed me and now im too picky.



islamica = jews

You've turned out aight considering the Islamica influence. A few screws just need a bit of fine tuning and you'll be the ideal muslimah