|
|
06-24-2008, 03:28 PM
|
 |
Oldest Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: May 2007
Posts: 6,230
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by farah
you mean when the patriarchy stabs you in the head?
|
Too many negative experiences huh 
__________________
  Great minds may think alike but brilliant minds think "different"
www.wheelworks.wordpress.com
“ Don’t judge the truth by people. First find the truth, then you will recognize its people.” - Imam Ali,
|
06-24-2008, 03:29 PM
|
 |
Resident Loser
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Sep 2004
Rating:
Posts: 5,674
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by wheelworks
Too many negative experiences huh
|
inside joke 
__________________
Ashhadu an la ilaha illa Allah, Astaghfirullah, As'aluka al-Jennata wa 'aoothu bika min an-nar
I testify there is no god but Allah, I seek Allah's forgiveness. I ask You for Paradise and I seek refuge in You from the Fire.
http://fny21.blogspot.com/ (Updated 8/2/08)
"Basketball is like religion: many attend, few understand."
|
06-24-2008, 03:33 PM
|
 |
Be Bold with Bananas
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Jan 2006
Rating:
Posts: 10,142
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by farah
i'm pretty sure that just means you're in love with the samosa waala...
|
what's not to love   |
06-24-2008, 03:35 PM
|
|
Oldest Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: May 2007
Posts: 6,230
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by farah
inside joke |
Oh .......
__________________
Great minds may think alike but brilliant minds think "different"
www.wheelworks.wordpress.com
“ Don’t judge the truth by people. First find the truth, then you will recognize its people.” - Imam Ali,
|
06-24-2008, 03:40 PM
|
 |
Senior Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Nov 2003
Rating:
Posts: 8,644
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
assalamu alaykum
(for me) A feeling of contentment, peace...as though no one else will suffice. Do you see goodness and sincerity in him? Do others? Would he be a good husband and father? Does he have a strong conscience(that he follows!)? Is he honest? Does he really listen, take things on board and continue doing x even when the hype is over?
It really depends what you want in a husband, make a list and see how many ticks he gets.Take some time out, maybe ask him a few more questions and then perform istikhara for a week. If you're not sure and are crying over it then maybe you just want to say yes because of the pressure and everything else thinks he's great?
Insha Allah khair
__________________
"Until you annihilate your selfish lower self of desires and lusts through strict and sincere mujahada [self disciplinary exercises], your heart will never become illuminated with the light of knowledge." - Imam Abu Hamid Al-Ghazli, Dear Beloved Son.
Help the GUANTANAMO BAY detainees
|
06-24-2008, 03:46 PM
|
 |
Senior Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Feb 2002
Rating:
Posts: 7,680
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by farah
you mean when the patriarchy stabs you in the head?
|
hahah. or clubs me in the head. or offers to pay my student loans in exchange for my (indefinite) laundry and cooking services. now thats lufffff.
..clap clap?
__________________
www.saalt.org
|
06-24-2008, 03:49 PM
|
 |
hope for hajj
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Oct 2003
Rating:
Posts: 241
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by serendipity_000
If I take my friend's word for it, when you meet the person you want to marry...doves will suddenly appear, you'll feel as if you're walking on a cloud and music (if its not haram for you) will follow you wherever you go...
So what if you don't feel that?
What are you supposed to feel? If you've prayed and been given the blessing of everyone from his parents to the family's talking parrot...
And for those who are married...what did you feel? Did you feel anything at all? Is it at all prudent to wait for "that feeling"
 |
i dont want to offend anyone or sound unmuslimy but when an overgarment no longer helped conceal her beauty i knew. |
06-24-2008, 03:52 PM
|
|
Resident Loser
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Sep 2004
Rating:
Posts: 5,674
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by qudsia
hahah. or clubs me in the head. or offers to pay my student loans in exchange for my (indefinite) laundry and cooking services. now thats lufffff.
..clap clap? |
sigh. true love is like paying for a maid... or feeling like one 
__________________
Ashhadu an la ilaha illa Allah, Astaghfirullah, As'aluka al-Jennata wa 'aoothu bika min an-nar
I testify there is no god but Allah, I seek Allah's forgiveness. I ask You for Paradise and I seek refuge in You from the Fire.
http://fny21.blogspot.com/ (Updated 8/2/08)
"Basketball is like religion: many attend, few understand."
|
06-24-2008, 04:21 PM
|
 |
Senior Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: May 2004
Rating:
Posts: 12,207
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by qudsia
when i can see myself doing the patriarchy dance, i know it's meant to be. |
sellout!
10 |
06-24-2008, 04:22 PM
|
 |
Senior Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Oct 2002
Rating:
Posts: 13,841
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by fatima
trust me, it does.
haha i sound all bitter...but im really talking about pizza, i swear!
|
In that case, you can send it over to me before then.  No pizza should ever go bad.
Quds: I knew you were embracing the patriarchy. Way to betray the cause, yaar.
__________________
And those who strive in Our (cause),- We will certainly guide them to our Paths: For verily Allah is with those who do right (Qur'an 29:69).
|
06-24-2008, 04:32 PM
|
|
Senior Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Feb 2002
Rating:
Posts: 7,680
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
haha...not selling out. ever.
i don't embrace...i negotiate 
__________________
www.saalt.org
|
06-24-2008, 04:56 PM
|
|
Senior Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Oct 2002
Rating:
Posts: 13,841
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by qudsia
haha...not selling out. ever.
i don't embrace...i negotiate |
I dunnnnooooo. We've been hearing a lot of that from you lately.
__________________
And those who strive in Our (cause),- We will certainly guide them to our Paths: For verily Allah is with those who do right (Qur'an 29:69).
|
06-24-2008, 05:06 PM
|
|
Senior Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Jan 2004
Posts: 4,883
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by Salika
I felt like it was easy. Usually when I saw suitors it was awkward or weird but with my husband now, it was just easy and I felt comfortable. I guess comfort or peace is what you should feel. I don't think you should feel doves right away, especially if you're doing it traditional style.
There's many doves now though
Alhamdulillah  |
I agree with Salika. My friend gave me that advice one time, that "you will know when you feel a sense of comfort." I thought my friend was just being too idealistic but she was right. You'll know what I'm talking about when you feel it inshallah 
Quote:
Originally Posted by iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu
I wouldn't know. I'm a failure at relationships and life in general.
...I think it's my beard...  |
Do I need to come over there and give you another talking-to?  |
06-24-2008, 05:26 PM
|
 |
Senior Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: Oct 2003
Posts: 7,230
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by dreamdeferred
A sense of impending doom  . |
hahahahah oh thank god I thought i was the only one. 
__________________
"If you seek happiness for yourself youll never find it,
Only when you seek happiness for others will it come to you"
|
06-24-2008, 05:32 PM
|
|
Oldest Member
Offline
|
|
Join Date: May 2007
Posts: 6,230
|
|
Re: What are you supposed to feel?
Quote:
Originally Posted by qudsia
haha...not selling out. ever.
i don't embrace...i negotiate |
When you feel you have to negotiate, then he's not the one
__________________
Great minds may think alike but brilliant minds think "different"
www.wheelworks.wordpress.com
“ Don’t judge the truth by people. First find the truth, then you will recognize its people.” - Imam Ali,
|
|
Pacman Champion!
