[ShahRukh]

What constitutes a damaged good?

More importantly, what do *you* consider a damaged good?


I think that concept strictly applies to women, if i'm not mistaken.

What are your thoughts about damaged goods?

And to the guys, would you marry one...?

[ShotgunMessiah]

I'm pretty sure it doesn't apply strictly to women.

But, if Allah can forgive, we should too.

[Glasgow]

"damaged goods" - tis quite crude.

I don't think I personally could marry a woman who had been with another man (in whatever circumstances). However, I also don't believe it is something to be looked down upon, if another brother chooses to do so.

[Timbit]

Well, I used to think I wouldn't marry anybody who had been sexually active before marriage, but you know what... as long as they're free of STIs, it doesn't matter. People change and what you did before marriage shouldn't really have any impact on the actual marriage.

[dreamingofbeards]

Genuinely offensive title of a thread, nonetheless:

As it applies to men, I'd honestly be quite wary of it, especially if it's in his recent past. I know "people change" but regardless of the situation, the past does have psychological affects on the future.

Someone who can't keep it in his pants before marriage may be impatient and impulsive about other things in life as well. It's an indication of a potential character flaw. That's essentially what I'd be concerned about, not solely the fact that he was "damaged."

Of course, it really depends on the specific person being considered. Perhaps he wasn't very religious at one point, but has consciously developed himself since then, etc. In which case, I wouldn't reject him outright.

[Jamroll]

lol, what a weird thread. I thought it was going to be a thread about a problem in returning faulty goods to a shop. I noticed it was in Love and Relationships so I came to move it to the appropriate forum. And now I find, it's a description of a woman?

Well, I don't think the term damaged goods only applies to women. I think men can be damaged goods too. I always thought it meant someone who is mentally unstable, or had some crap done to them, like an abusive relationship, but I'm not sure what the OP's definition of damaged goods is.

[Haramoobobi]

Originally Posted by dreamingofbeards

Genuinely offensive title of a thread, nonetheless:

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[shadha]

What happens in the past stays in the past.


shadha-

[vegetables]

i think that phrase is really offensive. everyone has their share of problems and may have done have done stuff in the past that they regret/have no control over. referring to them as damaged goods is a real **** thing to do. im sure you wouldn't like it if your mother or sister were referred to as damaged goods.

thats what i think...

[Jamroll]

Everyone seems to be understanding the term "damaged goods" differently from what I had thought it was.

Urban dictionary (that bastion of scholarly knowledge) defines it as:

1. DAMAGED GOODS 156 up, 16 down

1) Item/s that were expected to be in good (if not brand new) condition, but were discovered eventually that they weren't.

2)Someone who was once healthy and/or normal but isn't anymore due to unfortunate, traumatic events in his/her life (i.e. physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, drug abuse...u get it).

So, what I'm wondering is, what is everyone else in this thread talking about?

[ShotgunMessiah]

Originally Posted by Jamroll

Everyone seems to be understanding the term "damaged goods" differently from what I had thought it was.

Urban dictionary (that bastion of scholarly knowledge) defines it as:



So, what I'm wondering is, what is everyone else in this thread talking about?

If you're serious...

Maybe it's just a US term, I don't know. But when someone is "damaged goods," they have "been around the block" enough times to be considered somewhat off-limits.

Generally it's a term you would use to describe a girl who was particularly promiscuous in her youth, wants to settle down now but can't because her reputation of getting around has earned her the title of "damaged goods."

Although the term could be used for a guy as well.

I'd consider rampant drug/alcohool abuse also sufficient to earn the title.

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

unfortunately theres a huuge double standards. Plenty of guys get around and then settle down with nice virgin girls..

..It's a completely different story if it's the girl who's "experienced" though

[ShotgunMessiah]

Originally Posted by iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu

unfortunately theres a huuge double standards. Plenty of guys get around and then settle down with nice virgin girls..

..It's a completely different story if it's the girl who's "experienced" though

I don't know why anyone would want to be "experienced." It's not exactly a medal of honor.

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

Originally Posted by ShotgunMessiah

I don't know why anyone would want to be "experienced." It's not exactly a medal of honor.

I was just trying to find a nice word to use for it... lol

[Jamroll]

Originally Posted by ShotgunMessiah

If you're serious...

Maybe it's just a US term, I don't know. But when someone is "damaged goods," they have "been around the block" enough times to be considered somewhat off-limits.

Generally it's a term you would use to describe a girl who was particularly promiscuous in her youth, wants to settle down now but can't because her reputation of getting around has earned her the title of "damaged goods."

Although the term could be used for a guy as well.

I'd consider rampant drug/alcohool abuse also sufficient to earn the title.

I get ya. So if a girl is like a ho or has been a ho, she's damaged goods, but a guy is a stud.