[Whatyosayin]

So, my friend got married recently. I was happy for her and threw her a bridal shower - I even spent $700 of my own money paying for everyone in the restaurant and for gifts. She thanked me in a fb note but then deleted it soon after she got married. She didnt mention the bridal shower or even thank me in her wedding speech. She then moved away to live with her husband. When she came back a month later to visit she didnt even call me for a week. I CALLED HER. When I asked her what happened and what shes been up to, she said, "Oh Ive been doing nothing all week". YET SHE COULDNT CALL ME. The ONLY FRIEND who even bothered to throw her a bridal shower. In the same phone call, she goes on to say, "Everyone our age is married, except you, *******, ******* and ******. I mentioned some others who arent married, and she said, "Oh, they arent in our circle." How many people are even IN our circle?? Then she goes on to say, "Well, there is a time for everyone!". I kept it cool and said to make dua. I wanted to ***** her out badly, but I instead acted like her words didnt make me angry. I didnt want to stoop to her level of arrogance. All she says to me is, "I'm so happy! Im so in love!". I should also note that she lived with her husband and spent many vacations with him before they got married. I for one, do not want to marry in sin! I would be happy for her if she wasnt such a *****, but I am really tempted to post this note on my facebook so people can see what a ***** she really is. Am I overeacting, or do you people think I have a right to be angry?

[Aryan_]

You should get a blog.

[Whatyosayin]

Originally Posted by Aryan_

You should get a blog.

I prefer Islamica.

[skamed]

Originally Posted by Whatyosayin

So, my friend got married recently. I was happy for her and threw her a bridal shower - I even spent $700 of my own money paying for everyone in the restaurant and for gifts. She thanked me in a fb note but then deleted it soon after she got married. She didnt mention the bridal shower or even thank me in her wedding speech. She then moved away to Atlanta to live with her husband. When she came back a month later to visit she didnt even call me for a week. I CALLED HER. When I asked her what happened and what shes been up to, she said, "Oh Ive been doing nothing all week". YET SHE COULDNT CALL ME. The ONLY FRIEND who even bothered to throw her a bridal shower. In the same phone call, she goes on to say, "Everyone our age is married, except you, *******, ******* and ******. I mentioned some others who arent married, and she said, "Oh, they arent in our circle." How many people are even IN our circle?? Then she goes on to say, "Well, there is a time for everyone!". I kept it cool and said to make dua. I wanted to ***** her out badly, but I instead acted like her words didnt make me angry. I didnt want to stoop to her level of arrogance. All she says to me is, "I'm so happy! Im so in love!". I should also note that she lived with her husband and spent many vacations with him before they got married. I for one, do not want to marry in sin! I would be happy for her if she wasnt such a *****, but I am really tempted to post this note on my facebook so people can see what a ***** she really is. Am I overeacting, or do you people think I have a right to be angry?

Your response/reaction should not be disproportionate. If you call her out in public like that, it will be worse than what she did to you. Also, your response/reaction should be just. You shouldnt answer injustice with another injustice.

Or how about make dua for her instead of being angry.

P.S. You shouldnt act based on assumptions in lieu of facts. There may be reasons for what happened or maybe she just forgot or was absentminded. Thats not the same as being malicious.

[LEGALEAGLE]

Originally Posted by skamed

Your response/reaction should not be disproportionate. If you call her out in public like that, it will be worse than what she did to you. Also, your response/reaction should be just. You shouldnt answer injustice with another injustice.

Or how about make dua for her instead of being angry.

how about she just gets it out of her system..all of this piety is soooo boring...

[skamed]

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

how about she just gets it out of her system..all of this piety is soooo boring...

She should get it out of her system in a just manner

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

You might be overreacting... I mean what do you want? a thank you party? it'd be nice if she were more grateful but theres no reason to make her sins public knowledge.

If she's really that bad then just distance yourself from her, you did a nice thing and your reward will be with Allah SWT

[Abu_Hind]

I think you're just bitter that you're not married.

[IbnMardhiyah]

Just let it slide. You win some, you lose some.

Some people just turn out to be losers.

[LEGALEAGLE]

basically you got shafted...that always happens to good people...its pretty common...next time don't try to be so good...

and always remember that the only person a woman wants to be better than herself is her daughter...

your friend is in self-righteous mode...she seems to be attacking your self-confidence and esteem after you've supported hers...do you owe her anything ? then ?

[displaced]

I think you have every right to be angry. but screw her, move on.

[Jamroll]

Originally Posted by Whatyosayin

So, my friend got married recently. I was happy for her and threw her a bridal shower - I even spent $700 of my own money paying for everyone in the restaurant and for gifts. She thanked me in a fb note but then deleted it soon after she got married. She didnt mention the bridal shower or even thank me in her wedding speech. She then moved away to Atlanta to live with her husband. When she came back a month later to visit she didnt even call me for a week. I CALLED HER. When I asked her what happened and what shes been up to, she said, "Oh Ive been doing nothing all week". YET SHE COULDNT CALL ME. The ONLY FRIEND who even bothered to throw her a bridal shower. In the same phone call, she goes on to say, "Everyone our age is married, except you, *******, ******* and ******. I mentioned some others who arent married, and she said, "Oh, they arent in our circle." How many people are even IN our circle?? Then she goes on to say, "Well, there is a time for everyone!". I kept it cool and said to make dua. I wanted to ***** her out badly, but I instead acted like her words didnt make me angry. I didnt want to stoop to her level of arrogance. All she says to me is, "I'm so happy! Im so in love!". I should also note that she lived with her husband and spent many vacations with him before they got married. I for one, do not want to marry in sin! I would be happy for her if she wasnt such a *****, but I am really tempted to post this note on my facebook so people can see what a ***** she really is. Am I overeacting, or do you people think I have a right to be angry?

I think you are crazy, and probably need someone who is qualified to talk about your issues. All the best, thanks.

[sally]

basically you're trying to channel anger from feeling unappreciated and disrespected by contemplating the announcement of her sins to the entire world?

this should hopefully sound really messed up to you. if not, i don't know what to tell you.

crap happens. it's life. tell her how you've felt. if she does something about it, great. if not, move on with your life. there's really no need to be a baby about this and use information you know about her for a purpose no greater than feeling temporary self fulfillment. in a short time you'll be back to feeling angry anyway.

consider a walk in the park

[afzalaung]

why must ppl make it seem like marriage is everything.:S
how can people live with a same person intimately for the rest of their lives!
love can wear out over time. its better to marry out of duty.

anyway...
given the situation...i think u're just being emotional at the moment. I know it sucks when close friends gets all b**chy. perhaps u should lay it off, go for a walk or get ur mind off the mater.and when u come back, u will fine it less annoying.

I believe she was just in the 'honey moon' period.overdose of love. eventually she will see the other side of marriage.
HEY! if she's a friend u are willng to spend $700 on, i'm sure u 2 are extremely close. Close friends are hard to breakup- eventhough there will be minor frictions over time. when this 'episode's over u guys will be back to normal.

[sally]

where's caramel candy? i need for her to yell at this chick for spending $700 on a bridal shower.