Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be angry?

jinnzaman · #46 (**permalink**) 05-14-2008, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

as emo as men can be, I'm glad you're a man too. We dont' need any more emo women. thanks.

Emoness is an extra quality in men, but its an inherent quality within women.

Also, most men don't cry like a bunch of babies any time happens.

Men rule > women drool (literally. out of their eyes. its totally disgusting. example:

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jinnzaman · #47 (**permalink**) 05-14-2008, 09:46 AM

See, your mistake was letting the perfect opportunity to tell her how you feel pass you by. What you should have done is gone to her wedding dressed up like a 19th century feudal landlord from the Punjab, kicked the doors open with your elf-shoes, raised your rifle in the air while stomping your feet on the ground and shouting, in a terrifyingly raspy voice 'YEH SHAADI NAHI HO SAAKTA!" and then proceed to stroke your handlebar mustache.

This is the solution to most of life's problems.

m_ali_qazi · #48 (**permalink**) 05-14-2008, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Whatyosayin

So, my friend got married recently. I was happy for her and threw her a bridal shower - I even spent $700 of my own money paying for everyone in the restaurant and for gifts. She thanked me in a fb note but then deleted it soon after she got married. She didnt mention the bridal shower or even thank me in her wedding speech. She then moved away to Atlanta to live with her husband. When she came back a month later to visit she didnt even call me for a week. I CALLED HER. When I asked her what happened and what shes been up to, she said, "Oh Ive been doing nothing all week". YET SHE COULDNT CALL ME. The ONLY FRIEND who even bothered to throw her a bridal shower. In the same phone call, she goes on to say, "Everyone our age is married, except you, *******, ******* and ******. I mentioned some others who arent married, and she said, "Oh, they arent in our circle." How many people are even IN our circle?? Then she goes on to say, "Well, there is a time for everyone!". I kept it cool and said to make dua. I wanted to ***** her out badly, but I instead acted like her words didnt make me angry. I didnt want to stoop to her level of arrogance. All she says to me is, "I'm so happy! Im so in love!". I should also note that she lived with her husband and spent many vacations with him before they got married. I for one, do not want to marry in sin! I would be happy for her if she wasnt such a *****, but I am really tempted to post this note on my facebook so people can see what a ***** she really is. Am I overeacting, or do you people think I have a right to be angry?

Its never too late to tell someone off

eventhough it'll make you look stupid, but imagine how good it'll feel

Whatyosayin · #49 (**permalink**) 05-14-2008, 01:05 PM

Salaams,

Thanks all for the advice. It really made me realise that what I felt all along is true.
I would tell myself, that Allah swt will take care of it. I guess I needed to hear it from others also, because at times I dont hear the type of religious uplifting advice I want to hear. And Insha'Allah I can control my own arrogance so as not to hurt others as well.

Bruinrab, that was an interesting anecdote you gave. I guess we all do assume and expect Allah swt to create us equally and provide for us equally. When He doesnt, that is the real test. How well do we accept our blessings and harness it for good, and how do we accept misgivings or rude/unfair behaviour from others? I guess we always need to keep ourselves in check.

Wasalaam

Raeesa · #50 (**permalink**) 05-14-2008, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by jinnzaman

See, your mistake was letting the perfect opportunity to tell her how you feel pass you by. What you should have done is gone to her wedding dressed up like a 19th century feudal landlord from the Punjab, kicked the doors open with your elf-shoes, raised your rifle in the air while stomping your feet on the ground and shouting, in a terrifyingly raspy voice 'YEH SHAADI NAHI HO SAAKTA!" and then proceed to stroke your handlebar mustache.

This is the solution to most of life's problems.

omg this is toooo funny!!

err watusayin seems like its out of yr system now

move on with yr life and just walk away.. my answer to everythin

LEGALEAGLE · #51 (**permalink**) 05-14-2008, 07:13 PM

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Yes....I think that too now....no point in being good....you will just get trampled on....

So true....some friends really care but I should have known she would not have been one of them. Shes been in undergrad for 10 years yet married a PhD. And trashes people who got into law school because "its out of the province, she couldnt get into a school closeby". Hey, the girl is still in law school, and you arent! Or, if some girl gets into her masters, its "well its ARTS, she couldnt do science!"

Ive also heard her say, "When I get into dentistry (which she didnt), I will rub it up everyones noses!" So I should not be so surprised with her attitude. Some people are never friends, they are just oppurtunists.

To the person who said I am just bitter because I am not married, that is not true. Why must everything be defined by marriage? Typical desi mentality. I believe that Allah swt does not want me to get married now because He does not want me to have an atom's ounce of arrogance. I think when it happens, it will be just right, insha'Allah. I am angry, but not for those reasons. I am angry because of the comments she made, she was TRYING to scathe me to make herself feel better. Even if I never competed against her, she was always competing against me. Some people will trash others if they are up, or if they are down, just for the sake of massaging their own egos.

And to the person who wanted to yell at me for spending $700 on the bridal shower, yes, please do!! That was a HUGE mistake!! It wasnt planned that way. We were at the restaurant which was super expensive, and the waiter, who happened to be from my ethnic background, said "If I want to hold my head up high, and I want my friends to return the favor, then I should pay for everyone." Also, some of her coworkers left without paying when they should have.

I probably will not post any kind of inflammatory note on FB. Really, I do not like bad karma, but it seems to come way anyways.

From now on, I am going to be super *****.

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Jaysh? Sixpak? I think its too much for Jamroll

Would it help if I said Gold Digger !

Whatyosayin · #52 (**permalink**) 05-17-2008, 10:05 AM

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Would it help if I said Gold Digger !

Totally helps!

When explaining why her husband fell for her, her response was, "Its all about looks!"

IbnMardhiyah · #53 (**permalink**) 05-17-2008, 10:16 AM

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Totally helps!

When explaining why her husband fell for her, her response was, "Its all about looks!"

Girls like that usually end up really desperate to maintain the facade of beauty that's only skin-deep.

Pretty soon their diet consists more of Botox and Restylane than food or water.

ChotooMotoo · #54 (**permalink**) 05-17-2008, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by IbnMardhiyah

Girls like that usually end up really desperate to maintain the facade of beauty that's only skin-deep.

Pretty soon their diet consists more of Botox and Restylane than food or water.

Eh, men are weak, and pretty lazy (for the most part) so even if she looses her bloom over the years, they still aren't likely to seek milk from another cow as long as she's still providing.

EDIT: I'm not trying to denegrate women. Just thinking of that old adage "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"