[Hanbali]

Salam. I plan on asking whoever I marry to sign a prenuptial agreement. How many sisters here would sign it, how many would be offended by this, and how many would think no issue of it.

Please disregard the fact that it is I, the male chauvinist pig, who is posting this thread. Imagine it is Rambo.

[Raeesa]

can we ask the same to the brothers.. although islamically women own theyre wealth, in british law at least the husband is able to take her a share of her property, wealth and investments. I wonder how many brothers would sign a prenup especially when there are smart, working women out there who r pretty well off..?

[Hanbali]

Originally Posted by Raeesa

can we ask the same to the brothers.. although islamically women own theyre wealth, in british law at least the husband is able to take her a share of her property, wealth and investments. I wonder how many brothers would sign a prenup especially when there are smart, working women out there who r pretty well off..?

Well, I would never marry someone smarter than me (as if such a girl exists), nor would I marry someone who makes more money than me. I think money is power, and when a girl knows she makes more money than you, then she would abuse this in a way against the laws of Islam. Women nowadays are rebellious enough, even without having more money than the husband...one can only imagine those women that wear the pants in the relationship.

So to answer your question, I would never marry such a woman to begin with.

I like the idea of us ugly nerds marrying hot women. We got the brains/money, they got the trophy wife looks. Perfect balance.

[PhDGirl]

My accountant wanted me to get a prenup before we got married, but I'm not into that so I never mentioned it to the husband. We also didn't have a really long and involved nikkah contract. We just used the standard one the masjid provides.

Given this:

Originally Posted by Hanbali

Well, I would never marry someone smarter than me (as if such a girl exists), nor would I marry someone who makes more money than me. I think money is power, and when a girl knows she makes more money than you, then she would abuse this in a way against the laws of Islam. Women nowadays are rebellious enough, even without having more money than the husband...one can only imagine those women that wear the pants in the relationship.

So to answer your question, I would never marry such a woman to begin with.

I like the idea of us ugly nerds marrying hot women. We got the brains/money, they got the trophy wife looks. Perfect balance.

I hope your future wife refuses to sign.

[Hanbali]

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

My accountant wanted me to get a prenup before we got married, but I'm not into that so I never mentioned it to the husband. We also didn't have a really long and involved nikkah contract. We just used the standard one the masjid provides.

Given this:



I hope your future wife refuses to sign.

On a serious and unbiased note, don't you think that women nowadays are disobedient and rebellious to their husbands?

Again, try not to let your opinion be affected by the fact that it is I who asked this.

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by Hanbali

On a serious and unbiased note, don't you think that women nowadays are disobedient and rebellious to their husbands?

Again, try not to let your opinion be affected by the fact that it is I who asked this.

I think you are viewing the marital relationship like a parent-child one. Do you expect to give your wife orders the way that your chief resident will do to you when you're an intern?

[Jamroll]

Originally Posted by Hanbali

I like the idea of us ugly nerds marrying hot women. We got the brains/money, they got the trophy wife looks. Perfect balance.

I second this motion. For too long we have toiled away being the CPU of the human race. It's about time us nerds who are aesthetically challenged get what's due to us.

[ShotgunMessiah]

Originally Posted by Hanbali

On a serious and unbiased note, don't you think that women nowadays are disobedient and rebellious to their husbands?

Again, try not to let your opinion be affected by the fact that it is I who asked this.

I don't think "rebellious" is the correct word to use, necessarily.

I think women nowadays are looking out for themselves more than historically, which I see as a good thing. It makes them less reliant on the husband, and in an era with divorce rates so high they need to be as independant as they can. If they can get a higher education and get a great job, more power to them.

If you're referring to something else, something that I might constitute as "rebellious" where she puts herself ahead of the household or "disobedient" where she refuses to handle her duties, well... I just don't see it. That's my experience, anyway.

[Jamroll]

Originally Posted by Hanbali

On a serious and unbiased note, don't you think that women nowadays are disobedient and rebellious to their husbands?

Again, try not to let your opinion be affected by the fact that it is I who asked this.

They are confused and trying to do too much at once. This leads to chaos in their minds. It is not their fault. Don't blame them, help them.

Have you ever seen this show called Super Nanny?

In that show, the child is not punished, but given guidance and boundaries. There is one method called the Naughty Step, where the child is given a timeout if it misbehaves. It is not demeaning, but reinforces boundaries for the child. Everyone needs boundaries in some shape or form. I don't see why this should be limited to children. I think this could work with other family members, including the wife.

Naughty Step could revolutionise the way we interact with others, because it doesn't punish or demean, but corrects bad behaviour.

[Hanbali]

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

I think you are viewing the marital relationship like a parent-child one. Do you expect to give your wife orders the way that your chief resident will do to you when you're an intern?

Do you think that the marriage relationship is between two parties that are equal in degree without any one of them being the leader of the other one?

[PhDGirl]

Oh good, this post has brought out the sexist "jokes"! Oh well, typical I suppose.

Hanbali, perhaps you should visit some remote villages in Pakistan to find a bride before you come back home.

[Hanbali]

And the analogy I'd go with is not an attending vs intern, but rather a benevolent king married to a princess.

[Hanbali]

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

Oh good, this post has brought out the sexist "jokes"! Oh well, typical I suppose.

I am not making a "sexist joke". I am asking you a serious question. Do you think that marriage is between two people of an equal degree? Please answer the question.

[Jamroll]

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

Hanbali, perhaps you should visit some remote villages in Pakistan to find a bride before you come back home.

I agree with this. But a village isn't necessary. A town would probably work aswell.

I do agree with you though. The girls from "back home" have a different mindset and set of expectations from a girl who's been raised in the West. One is not better than the other. They're just different.

[Hanbali]

Originally Posted by Jamroll

I agree with this. But a village isn't necessary. A town would probably work aswell.

I do agree with you though. The girls from "back home" have a different mindset and set of expectations from a girl who's been raised in the West. One is not better than the other. They're just different.

Jam, how could be a disobedient wife be equal to an obedient one?