Sisters, would you sign a prenuptial agreement?

Hanbali · #76 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 01:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Haramoobobi

Let's recount all the threads I pwnd you in, shall we, oh dear brother in Islam?

Are we playing make believe again? Can I play?

Bluestar · #77 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 02:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Laimuun

I didn't sign a prenup.. my husband didn't ask me too.

I wouldn't have really had a problem signing one if he did, depending on what it stated. I really don't think 50-50 is unfair if both parties work and contribute to bills, etc.

since I have worked and will work again once I'm done with school and will contribute towards house payments, car payments, etc, why wouldn't I get half if (God forbid) we were to split up? I wouldn't be trying to "be greedy" and get half of his money, I'd be making sure I got my share in what we owned and earned together. a woman has to look out for herself too.

I understand that if only the husband is working, then 50/50 isn't really a fair split. but that's between the couple to decide.

and I really don't know why guys paint women as greedy, money grubbing hos. I've only ever known of one case where the woman took her husband to the cleaners when divorcing.. but in her case, it was a bit understandable because (not to go into details) of his behavior toward her while they were married.

You would only get half if you claimed that you had an equitable interest in it. If you were paying to run the house, that would not be considered as an equitable interest, if you had proof of paying towards the mortgage or something that increases the house's value, then you could get half of it. but inshallah it won't come to that

(american law might be different)

personally i would deliberately dodge the pre-nup. "sorry honey, i have a headache today", "i tripped over my toe and hurt my knee", "got the runs

". Then 2 weeks later, i'd be like "see ya" and bask in the gloriness of scamming people. Imagine how much someone can make just by doing that? Wicked.

Obviously in reality, things would be different. I'd trust the person i was marrying so it wouldn't be necessary. If he felt it was, i'd raise the dowry to cover living expenses for 6 months. In the event of divorce, i'd have enough to rebuild my life. Realistically, i don't think i'm the marriage type, i think it's going to be lots of travel for me.

LEGALEAGLE · #78 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 04:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Bluestar

You would only get half if you claimed that you had an equitable interest in it. If you were paying to run the house, that would not be considered as an equitable interest, if you had proof of paying towards the mortgage or something that increases the house's value, then you could get half of it. but inshallah it won't come to that

(american law might be different)

eg decorating the house...

Bluestar · #79 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 05:14 AM

yup, or if you had kids and you were looking after them because they're his kids as well, you're allowing him to have the opportunity to go to work and pay the mortgage/maintenance of the house.

LEGALEAGLE · #80 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 05:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Bluestar

yup, or if you had kids and you were looking after them because they're his kids as well, you're allowing him to have the opportunity to go to work and pay the mortgage/maintenance of the house.

and for extra brownie points whats the formula used to calculate ancillary matters ?...

i've forgotten it..been few years since i did any family...

Bluestar · #81 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 06:36 AM

i don't work for brownie points and i'm not a lawyer. I....(fobby accent) want to have a degree in lyphe

psychoteddybear · #82 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 11:21 AM

If I had a significant amount of assets, yes sure I would. I might be in love, but I'm realistic.

Revert · #83 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by psychoteddybear

If I had a significant amount of assets, yes sure I would. I might be in love, but I'm realistic.

Thats a great point, if you have nothing then I don't think theres a need to do a pre nup.

iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu · #84 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 03:12 PM

can't you just put that stuff in the marriage contract? is it necessary to have an additional contract made up?

sumiyia · #85 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu

can't you just put that stuff in the marriage contract? is it necessary to have an additional contract made up?

thats the thought i keep coming down to...

ChotooMotoo · #86 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 06:08 PM

Wow, some people don't want wives, they want slaves with "benefits".

Spice · #87 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 06:48 PM

Gotfiveonits in the making.

Haramoobobi · #88 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Hanbali

Are we playing make believe again? Can I play?

We dream a dream
Of dark or light
Of kin and friends
Water or flight
A question though
In all actuality
If we were a dream
Would we dream reality?

Raeesa · #89 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 05:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

Wow, some people don't want wives, they want slaves with "benefits".

Yup, that sums up a lot of attitudes in this thread...

Although I think a lot of it is to do with most of the brothers here not actually being married yet.

I think the other q is if you asked for a prenup would it make your relationship with him and his family even more difficult.. which is probably the case, and if your trying to just fit in and get to know someone then that xtra stress can be overwhelming.

Lastly, whose ever had a prenup here and had to use it?

Glasgow · #90 (**permalink**) 05-11-2008, 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Raeesa

Although I think a lot of it is to do with most of the brothers here not actually being married yet.

No. It's more to do with a lot of Desi guys wanting a wife who is easy to command, because of their own insecurities. What a boring existence. Where's the fun in being married to a "yes dear/no dear" wife?