[sally]

Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

i wont be making dinner or breakfast very often either way

ws

yeah... you'll be spending your days doing the 9-5. stuck in rush hour and paying bills. so would you stop that?

[MossadConspiracy]

more like 5-9

and no i wont quit my job if my wife was mad at me (assuming i finish school and residency, get married, etc)

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by sally

yeah... you'll be spending your days doing the 9-5. stuck in rush hour and paying bills. so would you stop that?

That's not really a good analogy. It's not logical for someone to stop outside responsibilities because of a spousal disagreement. I mean, if I'm annoyed at Mr. PhDGirl, am I going to stop working on my dissertation? No, because that's stupid. I think the question is more about how vindictive people are in their relationships. It's hard to really know how you'll handle things until you're actually living with the person.

[sally]

Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

more like 5-9

and no i wont quit my job if my wife was mad at me

5 am to 9 pm? tough life

it wasn't really related to your job though... i only said that because you brought up making breakfast, etc. it was more like, what would you do if your wife cursed you or your parents out, God forbid?

i only ask because it is more than often much, much more acceptable by society if a husband is harsh to his wife or says stuff about her parents than the other way around. obviously cursing people out is wrong no matter who does it but it's interesting to me how at least desis look at it. because the guy doesnt even have to deal with his wifes parents that much.. she's usually the one who has to associate with his family more.

[MossadConspiracy]

Originally Posted by sally

5 am to 9 pm? tough life

it wasn't really related to your job though... i only said that because you brought up making breakfast, etc. it was more like, what would you do if your wife cursed you or your parents out, God forbid?

i only ask because it is more than often much, much more acceptable by society if a husband is harsh to his wife or says stuff about her parents than the other way around. obviously cursing people out is wrong no matter who does it but it's interesting to me how at least desis look at it. because the guy doesnt even have to deal with his wifes parents that much.. she's usually the one who has to associate with his family more.

if my wife cursed out my parents i would either divorce her on the spot or make sure she begs them for forgiveness before i forgive her. Depends on the nature of the stuff she says to my parents.

I wouldnt make breakfast for her or whatever the male equivalent is.

i doubt something like this will ever happen

ws

[vegetables]

Originally Posted by sally

i'd be really interested in hearing guys' responses on the same issue..tables turned and all.

i think it would be pretty mean to ignore each other to the point where the other person may feel neglected. i have no experience here but that sounds like it would just build up resentment. what better way to reconcile over some kebabs

[displaced]

okay..I don't care if I come off as vindictive or not the bigger person.

I wouldn't make meals. if my husband hurts my feelings, I'm not going to cook for him. he has two hands and is perfectly capable of doing it himself.

[TrentReznor858]

Originally Posted by shadha

I think the question should go more along the lines of: If you ever get into a major argument/fight with your spouse, and you're not talking, would you still roll over when he taps your shoulder?
Go for it Shah.

shadha-

Must Spread Rep

Originally Posted by ShahRukh

I was trying to draw a correlation b/w black women being rebellious and high divorce rates...

Black men are clearly not angels either...their promiscous behaviour is a huge part of the problem.

That doesnt mean you arent being racist you idiot.

[ShotgunMessiah]

Originally Posted by sally

i'd be really interested in hearing guys' responses on the same issue..tables turned and all.

I presently do the dishes, laundry, work, and pay every bill. I wouldn't stop doing any of that if my wife were mad at me, because there would be pretty severe repercussions if I stopped any.

If she stopped cooking for me, I'd just go hungry that night until I bought breakfast at work the next day. I wouldn't really care in the end.

[raatkirani2005]

Originally Posted by ShahRukh

To the single ladies:

If you ever get into a major argument/fight with your spouse, and you're not talking, would you still make him breakfast/lunch or prepare dinner for him, and do other favours, even though you're despising each other atm..?


To the married girls here, how have you dealt with spouses in such situations?

I have never nor would I ever not cook for my husband. We've had plenty of major fights, but there's always been food on the table for him. If it's a regular falling out over something that will eventually smooth over, I continue as is. As a matter of fact, I'll make him laugh by asking him as he's taking the first bite, "how do you know I didn't poison your food?" Witholding food is not an effective tactic, and it comes across as slightly immature.

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by ShahRukh

I was trying to draw a correlation b/w black women being rebellious and high divorce rates...

Black men are clearly not angels either...their promiscous behaviour is a huge part of the problem.

Dont be so sterotypical...its not cool.

and to answer your question...It totally depends on what me and my {supposed) husband are fighting about, ...if its over something like he didnt take my side aganist a family member i would be more inclined to cook him dinner as opposed to a fight where he cursed my parents. ( hypothetically speaking of course).

Originally Posted by raatkirani2005

I have never nor would I ever not cook for my husband. We've had plenty of major fights, but there's always been food on the table for him. If it's a regular falling out over something that will eventually smooth over, I continue as is. As a matter of fact, I'll make him laugh by asking him as he's taking the first bite, "how do you know I didn't poison your food?" Witholding food is not an effective tactic, and it comes across as slightly immature.

it also immature to worry about a cooked meal, above making sure the argument is resolved with your wife.

[shadha]

trent: Must Spread Rep

Lol, seriously though.


shadha-

[Asvi]

Usually are fights are resolved by the end of night. so there's always food for breakfast.

[shadha]

I don't know. When I cook, I put my all into it. I'm cooking for their enjoyment, so if he ticked me off, I am not going to be inclined to share my all with him at that moment. I don't believe in serving a ****ty dish as retaliation. Either I cook and put my all into it or I don't cook at all. If he ticks me off, he's going to have to fend for himself. Sorry, but fending for himself won't kill him.


shadha-

[Pushpa]

Originally Posted by shadha

Shah: If you ever get into a major argument/fight with your spouse, and you're not talking, would you still make him breakfast/lunch or prepare dinner for him, and do other favours, even though you're despising each other atm..?

I think the question should go more along the lines of: If you ever get into a major argument/fight with your spouse, and you're not talking, would you still roll over when he taps your shoulder?

Go for it Shah.