[Bruinrab]

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

Whats wrong with living with in-laws ? Indian movies do show some of the reality of Indian culture eg In-laws being mean to d-in-laws because of high dowry expectations

But they also show that the marriages which survive are beautiful. Don't you aspire to that ? Husband goes off to work wearing his great suit, wife stays at home making sabji, beautiful kids etc...Isn't that something we should all aspire to ?

Besides whats wrong with singing ? How many girls would turn down a guy who could sing them a romantic song ? and could dance a little too ?

And they do show the reality that Indian family's can be tetchy when it comes to their childrens marriages. Whats wrong with them wanting the best for their daughters ? You think 24 year old indian girls know what they want ?

What do you mean ? and if some guy doesn't like her eyes then he should lower his gaze.

And why are you picking on her ? She's only saying what she feels

OK, where to begin?!

Living with in-laws: ask any girl around here how she feels about living with her in-laws and see how much enthusiasm that generates. Heck, ask Revert.

Beautiful marriages: My parents have a beautiful marriage. Admittedly, my mother is an excellent cook, who produced beautiful kids. However, sitting at home making kebabs is not my idea of a good time. Any guy who has issues with that needs to grow a pair.

Song and dance? Thanks, I'll leave that to the experts. At least they have some talent.

Tetchy parents: OK, young adults may not have as much experience as their elders. However, that doesn't mean that their opinions have to shoved down our throats either.

Re: Mallicka's eyes: please don't lower your gaze.

Originally Posted by lol_lol

whats your problem ? I just like indian movies why are you getting so mad ?
just because i think mallika sherwat is a great role model for women i'm not saying you have to be like her but she really has made it in a male industry.
shes really changed the dialectic,her presence has radically altered the power relations / gender imbalance in indian cinema.

I'm sorry, but I have a problem? You're the one holding up the Britney Spears of Bollywood as a great role model.

[thejellymill]

hahaha Bruin you put my thoughts into words, I was just thinking "...and we as Muslims should look up to Malika Sherawat why? " You guys and your lame threads are a waste of time, I'm not even sure why I'm replying (probly just another excuse to procrastinate)

[Asvi]

Originally Posted by lol_lol

whats your problem ? I just like indian movies why are you getting so mad ?
just because i think mallika sherwat is a great role model for women i'm not saying you have to be like her but she really has made it in a male industry.
shes really changed the dialectic,her presence has radically altered the power relations / gender imbalance in indian cinema.

tell me you're kidding....

[sixpakistan]

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

A while ago I used to believe that Indian movies were the worst thing that ever happened to desi culture.

Now I've reconsidered my position. It seems to me that Indian movies provide a moral framework for desi's. They give us a guide to how we should live our lives with a firm emphasis on strong family values and morality.

If we look at people like SRK, Amitabh Bachan, Govinda and Mithu etc what we see is decent family men who could have come from the script of one of their own movies.

So I've decided to start watching Indian movies again

Wow. It's like you toiled in a dark basement, had your minion dig up letters, formed words, and put the words together as sentences until lightning struck & you had this Stupid Monster of a post. I'm seriously offended you exist.

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

hunh ? no i'm just saying that in the absence of strong societies indian movies can serve as a model for desi's to live their lives

Seriously? I thought this was a joke... I was gonna rep you for the hilarity of your original post...

[Budmano786]

Originally Posted by Bruinrab

OK, where to begin?!

Living with in-laws: ask any girl around here how she feels about living with her in-laws and see how much enthusiasm that generates. Heck, ask Revert.

Every girl I've talked to for rishta purposes has actually been more than willing to live with my parents when I told them they may eventually live with me inshallah. They seemed to have no issue with it what so ever. Infact, most of them said they would love to do it They were all born and raised in the US, very educated, and "with the times" you can say. They were definitely cultural and traditional too...so I'm biased in thinking that a lot of girls have no issue with it. Same thing goes with a lot of my girl cousins and a lot of the "bahoo's" in my family who have moved in or are planning on moving in with their husband's family. Ofcourse theres definitely quite a few who don't want to move in with their in-laws. But a lot of them say if its a good guy with good in-laws, they wouldn't mind.

[Ilikemyscarf]

Originally Posted by iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu

Seriously? I thought this was a joke... I was gonna rep you for the hilarity of your original post...

I'm also waiting for the "J/K".

[Nabisco007]

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

A while ago I used to believe that Indian movies were the worst thing that ever happened to desi culture.

Now I've reconsidered my position. It seems to me that Indian movies provide a moral framework for desi's. They give us a guide to how we should live our lives with a firm emphasis on strong family values and morality.

If we look at people like SRK, Amitabh Bachan, Govinda and Mithu etc what we see is decent family men who could have come from the script of one of their own movies.

So I've decided to start watching Indian movies again

you're kidding right?? Silsila builds strong family values?? and what about indian movies these days?? Have you seen how they are these days? Have you seen the movie Murder? Aksar? Kabhie Alvida Na Kehna? Race? Gangster? sooo haram Astaghfirullah.Old movies were so much better. I miss movies like Hum Saath Saath Hain, Hum Aapke Hain Kaun, etc. The family type isn't really there anymore. The only new family movie I can think of is Tara Rum Pum. It was a good movie.

[Bruinrab]

Originally Posted by Budmano786

Every girl I've talked to for rishta purposes has actually been more than willing to live with my parents when I told them they may eventually live with me inshallah. They seemed to have no issue with it what so ever. Infact, most of them said they would love to do it They were all born and raised in the US, very educated, and "with the times" you can say. They were definitely cultural and traditional too...so I'm biased in thinking that a lot of girls have no issue with it. Same thing goes with a lot of my girl cousins and a lot of the "bahoo's" in my family who have moved in or are planning on moving in with their husband's family. Ofcourse theres definitely quite a few who don't want to move in with their in-laws. But a lot of them say if its a good guy with good in-laws, they wouldn't mind.

Nope, not gonna do it. Don't mind if they're nearby but I'm one of those people that needs my own space, my own home, my own castle, if you will (Marie Barone gives me nightmares). I wonder if those girls feel that way because they think they have no other realistic choice (or if they see it as free baby-sitting).

Now, moving in with my parents would be a different matter.






Although I'd rather just be next door to them as well.

[wheelworks]

The last time I watched an Indian movie, I was about 10. That was about a 10 second clip of one

[nectar]

Originally Posted by Budmano786

Every girl I've talked to for rishta purposes has actually been more than willing to live with my parents when I told them they may eventually live with me inshallah. They seemed to have no issue with it what so ever. Infact, most of them said they would love to do it They were all born and raised in the US, very educated, and "with the times" you can say. They were definitely cultural and traditional too...so I'm biased in thinking that a lot of girls have no issue with it. Same thing goes with a lot of my girl cousins and a lot of the "bahoo's" in my family who have moved in or are planning on moving in with their husband's family. Ofcourse theres definitely quite a few who don't want to move in with their in-laws. But a lot of them say if its a good guy with good in-laws, they wouldn't mind.

I had absolutely no problem living with inlaws too.....and then I got married.

[Rambo]

i really think old indian movies and songs had really good meanings. for example i love this song about life: YouTube - Zindagi Pyar Ka Geet Hai - Sauten(1983)

these days you can't find these types of song or movies

[Caramel_Candy]

I think its a sad day when men, Muslim men, are turning to Bollywood movies as a guide on how to live their lives and using it as a tool on how they want to raise their families. SubhanAllah, Allah (swt) has given us the best man to ever walk on the face of the earth to follow and you want to emulate SRK and Amitabh Bachan? You think these two men are decent? In what sense? They're married yet have no shame in dancing, touching, kissing other women openly. Yes, it is their job but they chose their job and at this point in their careers they are powerful enough to say they don't want to get so touchy feely with another woman but I don't see that happening anytime soon. I think you first need to strengthen your iman and the characteristics within yourself before you can instill any values towards your family. And there certainly other strong, family orientented, respectable men you can look up to rather than Bollywood heros. There's our beloved Prophet Mohammad (SAW), Hadrat Abu Bakr as-Siddiq (R.A.), Umar Ibn al-Khattab, Hadrat Uthman (RA), Hadrat Ali Ibn Abi Talib (R.A.), Hamzah ibn Abd Al-Muttalib among many other nobel men.


The fact of the matter is today, the youth frequently choose their heroes from show models, movie stars and sport figures; not on the basis of their exemplary character or high moral standards, but for their flashy and lustrous life style. These personalities provide no content to the social and moral enrichment of the society. They only heighten the peer pressure to conform to the popular culture of smoking, drinking, dancing, plus many other counter-productive activities. Yet, the kids faithfully look up to them as their role models. Their attitude, behavior, and general outlook towards life is drastically skewed under the influence of the characters they imitate.The life objective of every Muslim is to seek the pleasure of Allah (SWT). The Muslim elders are responsible to get this message across and see that the youngsters are aware of the limits to which they must adhere. These limits are to be respected, out of love and fear of Allah (swt) for their own good. A sharp conscience, that constantly reminds one of Allah's presence and of the accountability to Him, is the description of a Muslim in action. Only such a character is capable of coping with social and moral dilemmas.

I think when a Muslim, himself, is able to reach this state of understanding and maturity is he then able to instill any type of values into his family.

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

Indian movies give traditional housebound Indian women an image of the possible.

Uhh not really. You really think women waking up to a flawless face, pounds of jewelry, wearing a beautiful sari while cooking her husband breakfast is possible or even real? This is image is so fake that women who try to idolize it end up driving themselves crazy because they are trying to reach perfection. Truth of the matter is were gonna wake up with stinky breath, bad hair, oversized PJ's but STILL cook our husbands breakfast not because Bollywood tells us to, but because that's what love and a real marriage is, but you'd never see that in Bollywood movie. Go figure.


[Disclaimer- I know I went off on a bunch of tangets but I really don't see where your logic is coming from so I just threw everything out there that came to mind]

[sona]

Originally Posted by nectar

I had absolutely no problem living with inlaws too.....and then I got married.

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