[Sugarberry]

Things you can do for your man: ( stolen from the facebook group)

1 As much as you want to talk about past relationships, keep it to a minimum, unless he asks. You don't want him to feel like he's in competition with anyone.

2 Every guy has a 'geeky' side of him. Whether it be video games, DVD, WoW, anime, football among other sports, or whatever. Don't make fun of him if you don't like it, either tolerate it, or learn to like it. DO NOT try to change him. If he's constantly ignoring you for that hobby of his, tell him.

3 When you hug the boy, hold tight. It doesn't hurt to rest your head on him either.

4 Compromise for movies. Watch his favorite movies and he'll give in for the movie you want to see.

5 Sometimes pay for the date! I know guys hate this, but if he takes you out constantly, it's more than likely he's going to be poor! Treat him sometime. Even if you just buy the snacks!

6 Hold his hand!! Even in the mall when you have a ton of bags, hold his hand.

7 Don't run away from his favorite stores, if you don't like them! Watch him. Gift ideas!!

8 Any time your guy gives you a compliment, don't just roll your eyes. He means it, and you should smile and say thank you.

9 Guys are pressured to take the relationship to a "deeper level". Stupid society. Anyway, if you dont want that in a relationship, tell him before things get too complicated! You can compromise too. If you are uncomfortable with something, STOP.

10 “Fine" or “whatever" is not an appropriate ending to a conversation. Only makes matters worse.

11 Life isn't a drama or a movie. This is real life, people. They don't often come with a sword, armor, and a white steed.

12 NEVER EVER kick them in the place below the belt. Even in a fight or argument, just don't do it.

13 TRUST HIM. Don't scream when he looks at another girl. We know you were goggling at the cute guy that just passed. It's nature. Don't dig through his phonebook, and hey, guys can have female friends just like girls can have male friends. If this makes things awkward, talk about it.

14 This should go without saying. Love him for who he is! Don't worry about what others think. Don't try to change him into what's cool and hip. Some compromises can be made, and tell him that if he ever has a problem you changing him, to tell you.

15 In an argument, just because society stereotypes women as being smarter, more mature, and men as dumb and immature, doesn't mean you are always right.

16 Listen to him. Even if it's something you don't want to hear. Good communication is key.

17 Cook. It may sound stereotypical, but a lot of guys like having a meal cooked for them. A lot of it is the thought, but if you truly are terrible, then maybe this isn't one you should try. If you know how to cook, maybe teach him, or you both can learn together.

18 Sing. Many girls underestimate how well they sing. You don't have to be able to sing 10 octaves or whatever. Don't be embarrassed to sing in front of a guy, just let yourself go a bit and have some fun.

19 A girl has the right to show off her body, but keep your pride and dignity. Be careful! If you show off too much, guys (and just people in general) may get the wrong message and make assumptions.

20 Just like girls want girl time, guys want guy time. Giving your guy space to hang with his friends is not only fair, but it shows you trust him in a way.

21 Respect the guy for who he is, not because he earns your respect. Guys relate to each other on a respect level, and if you want him to open up to you, he has to know that you don't look down on him.

22 Let your guy take pictures of you. He may not admit it, but that picture will probably be with him always. Even if you think it looks horrible.

23 Don't always expect the guy to be the one to call. It is okay to call your boyfriend on occasion, and it shows him that you care about him and are thinking about him. And don't get upset if for some reason he doesn't have time to talk. He does have a life

24 Remind him that you appreciate all the sweet little things he does for you. Let him know it's not all in vain.

25 If a guy uses a key to let you into his car, reach over and open the door before he gets to it. I know this may be common sense to most girls, but you know, some do not do this. It's a tiny little action that can make a guy go "hey, she's considerate."

26 Let the guy open the door for you or do any other chivalric action. He's fulfilling your wish for a gentleman, don't deny him the chance to do something nice for you. Thank him! You are doing all these wonderful things for him, let him return the favor.

27 Communicate with him. Tell him directly what's on your mind. You can always hope that he'll get your subtle hints or body language, but if it's important, you're better off using words.

28 Sometimes you have to take the initiative. Don't always wait for him to come to you, because if that's how it always is, you're going to lose him.

29 If they buy you jewelry, wear it around them, even if you don't like it. They will appreciate it, because it's the thought that counts.

30 A word of appreciation now and then regarding his protective/kind/chivalrousattitude will go miles toward the end. You won't regret it.

31 When you are talking to a guy you are interested in, lean in, touch his arm or hand, while your talking. physical touch communicates interest and value.

32 Whether it's from across the room or while your talking let him know that you are only interested in what he has to said. so look into his eyes and smile.

33 Never judge him based on his friends. They may give some insight, but sometimes guys as well as girls can befriend people that are completely opposite of themselves because they like the change. Don't let who he hangs around with be the deciding factor of your judgments about him. Get to know him.

34 Cute is what he is when he does something goofy, not how you should compliment his looks.Tell him he looks handsome... or any other word you'd use to describe James Bond.

35 Let him know you're on his side and that you support him and believe in him.

36 Call him instead of IMing or e-mail. Let him talk to you and hear your voice. Note: sometimes, it can't be helped. long distance relationships are sometimes forced to use AIM. In this case, use a camera!! You can see him and hear him.

37 Write him letters! If you want to tell him something but just can't come up with the words in person, take the time to write them down. He'll appreciate it because he can read word for word how you feel for him over and over again, and you know he won't forget it.

38 girls should do little things for guys. If they ask for a drink, just get it for them cuz they don't ask often. Or surprise them with little gifts (even if homemade) it ll show them that you care about them and thought about them during the day, even if they don't admit it, they like it as much as we do"

39 DON'T CHEAT ON HIM! IT'S NEVER WORTH IT! He WILL find out one way or another and odds are you guys are through. Whether you were already split up or still dating... you'll be lucky if he still wants to be your friend!

40 Forgive him. Not hundreds of times for the same mistakes, but relationships are going to have problems and there will be apologies on both sides... Forgiveness is a huge part of a relationship. You may not always want to do it, and he will definitely not always deserve it, but then again, we don't necessarily always deserve forgiveness either...

41 If you know that you and the one you are with should end the relationship, have the integrity and respect to tell them that the relationship is over. Do not just leave and never speak to them again.

42 Dont mess with a guy if you know they like you. This could cause the end of a friendship.

43 Don't wear too much make up. While a little unnoticeable make up is okay, too much make up makes a girl look fake and phony. By not wearing a lot make up, the girl appears confortable in her own skin.

44. Tell your guy if it's "that time of the month," but only if you feel comfortable with telling him. If he really cares about you, chances are that he will sympathize. He may even pamper you a little bit. Also, during this time, guys have a tendency to think that they did something wrong and they have no clue what. Telling him will give the guy insight into how you are feeling at that time and maybe relieve some confusion.

45. Women, Please have the decency to tell the guy WHY you are breaking up with him or leaving him. These things don't happen out of the blue, there's always a reason and they should know what it is. .

[Sugarberry]

Which ones do you agree with the most....which ones annoy you?

[Sugarberry]

Things a guy can do for his woman

1. Open doors, whether it be to a building or a car, that's just a given.

2. When in a place of worship (or other places that have aisles and pews), if a man is at the end of the pew, when exiting he should stand in the aisle and let all the females go before him.(this seems odd to some people, yet normal for others. if you don't get it, don't worry about it, okay?)

3. A man should tolerate the occassional chick flick (or musical, or opera, or ballet.. whatever her preference is) *without* *****ing about it!

4. Play one of the songs that would make any woman weep (but in a good way).

5. Talk! The strong & silent bit goes from intriguing to boring quite fast.

6. Find out what her favorite flower is & buy them for her randomly. Good rule of thumb: a single rose says more than dozens of anything else.(I encourage the women to not allow a guy to "prove himself worthy" through gifts and flowers and such. Trust is a precious thing and it should take a good chunk of time before he gains it back in your heart).

7. If you miss her, or love her, TELL HER! Even your friends like to hear it every now & again.

8. Remember: the best gifts you can give are usually free of cost.

9. Leave a note (or send a message) just to say "hi".

10. Ask her questions about herself.

11. Dress nice every once & a while. Any girl likes to see her brother/friend/boyfriend/etc. in a well-ironed button up with some nice slacks.

12. PRIDE & PREJUDICE ...that's all I have to say about that (I mean, that should speak for itself and it's even more impressive if he has read the book).

13. Tolerate small children as best you can. Meaning, put up with the things that can get annoying. They're children after all. Show them love and care, teach them how to become a better man than you. (You were once extremely irritating. Get over the obnoxious kids and enjoy getting down to their level - not "for her," but for the good of yourself and others).

14. Learn to dance! There is nothing sexier than a man that can dance really well. If God did not bless you with the grace of Fred Astaire, at least put forth the effort, it will be greatly appreciated. Always slow dance (even if its just like you danced in middle school). Also men, sing to a lady. Even in you're terrible, suck it up! They love to listen to it and will not care what you sound like. It's the thought that counts on this one. Unless you're just downright terrible, nothing sexy about that.

15. Kiss her on the forehead.

16. When she's sick, stay up with her. If you can cook (which is always a plus), make her some soup. If you can't cook, there's Campbell's soup at hand for you.

17. Pretend to throw her in the pool (or fountain/pond). She'll fight you, but seccretly she loves it. If you really do throw her in, you better jump in yourself. **NOTE** There are some women who just hate this, so you had better do two things: 1) Never allow your buddies be a part of it if you're unsure of how she feels about getting thrown in and 2) You had better know how she feels about it!

18. Hold her hand while you talk, drive, or just for the hell of it.

19. LOOK IN HER EYES, NOT AT HER CHEST!!!!!

20. Stupid jokes = awkwardly adorable moments.

21. Tickle her, tease her, let her tease you back with out getting all bent out of shape about it

22. Don't call her hot, call her beautiful because that's what she is.

23. Offer her your jacket/sweatshirt. (Note: you may not see that particular item of clothing for a while, if ever again).

24. Don't be too proud to apologize.

25. It's not stalking to watch her sleep if you fall asleep watching a movie. It is stalking to watch her sleep if you're standing outside her window with night vision goggles.

26. When she feels at her worst, tell her she looks her best.

27. If you're trying to get more than friendship out of the relationship, take it slow.

28. Because you're a guy doesn't mean you are completley incapable of calling when you say you will; it just means you are highly incapable of it. There are few acceptable answers to, "Why didn't you call?" & being male is not one of them.

29. Don't check out other girls in front of your girl friends/sisters/mother, unless you are sincere when you later ask them if you think she could introduce the two of you for more reason than you "want to get some". Pull this in front of your girlfriend/fiancee/wife, she has every right to clock you in the jaw.

30. Guys - Always offer to pay for the date. No matter how expensive it gets, especially if YOU asked HER on the date. (However, a lady can pay for the date now and then. But at least offer to pay initially and be ready to back it up).

31. Always do everything in your power to keep her as happy as you can. And cheer her up in any way possible.

32. When walking on the sidewalk, always walk on the outside near traffic. (So everyone has a different opinion for how this started. For some it's because of the human waste that was getting thrown out the windows with this happening a century or more ago. The woman walked under the overhanges extending from the buildings with the guy in the open to take the mess if need be. Others say it's from the guy's scabbard/sword being on his left with the woman walking on the right. As for today, it's the traffic and puddles and whatnot. Just a courtesy thing if it seems necessary.)

33. At least do everything in your power to keep cursing to a minimum while around her. If you can, cut it out period while around her, or cut it out of your vocabulary. Women don't want to hear it, guys don't care about it, adults don't want to hear it, it doesn't impress employers, and you sure won't want your children or someone else to hear it!

34. Sometimes you have to take the initiative. Don't always wait for her to come to you, because if that's how it always is you're going to lose her.

35. If any lady is walking alone to her car in a dark parking lot/garage, or is carrying a heavy load, always offer to help walk her to her destination and carry things, if not the entire load. **This may work a lot better and come off non-stalkerish if you at least know the girl you're trying to help.

36. If a woman says no, let that be her final answer. Do not pressure or force her in any way. Don't make her give in to something she doesn't want to do.

37. Always be honest with her. No woman wants or likes a dishonest man. If you can't be honest with her she can't trust you, and shows you don't trust her enough to be honest. Trust, honesty and integrity are just as an integral part of a relationship and just as important as love.

38. A man should always genuinely listen to women; no matter how boring or busy the man is, actively listening to the woman will keep him from pain [and bring the man and woman closer together]. This works best, of course, when both the man and the woman actively and equally engage in conversation (this includes listening). For the ladies reading this, please talk - always talk - especially if you are having problems with the relationship and to also avoid making bigger problems.

For those of you who want to know where the list for the ladies can be found check

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

3 When you hug the boy, hold tight. It doesn't hurt to rest your head on him either.

Don't ever marry (or try to marry) a boy. You might get arrested

[Salika]

Far more practical than posts in other threads that are bickering about the perfect guy/girl.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Salika

Far more practical than posts in other threads that are bickering about the perfect guy/girl.

Uh oh you've just jynxed this thread

[Haramoobobi]

5. Talk! The strong & silent bit goes from intriguing to boring quite fast.

7. If you miss her, or love her, TELL HER! Even your friends like to hear it every now & again.
8. Remember: the best gifts you can give are usually free of cost.

I liked the rest too--but I got lazy

[LEGALEAGLE]

A friends recent relationship...

1. Girl meets Boy.

2. She thinks he's sooo fit because he's always in the Gym

3. He thinks she's so great because she's interested in him going to the Gym

4. He says to me 6 weeks ago...'She's really getting on my nerves I told her I had to go gym and she doesn't seem interested'

Me - 'You mean it didn't make her perk up ?' (or words to that effect)

Him - 'No ' (looking at me in puzzlement)

5. Me to a female friend I give them a few weeks max....

6. Yesterday the relationship ended.

Lesson

What may seem so fascinating and exciting may become deadly dull and annoying...thats one of the reasons I left criminal law...waking up at 3am in the morning...and women have this crazy idea that they can have their cake and eat it

[Timbit]

Awwww... cute thread.

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

1. Open doors, whether it be to a building or a car, that's just a given.

35. If any lady is walking alone to her car in a dark parking lot/garage, or is carrying a heavy load, always offer to help walk her to her destination and carry things, if not the entire load. **This may work a lot better and come off non-stalkerish if you at least know the girl you're trying to help.

These are the ones I liked the most.
And No. 1 is a given. Courtesy is always good.

[Bruinrab]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

8. Remember: the best gifts you can give are usually free of cost.

So true...

12. PRIDE & PREJUDICE ...that's all I have to say about that (I mean, that should speak for itself and it's even more impressive if he has read the book).

15. Kiss her on the forehead.

23. Offer her your jacket/sweatshirt. (Note: you may not see that particular item of clothing for a while, if ever again).

32. When walking on the sidewalk, always walk on the outside near traffic. (So everyone has a different opinion for how this started. For some it's because of the human waste that was getting thrown out the windows with this happening a century or more ago. The woman walked under the overhanges extending from the buildings with the guy in the open to take the mess if need be. Others say it's from the guy's scabbard/sword being on his left with the woman walking on the right. As for today, it's the traffic and puddles and whatnot. Just a courtesy thing if it seems necessary.)

19. LOOK IN HER EYES, NOT AT HER CHEST!!!!!

33. At least do everything in your power to keep cursing to a minimum while around her. If you can, cut it out period while around her, or cut it out of your vocabulary. Women don't want to hear it, guys don't care about it, adults don't want to hear it, it doesn't impress employers, and you sure won't want your children or someone else to hear it!

[displaced]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

12. PRIDE & PREJUDICE ...that's all I have to say about that (I mean, that should speak for itself and it's even more impressive if he has read the book).

14. Learn to dance! There is nothing sexier than a man that can dance really well. If God did not bless you with the grace of Fred Astaire, at least put forth the effort, it will be greatly appreciated.

17. Pretend to throw her in the pool (or fountain/pond). She'll fight you, but seccretly she loves it. If you really do throw her in, you better jump in yourself. **NOTE** There are some women who just hate this, so you had better do two things: 1) Never allow your buddies be a part of it if you're unsure of how she feels about getting thrown in and 2) You had better know how she feels about it!

19. LOOK IN HER EYES, NOT AT HER CHEST!!!!!

22. Don't call her hot, call her beautiful because that's what she is.

33. At least do everything in your power to keep cursing to a minimum while around her. If you can, cut it out period while around her, or cut it out of your vocabulary. Women don't want to hear it, guys don't care about it, adults don't want to hear it, it doesn't impress employers, and you sure won't want your children or someone else to hear it!

the ones I don't agree with

[ChotooMotoo]

Don't turn into his/her stalker.

[jaani]

Originally Posted by Salika

Far more practical than posts in other threads that are bickering about the perfect guy/girl.

so trueee!

I like most of the things given in both the lists, but seems a little unfair that the girls list goes up to 45 and the guys list goes to only 38...hmmm

~j