The perfect guy

[Summers]

Bruinrab said

Timbit and Spice, do you guys have some good news to share with us? You don't have to be shy about it, look how proud Jammy and Jinnz are.

Yes, I ended up buying that lovely top.

[Timbit]

Shadha: The kind that have full-length doors.

Seriously now, I'm trying to think of the last time that I saw that...
I think it was at Sirens. Asian couple.

I have a good memory, MashaAllah.

Spice: No, that was our other friend who insisted that she sees naked people all the time. I love her.

[IbnMardhiyah]

shadha said

It's hilarious how you always speak with such arrogant authority. How are you, as a male, going to inform a female on what females think/like?

Because some guys just understand girls better than most other guys, or even girls themselves. It has nothing to do with arrogance.

Accept it and move on.

thejellymill said

Dang Ibn, she was yelling at you only after a couple of months? I dont think I yelled at my husband until we were properly engaged...like, 6 months after we met

Either she was the really jealous type, or I make girls become that way.

God knows best.

farah said

i think i'll print this out, frame it, and hang it on my wall. so that whenever i do get married, inshaAllah, i can appreciate that my husband doesn't consider shopping a form of foreplay.

That's probably because you're destined for a boring husband who has no skills whatsoever.

My condolences.

Apparently most girls here think foreplay is what happens in the hour or so right before the two get down and busy with each other.

That is not the case.

Foreplay is everything you do to get her in the mood. Girls need to be in the mood for it, whereas guys just need a few minutes and some space. Foreplay can take hours in advance, or it can take days - or even a week - in advance. It can be joking around with her, teasing her, [or pleasing her], or taking her out, helping around the house, admiring her, buying a gift, helping her family, ... whatever.

Prophet Muhammad [saws] very beautifully advised the men about this in various ahaadith, and playing around with your wife and making her happy is one of the few "useless" things that men can do which are in fact rewarded by Allah ta3ala.

So please expand your claustrophobic minds a bit.

shadha said

You really are putting a whole lot of unnecessary importance and drama on material shopping. I think it's pretty sad.

I disagree.

Firstly, I was simply talking about shopping, only. Not other activities that you could also do with your wife. If I had in fact written about all the other activities and then, written disproportionately more about shopping - then your comment would be qualified and be considered to be with merit.

Secondly, in regards to your comment about your husband "forcing" you to watch the game with you - you're totally missing the point here which I had alluded to in my post. Hands down, the best husbands are those who take care of the emotional needs of their wives because any way you cut it, women are emotional creatures. Men are not. Guys don't care if you don't sit there and watch the game with them.

So please, I know you hate me, but don't let it allow you to become confused and upset when replying to my posts.

Thanks.

[Haramoobobi]

IbnMardhiyah said

ohmygawd holy shucks I didn't mean anything like that, come on, I'm so shareef and acha yo.

what I meant was, someone who is funny and intelligent and sweet blah blah blah a lotta guys are like that, a dime a dozen ... but the self-recharging battery-pack comment was meant to refer to guys who are the optimistic type who, even though they may have loads of trouble of their own, will always be there to support and motivate you, to keep you going.

i.e - they're the ones who juice you up when you're running low.

Their own batteries are recharged by no one else except Allah ta3ala.

What if the woman has her batteries charged by Allah swt as well? Sometimes it's just nice to share, but everyone carries a lot of burdens... I know some women people confess to all the time but the secrets they know doesn't phase them... they charge on Allah swt--and He is the best of chargers.

[Haramoobobi]

eh? what's this mushkiL7a with shopping????

It makes me so uncomfortable I don't like shopping

[shadha]

Ibn: I disagree.
Firstly, I was simply talking about shopping, only. Not other activities that you could also do with your wife. If I had in fact written about all the other activities and then, written disproportionately more about shopping - then your comment would be qualified and be considered to be with merit.
Secondly, in regards to your comment about your husband "forcing" you to watch the game with you - you're totally missing the point here which I had alluded to in my post. Hands down, the best husbands are those who take care of the emotional needs of their wives because anyway you cut it, women are emotional creatures. Men are not. Guys don't care if you don;t sit there and watch the game with them.

What type of woman emotionally needs her husband to be present with her while shopping?

Again, I'm talking about mutual consideration within marriage.


shadha-

[Bruinrab]

Haramoobobi said

eh? what's this mushkiL7a with shopping????

It makes me so uncomfortable I don't like shopping

I used to hate it too. But suppress your inner party-pooper and become a materialistic consumer with the rest of us.

[sally]

shadha said

What type of woman emotionally needs her husband to be present with her while shopping?

HAHAAHAAHAHAHA THAT IS beautifully worded

[IbnMardhiyah]

shadha said

What type of woman emotionally needs her husband to be present with her while shopping?

I've already answered your question in that original post.

Go back and read it again until you get it.

[shadha]

ibn: Because some guys just understand girls better than most other guys, or even girls themselves. It has nothing to do with arrogance.
Accept it and move on.

Accept what you think is fact? Again, you have arrogance issues sweetie.


shadha-

[afrakabob]

IbnMardhiyah said

Foreplay can take hours in advance, or it can take days - or even a week - in advance.

apparently we know some frigid women

-zips mouth before people start calling her sketchy, again-

[Bruinrab]

afrakabob said

apparently we know some frigid women

-zips mouth before people start calling her sketchy, again-

Must.spread.rep. And you have to share the title of sketchy with several of us.

[Timbit]

afrakabob said

apparently we know some frigid women

-zips mouth before people start calling her sketchy, again-

I was gonna say the same thing, but then I didn't wanna be too "besharam"..

[IbnMardhiyah]

shadha said

ibn: Because some guys just understand girls better than most other guys, or even girls themselves. It has nothing to do with arrogance.
Accept it and move on.

Accept what you think is fact? Again, you have arrogance issues sweetie.


shadha-

Take my original post, and print it out. Take it to not less than a hundred women all over the age of 20, and ask them just one question: "How much do you agree with these statements?" - and then just zip it. Let them read my words.

Then come back and tell me how many women agreed overall, and how many disagreed overall.

If you do that, with verifiable names and contact information for each and every woman, and if anything less than 75% of those 100 women disagree overall with my post, I'll pay you $10,000 USD within twelve months of the completion date of your survey.

You now have my offer in black-and-white writing with plenty of witnesses.

Are you up for it?

[Bruinrab]

Inspired by this thread.

I'm 5'2", so he has to be at least 5'8". Then he can reach stuff on the high shelves. Or he can just lift me up so I can reach.