How to curb my sexual desire

HeartBreaker · #1 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 11:16 AM

I cannot get married for at least the next three years (until university's over)

I do not masturbate

I do not have pre-marital relations

I am too hungry to fast.

I do not watch porn.

How do I curb my sexual desire?

Thank you

MuslimZ · #2 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 11:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HeartBreaker

I am too hungry to fast.

.

Sabz · #3 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 11:24 AM

Get married seeing as though university aint giving you what you really need

Spice · #4 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 11:30 AM

You need a good smack.

ChotooMotoo · #5 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 11:31 AM

Make yourself really really busy, so you don't have time to think about such things.

Go to bed early, and get plenty of rest.

Keep good company.

iSHi · #6 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 11:47 AM

Make lots and LOTS of dhikr.

m_ali_qazi · #7 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 11:53 AM

watch clean programs on tv and listen to clean music and watch pg-13 movies

ChotooMotoo · #8 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 11:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by m_ali_qazi

watch clean programs on tv and listen to clean music and watch pg-13 movies

The only R rated movie you should watch is Cabin Fever. That will curb your apetite right fast.

IbnMardhiyah · #9 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 12:03 PM

Stop fooling yourself. There's no magic pill or incantation that'll make this problem go away.

Just get married, but both of you stay in your respective homes until University is done. That way you two can be with each other whenever you want.

ChotooMotoo · #10 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 12:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IbnMardhiyah

Stop fooling yourself. There's no magic pill or incantation that'll make this problem go away.

Just get married, but both of you stay in your respective homes until University is done. That way you two can be with each other whenever you want.

I dunno, everything I mentioned really did work for me. I didn't have much sexual desire at all as a teenager. Yes, I married young at 20 years old, but it wasn't becuase of sexual desire.

I've never understood why people can't get married while they are in University. If you're worried about kids, just use birth control. Having a companion through your college years can be a really wonderful way to cope with the stresses of college life. Plus, if you're married, you won't have single mates trying to corrupt you all the time.

Timbit · #11 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 12:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

I've never understood why people can't get married while they are in University. If you're worried about kids, just use birth control. Having a companion through your college years can be a really wonderful way to cope with the stresses of college life. Plus, if you're married, you won't have single mates trying to corrupt you all the time.

'Cause they can't support themselves?

My parents want me to have at least an undergraduate degree before I get married... and I don't think there's anything wrong with the sentiment.

IbnMardhiyah · #12 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 12:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Timbit

'Cause they can't support themselves?

Ummmm .... that's why I said get married while you're in school but both the girl and guy stay in their original family homes. Most of the expenses then stay the same unless the guy buys her the occasional dinner or clothes, etc - while they're in school.

ChotooMotoo · #13 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 12:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IbnMardhiyah

Ummmm .... that's why I said get married while you're in school but both the girl and guy stay in their original family homes. Most of the expenses then stay the same unless the guy buys her the occasional dinner or clothes, etc - while they're in school.

There are lots of ways to make it work. I don't see much difference in married people living together, having part time jobs, and sharing expenses, and living with roomates who all work part time jobs and share expenses. Plus, Spouses are much better than roomates. Your expenses don't double just becuase you got married. Most college kids share apartments, and work. Why not get married?

IbnMardhiyah · #14 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 12:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

There are lots of ways to make it work. I don't see much difference in married people living together, having part time jobs, and sharing expenses, and living with roomates who all work part time jobs and share expenses. Plus, Spouses are much better than roomates. Your expenses don't double just becuase you got married. Most college kids share apartments, and work. Why not get married?

It doesn't make financial sense for newlyweds to get married and live together while they're still cash-strapped and in school - unless one of the in-laws is willing to let the spouse of their child move into the same house, and that's IF one of them is living at home and not in the dorm.

ChotooMotoo · #15 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 12:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IbnMardhiyah

It doesn't make financial sense for newlyweds to get married and live together while they're still cash-strapped and in school - unless one of the in-laws is willing to let the spouse of their child move into the same house, and that's IF one of them is living at home and not in the dorm.

How does it make any lese sense than two strangers sharing a 1 bed apartment, having a part time job, and sharing expenses? That's what most college students do, they live off campus in apartments, and share expenses with a roomate. Why do you have to quit your job once you get married? Even kids living in the dorms have jobs these days. Dorm living is by and large more expensive than living in apartments.

If the kids don't work and the parents are willing to pay the kids dorm expenses, why wouldn't they be willing to save money, and pay the kids rent in an apartment? They would end up paying less overall.