[Sugarberry]

Youre not overreacting. Khairan said something really true eariler...if this guy cant respect you now and ( your body) its very unlikely that he will respect you after marriage.

[Whatyosayin]

Originally Posted by ShahRukh

I can see you're trying too hard to paint the guy in negative light and attempting to depict yourself as the virgin Marry here.


What were you doing with the guy alone when he asked you those questions? If you're so pious yourself, why did you choose to go out/hang out with him?


Also, why didn't you just dump/leave him right on spot when he was physically getting closer to you or making such suggestions?


p.s. I'm not trying to trick you or anyone. In fact I'm trying my best not to be tricked by any random internet poster here for some sympathy points. We get such trolls in dozens here every week.


p.s. Kissing, cuddling, and even foreplay are not considered Zina in Islam, those are major sins that lead to zina, hence major haram. Zina alone is the act of adultery. Get your facts right about Islam.Unless the guy was asking you for sex, theres no need to paint him in such negative light and accuse him of things he didn't actually suggest.

Grrr...I dont normally hang out with guys alone! But I guess see so many of my friends getting married, and they have all these relationships and are fiine with a little bit of fitnah, and then boom!, they are married. Even my hijabi friends meet up with guys alone and then marry them. Maybe it depends on how comfortable you feel with it and the guy, and he didnt push me into anything, he just encouraged me to get more comfortable. I did tell him how I felt and he said to have "faith" and asked if I am going to make him feel guilty everytime he asks to hold my hand or give me a hug. I honestly think those things are off limits, but seems as though I am the only one. Even if it is not zina, it is still fitnah!

[Sabz]

is he asian (DESI) by any chance....

[Whatyosayin]

Also to Shah Rukh,

I am not here to gain sympathy points. What other reason are these forums here for, than to discuss how we feel and try to improve our Deen, especially in today's society? I am here to get a gauge on my situation and see if my views about Islamic values are still valid or if I am being too conservative and missed some boat on some new reformed ideals of Islam. I appreciate everyones comments and they have confirmed my feelings that this guy does not really respect mine or Islamic values, and that I will resent him for life if I give in to sinful desires before marriage, because I think it is a slippery slope, and I should never have to compromise.

Sabz - yes he is desi but I dont think that makes a difference. Guys from all ethnicities can be dawgs.

[Serendipity]

even if he is geniunely serious about u, one can never be certain ur gonna end up marrying each other so besides being haram, u should never have physical contact for that reason as well.If he truly cares for u, he should respect u and know that that stuff comes after marriage not before.

i've seen a lot of girls get used this way cuz the guys never intend to marry them .they only pass time .

[HiJaBi_ShAh]

Originally Posted by wheelworks

You're only 17. Wait a few more years

Stop stereotyping Why should my age determine when I'm going to enter a relationship?..im not saying you're wrong but I dont like how you stereotyped that

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by HiJaBi_ShAh

Stop stereotyping Why should my age determine when I'm going to enter a relationship?..im not saying you're wrong but I dont like how you stereotyped that

It's more fact than stereotype donchaknow

[HiJaBi_ShAh]

Originally Posted by wheelworks

It's more fact than stereotype donchaknow

So it's a fact that every girl in her 20's has a man in her life? uhm some how this philosophy of yours has proven wrong..unless ofcourse you have some recent statistics to prove otherwise...donchaknow

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by Whatyosayin

Also to Shah Rukh,

I am not here to gain sympathy points. What other reason are these forums here for, than to discuss how we feel and try to improve our Deen, especially in today's society? I am here to get a gauge on my situation and see if my views about Islamic values are still valid or if I am being too conservative and missed some boat on some new reformed ideals of Islam. I appreciate everyones comments and they have confirmed my feelings that this guy does not really respect mine or Islamic values, and that I will resent him for life if I give in to sinful desires before marriage, because I think it is a slippery slope, and I should never have to compromise.

Sabz - yes he is desi but I dont think that makes a difference. Guys from all ethnicities can be dawgs.

You don't have to justify yourself to anyone. Good luck with your search.

[Timbit]

What the hell?

That's haraam, man, with a capital H and there's no way he can rationalize it to himself or to you.
And even if the whole world were doing it, that doesn't make it right.

Dump him.

[AM415]

One day I ate so many cheetos I thought I was going to barf.

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by HiJaBi_ShAh

So it's a fact that every girl in her 20's has a man in her life?

Not every one. More like the majority

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by AM415

One day I ate so many cheetos I thought I was going to barf.

The Cheetos tried to get a little frisky with you eh

[sally]

Originally Posted by AM415

One day I ate so many cheetos I thought I was going to barf.

man, i love hot lime cheetos.

they're so full of chemicals tho

[wheelworks]

Just thought I'd mention that Cheetos has ingredients derived from animal enzymes and are therefore haram donchaknow