[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Fortune

No offense but 70% of this thread's posts should have already been deleted.

Yea but this is Islamica, so they won't be

[Fortune]

Originally Posted by wheelworks

Yea but this is Islamica, so they won't be

Which is the reason why I would never come to a Love & Relationship section of the forum and ask a serious question in this field of discussion. Question: Blah blah blah? Standard reply 80% of the time:

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Fortune

Which is the reason why I would never come to a Love & Relationship section of the forum and ask a serious question in this field of discussion. Question: Blah blah blah? Standard reply 80% of the time:

I visit the L&R forum just to give standard replys donchaknow

[ChotooMotoo]

This whole idea that "I have to know if I'm sexually compatible with him before I say yes" is utter nonsense. Dude, the parts work, and you're compatible with anyone physically. It's the mental and emotional compatability that matter, and you can't force that no matter how beered up you get.

So yeah, getting frisky before marriage is bad. You could end up with an unplanned pregnancy or something. Nothing worse than having a shotgun weddding 5 months pregnant, or having him call it off once you get a positive test.

Yes, best to wait to get frisky until all the legal documents are signed and you can procreate without worrying about redneck parents and their shotguns

I'm talking to you like a non-Muslim from the non-Muslim perspective, cuz I can't imagine a Muslim asking such a strange question.

[displaced]

Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

This whole idea that "I have to know if I'm sexually compatible with him before I say yes" is utter nonsense. Dude, the parts work, and you're compatible with anyone physically. It's the mental and emotional compatability that matter, and you can't force that no matter how beered up you get.

So yeah, getting frisky before marriage is bad. You could end up with an unplanned pregnancy or something. Nothing worse than having a shotgun weddding 5 months pregnant, or having him call it off once you get a positive test.

Yes, best to wait to get frisky until all the legal documents are signed and you can procreate without worrying about redneck parents and their shotguns

I'm talking to you like a non-Muslim from the non-Muslim perspective, cuz I can't imagine a Muslim asking such a strange question.

I don't agree.

[Ilikemyscarf]

Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

This whole idea that "I have to know if I'm sexually compatible with him before I say yes" is utter nonsense. Dude, the parts work, and you're compatible with anyone physically. It's the mental and emotional compatability that matter, and you can't force that no matter how beered up you get.

So yeah, getting frisky before marriage is bad. You could end up with an unplanned pregnancy or something. Nothing worse than having a shotgun weddding 5 months pregnant, or having him call it off once you get a positive test.

Yes, best to wait to get frisky until all the legal documents are signed and you can procreate without worrying about redneck parents and their shotguns

I'm talking to you like a non-Muslim from the non-Muslim perspective, cuz I can't imagine a Muslim asking such a strange question.

wow..does anyone remember shotgunmessiah?

[the_only_one]

i agree with chotoo, imagine if the engagment broke off, (God Forbid) whats the point of getting too frisky with a non-mehram especailly WHEN THINGS ARE NOT OFFICAL yet. eventhough, the islamic engagment makes them husband and wife, but thats another story all together.


G, why am i so optimistic today?

[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

wow..does anyone remember shotgunmessiah?

i do then he reminds me of gotfive, and gotfive reminds me _________(im still waiting for a new specie)

[Ilikemyscarf]

Originally Posted by the_only_one

i do then he reminds me of gotfive, and gotfive reminds me _________(im still waiting for a new specie)

uh?? shotgun was awesome.

[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

uh?? shotgun was awesome.

im talking about the name association(like rhyming only..i aint comparing personalities here..

[Ilikemyscarf]

Originally Posted by the_only_one

im talking about the name association(like rhyming only..i aint comparing personalities here..

gotcha, i was thinking what kind of a world does she live in...

[UmmUmayr]

Originally Posted by Whatyosayin

Salaams,

Is it normal these days for people to HAVE to get physical with their potential husband/wife before marriage? I have been getting to know someone in the past few weeks, and he keeps trying to get me to get physical with him, even though he knows my values, and how I feel about it. He says he understands, but when I told him I dont think it is right to cuddle and kiss and hold hands before marriage, he replied, "If you think you can justify it to yourself". OF COURSE I can justify it to myself, how can you justify zina to yourself? If you pray regularly, but also commit zina, dont you feel like less of a Muslim? That you are betraying Allah swt and what He decreed for us humans not to succumb to our desires? If a guy really likes a girl, and is interested in her for marriage, would he really make her feel guilty or feel asexual and prudish for not wanting to do anything before marriage? He asked me what I thought about his lips, or if I noticed them. Do guys ask these things to girls who are religious? He also told me that is very understanding of things, but these needs are important to him. What about what is important to Allah swt? It seems like most Muslims these days seem to not consider zina as a sin anymore. Am I overreacting or is this the norm these days?

He sounds like right a pratt and desperate, loose him!

[LEGALEAGLE]

Originally Posted by displaced

I don't agree.

why ?

Originally Posted by UmmUmayr

He sounds like right a pratt and desperate, loose him!

'Lose' him.

Why do so many folks say 'Loose' ?

[annie_359]

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

Why do so many folks say 'Loose' ?

I get annoyed by simple spelling word distinctions but the people who trule deserve to have their head shoved down a bog are those offenders who mix up:

their/there/they're
loose/lose
your/you're (that's the worst imo)

There's actually a facebook group about such crimes against humanity but I'll leave you guys to search for them

Annie

[HiJaBi_ShAh]

Getting frisky before marriage..

But what if it just happens? What if its a spur of the momnet thing? I know its still haraam but what are everyones thoughts on this?