[TrentReznor858]

I pity the man that doesnt want to bone everything.

His life must be so......boring and cliche.

"Oh I dont like that kind of stuff......I.....read books "

[Ayooshi]

Asalamu Alaikum,

Just keep things awkward.

We have that stuff in our family and its really how you behave, no one can force anyone into a casual relationship.

Fi AmanAllah

[LEGALEAGLE]

Originally Posted by TrentReznor858

I pity the man that doesnt want to bone everything.

His life must be so......boring and cliche.

"Oh I dont like that kind of stuff......I.....read books "

yes books with lots of pictures...in fact no words apart from names..

[Timbit]

You guys are so disgusting, honestly.

[lol_lol]

anyways this is a good reason not to live with your inlaws, living with inlaws increases the chances of hanky panky.

[LEGALEAGLE]

Originally Posted by lol_lol

anyways this is a good reason not to live with your inlaws, living with inlaws increases the chances of hanky panky.

taubah taubah he's having hanky panky with the m-in-law ?!

[ChotooMotoo]

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

taubah taubah he's having hanky panky with the m-in-law ?!

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!

[lol_lol]

Originally Posted by LEGALEAGLE

taubah taubah he's having hanky panky with the m-in-law ?!

LOL HAHAHAHA..... and gross

[Aryan_]

Originally Posted by lol_lol

anyways this is a good reason not to live with your inlaws, living with inlaws increases the chances of hanky panky.

Saying it like that almost makes it sound like a good thing.

[Rafiullah]

I come from an afghan family, and in my family we aren't like that touchy or joking or whatever u call it. However, the sis in laws don't wear the hijab but regular afghani clothing with the seethru scarf thing, and what is more stupid is that it is done even in front of the husbands cousins!

Since when did they become so close and mahram? Its so retarded. So cultural. Our parents need to stop thinking like that. I don't know what to say.

Its weird. And if I say something its like HOW DARE YOU, etc...

pretty stupid huh?

[Pushpa]

i am the eldest child and I have no brothers so no bhabi and no dula bhai. My husband has no brothers either so alhamdulillah I dont have to deal with this. But I do have sisters and when we go to visit my parents he is treated like a member of the family i.e. they'll talk and have conversations and yes, even have the odd joke. I see nothing wrong with this because we all know where the boundaries lie. Everyone is also careful to respect each other's privacy; he won't enter a room where my sisters are unless my parents or i am there too. As for 'touching' - we don't even hug our maternal and paternal uncles past a certain age so the lines are absolutely clear.

The point is to instil a sense of appropriate behaviour and a strong awareness of where the boundaries lie, from an early age. Dirty jokes and swearing, and even some topics of conversation were never acceptable even in our own interactions as a family with each other so it's not such a big deal to extend the same kind of courtesy to new members such as a brother in law. Although covering hair was never a requirement in our house, my parents were always pretty strict about clothing, even when it was just us in the house so again, it's not such a big deal to be modest when there's someone else there. The point about hijab and modesty is that it's meant to be a mode of life and the way you think, not just something you do sometimes, and let everything hang out other times.

We understand this as a family so I don't see why my sisters shouldn't be able to have a conversation with their dula bhai and crack the odd joke; he married their sister so it would be cold and unnatural to treat him just like any other stranger or acquaintance off the street.

[Ilikemyscarf]

what is a dhula bhai? brother-in-law?

[LEGALEAGLE]

Originally Posted by Pushpa

i am the eldest child and I have no brothers so no bhabi and no dula bhai. My husband has no brothers either so alhamdulillah I dont have to deal with this. But I do have sisters and when we go to visit my parents he is treated like a member of the family i.e. they'll talk and have conversations and yes, even have the odd joke. I see nothing wrong with this because we all know where the boundaries lie. Everyone is also careful to respect each other's privacy; he won't enter a room where my sisters are unless my parents or i am there too. As for 'touching' - we don't even hug our maternal and paternal uncles past a certain age so the lines are absolutely clear.

The point is to instil a sense of appropriate behaviour and a strong awareness of where the boundaries lie, from an early age. Dirty jokes and swearing, and even some topics of conversation were never acceptable even in our own interactions as a family with each other so it's not such a big deal to extend the same kind of courtesy to new members such as a brother in law. Although covering hair was never a requirement in our house, my parents were always pretty strict about clothing, even when it was just us in the house so again, it's not such a big deal to be modest when there's someone else there. The point about hijab and modesty is that it's meant to be a mode of life and the way you think, not just something you do sometimes, and let everything hang out other times.

We understand this as a family so I don't see why my sisters shouldn't be able to have a conversation with their dula bhai and crack the odd joke; he married their sister so it would be cold and unnatural to treat him just like any other stranger or acquaintance off the street.

Pushpa yes thats what we call haya and ghayrat...thats what my family is like. Anything embarrassing on tv and quickly switched over...

[muslimahpower]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

what is a dhula bhai? brother-in-law?

doesnt dhula mean groom?

[Ilikemyscarf]

Originally Posted by muslimahpower

doesnt dhula mean groom?

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