[GOTFIVEONIT]

i say if you catch your wife cheating, videotape it and go sell it on the internet. at least you will make some quick cash outta it.

Cheating Wife

By Heidi Muller
Relationship Correspondent

You're in a relationship with a wonderful girl, which makes it even harder to fathom that she may be cheating on you. A cheating wife is a concern that haunts many a man in relationships, and the thought of your lady putting her paws on another man makes your skin crawl.

So how can you spot a cheating wife, and what do you do about it?

signs of a cheating wifeAlthough there are signs that can indicate that your wife is two-timing you, the thing to keep in mind is that you're looking for a change in her behavior patterns. The key to spotting a cheating wife is change , so if she's always been a guy's girl and has a lot of male friends, don't get all paranoid when you hear that she was seen with her friend Max at the movies, for example.

The following are 5 signs that she may be letting someone else taste her pudding:

1- She's no longer as needy

If she was never able to go shopping, exercise, or cross the street alone, and she suddenly doesn't need your company, it may mean that someone else is filling your shoes. It's possible that she just needs time to herself, but if she's unusually independent when she used to be overly needy, it may signal that she's just no longer as needy... of you.

2- She no longer gets angry

She used to get angry if you didn't want to meet her for lunch or come out with her and her friends, but now everything you do is all right by her. Once upon a time, your every move had to be premeditated, but now all the small things you used to mess up aren't enraging her. This could be a good thing, but you wonder why she no longer cares.

3- She's being secretive

She's no longer sharing her daily events with you, and in order to find out what she's doing, you'd have to break open her diary because she's not volunteering any information regarding the goings-on of her life. Of course, you could always ask...

4- She places the focus on you

When you do ask her questions, she turns the tables on you. The former chatterbox's batteries have run out and when you ask her how her night was, mum's the only word. It's now all about you, you, you, rather than "I did this" and "I went here last night."

5- She showers you with pleasure

Now that it's all about you, your girlfriend is always complimenting you, asking you to go out, giving you "I love you" cards for no reason whatsoever, and even offering to wash your car and watch the boxing match with you. While these gestures are more than sweet, it's this kind of overcompensating behavior that can make one suspicious. If she's bombarding you with niceties, it might be nice to know what's really going on.

get to the bottom of things

As I said earlier, these signs aren't the be-all end-all that she's been unfaithful. Change is the most important factor that must be evaluated if you find yourself suspicious of her, so look at how she used to be, and how she is now.

If she's spending less time with you, for example, it could either mean that she's avoiding you because she feels guilty for her actions, or she just doesn't care to spend as much time with you. The latter could be a sign of cheating, but it may also be the cause of why . how to handle it Now there's no need to get all paranoid and suspicious. If you think that her recent behavior isn't adding up or you catch her lying, then do not accuse her of cheating. Think about whether she's given you a reason to believe that she's two-timing you, or whether it's your imagination running wild because you're afraid of losing her.

You have a feeling

If you think she may be cheating, approach her but don't bring up the cheating. Ask her if everything is okay, and tell her that she's been acting different lately. Give her examples of how her behavior has changed, and tell her that you want to know and understand if there's a reason.

You want to open the lines of communication and encourage her to open up about what is troubling her in the relationship, and proceed from there. Approaching a cheating wife can be a delicate situation.

You have more than a sneaking suspicion

If you have adequate reason to believe that she's cheating on you, do not accuse or threaten her because if you're wrong, she'll feel that you really don't trust her. Rather than exclaiming, "I know what's going on!" or "Who have you been messing around with?", ask, "Is there something I should know about?" or "I have reason to believe that you're not being 100% honest with me."

This may seem passive, but you want to approach the topic carefully because if you're wrong, you may be messing up big time. But if you're right, then you have permission to raise Cain.

You catch her or have concrete evidence

If there is no way that this is a misunderstanding and you are positive that she's been pawing another dog, then you can approach her with more assertion. Tell her what you saw, how it makes you feel, and what you plan to do about it.

once a cheater...

Being unfaithful in a relationship is horrible, but there is a bigger picture here. You have to realize that a cheating wife may be the result of a problem in your relationship. If she's deceiving you by getting cuddly with another man, it could mean that she is going elsewhere to find what your relationship lacks, which doesn't make her actions right, only less despicable. forgive and forgetIf you discover that she cheated on you, there are a few questions you must ask yourself:


Can you trust her again?

If the answer is No:
You can't get back together.

If the answer is Yes:
It may take time, but you can give it another try. You'll have to tell her that it'll be hard to trust her, but with her help and time, it can happen.


Why do you think she did it?

If she doesn't tell you why:
You'll have to evaluate whether you can still forgive her.

If it has to do with your relationship:
When you're ready, you can work on the problems in your relationship.


Is your relationship worth another try?

If you can move past her deceit and give her another chance, then when you're ready, sit down, talk to her, and try to understand why she did it. There may be no reason at all (it could just be the fault of stupidity with a pinch of vodka), but if there is a reason why she cheated on you, then ignoring why she did it can lead it to happen again -- and then you'll be cheating yourself.

We all make mistakes, which doesn't make cheating acceptable, but if she shows remorse for her actions and if she's worth the effort of giving it another shot, then you can forgive although you may need more time to forget.

[Revert]

Originally Posted by GOTFIVEONIT

i say if you catch your wife cheating, videotape it and go sell it on the internet. at least you will make some quick cash outta it.

YOU have the nerve to call yourself a Muslim?

[wheelworks]

Originally Posted by Revert

YOU have the nerve to call yourself a Muslim?

Yea but he's not a Practicing muslim donchaknow

[Revert]

Originally Posted by wheelworks

Yea but he's not a Practicing muslim donchaknow

I didn't realize that Muslim meant one who calls themselves one thing but does another...i beleive that term is munafiq

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

That's the most stupid article. MAYBE she's just trying not to stress the guy out with demands, requests and complaints....so she can get her daily allowance increased.

[Spice]

i say if you catch your wife cheating, videotape it and go sell it on the internet. at least you will make some quick cash outta it.

Wow, you've really outdone yourself gotty.

Tell us, are you this cheap a man in reality, or do you just do it for the heck of it because its an online forum?
Actually, I doubt you can even call yourself a man. You have no gheerah, no self-respect, no pride. You're no good as a human being. Period.

Go and do salah Tasbeeh or something, and ponder over what you are, or what you have become. Find solace in the remembrance of Allah. Strive. Try harder at life, you failure of the century.

[Kona_Silat]

Originally Posted by Revert

I didn't realize that Muslim meant one who calls themselves one thing but does another...i beleive that term is munafiq

He works at a porno store.

[GOTFIVEONIT]

its not about about being a muslim, its about swift justice, and technology has allowed us to exact swift justice in this manner without resorting to violence such as beatings that plenty of you fanatics advocate for an adultress. so yes spice, i meant every word i said, i believe what i wrote is fully justified, and i encourage other men to do the same thing.

remember guy's most of these girls here are feminazis and oprah, the queen of the feminazis, taught them that if a man cheat's its YOUR fault, but if a wife cheats it's still YOUR fault.

[Spice]

Originally Posted by GOTFIVEONIT

its not about about being a muslim, its about swift justice, and technology has allowed us to exact swift justice in this manner without resorting to violence such as beatings that plenty of you fanatics advocate for an adultress. so yes spice, i meant every word i said, i believe what i wrote is fully justified, and i encourage other men to do the same thing.

remember guy's most of these girls here are feminazis and oprah, the queen of the feminazis, taught them that if a man cheat's its YOUR fault, but if a wife cheats it's still YOUR fault.

You are a complete waste of limbs.

[Anderson]

I don't see anything wrong in this article?

[Revert]

Originally Posted by Anderson

I don't see anything wrong in this article?

it was the sentence preceding it i took issue with.

Originally Posted by GOTFIVEONIT

its not about about being a muslim, its about swift justice, and technology has allowed us to exact swift justice in this manner without resorting to violence such as beatings that plenty of you fanatics advocate for an adultress. so yes spice, i meant every word i said, i believe what i wrote is fully justified, and i encourage other men to do the same thing.

remember guy's most of these girls here are feminazis and oprah, the queen of the feminazis, taught them that if a man cheat's its YOUR fault, but if a wife cheats it's still YOUR fault

Justice would be a swift divorce not revenge. If there were witnesses then the adultery shoudl eb dealt with in accordance with Shariah.

If you live in the west then your screwed because the divorce system is messed up. If you don't trust your wife then don't marry her in the first place.

[GOTFIVEONIT]

Originally Posted by Spice

You are a complete waste of limbs.

and your an idiotic feminazi, nothing more, nothing less.

[GOTFIVEONIT]

Originally Posted by Revert

it was the sentence preceding it i took issue with.



Justice would be a swift divorce not revenge. If there were witnesses then the adultery shoudl eb dealt with in accordance with Shariah.

If you live in the west then your screwed because the divorce system is messed up. If you don't trust your wife then don't marry her in the first place.

i was talking about catching her in the act, what else are you going to record after all?

ooh btw i read your lil comment you left on my profile, if you want to threaten me, how about i come fly out to ny instead and we can box it out there? you wanna find me? i attend jame masjid on devon av for jummah, i wear a big blue allah cap that you cant miss, your more than welcome to stand outside in front of the entrance on maplewood st, waiting for me, be my frickin guest!

[Jamroll]

Can I just remind everyone that threats of physical violence are not allowed.

But if you must challenge each other to boxing matches, please take it to PMs.

[Revert]

Originally Posted by GOTFIVEONIT

i was talking about catching her in the act, what else are you going to record after all?

ooh btw i read your lil comment you left on my profile, if you want to threaten me, how about i come fly out to ny instead and we can box it out there? you wanna find me? i attend jame masjid on devon av for jummah, i wear a big blue allah cap that you cant miss, your more than welcome to stand outside in front of the entrance on maplewood st, waiting for me, be my frickin guest!

I said it in private as not to cause a scene bro, as per the terms of agreement. but as you had to do it in the middle of the thread, shows your nothing more than hot air.

I know your stats bro...i can easily take you, which is why i said it with no anger nor aggression. Fly out to NJ bro i'll be attending Omars Mosque in Paterson after i get a car you more than welcome to attend. IN fact I'll let you know whan you can come, i'll give you the times and dastes i'll attend inshaAllah.

Start training now you will need it.