Marriage Contract

wheelworks · #1 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 08:38 AM

Lets Brainstorm:

Unmarried peeps: What would you put in a marriage contract and why?

Married peeps: What did you put and what did you wish you had put in your marriage contract and why?

- WheelieWorksy...

IbnMardhiyah · #2 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 06:54 PM

Use the search function please.

MossadConspiracy · #3 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 06:58 PM

I doubt I am going to marry a girl who is dumb enough to accept the kind of contract i would want and i wouldnt sign anything else

so no contract. just the typical arabic stuff with no legal bearing signed in a mosque and filed in some imams desk

displaced · #4 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 07:02 PM

I don't want a contract. I'll accept the hand fate deals me.

Aryan_ · #5 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 07:09 PM

Naked sundays.

MossadConspiracy · #6 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by displaced

I don't want a contract. I'll accept the hand fate deals me.

you dont need a contract in america

MossadConspiracy · #7 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Aryan_

Naked sundays.

ok maybe contracts are of some use in this country

Songbird · #8 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by wheelworks

Lets Brainstorm:

Unmarried peeps: What would you put in a marriage contract and why?

Married peeps: What did you put and what did you wish you had put in your marriage contract and why?

- WheelieWorksy...

Stuff about education. For example if she wishes to pursue further education [ie Masters/PhD], then she needs to stipulate her conditions. I say this as I've seen some marriages go awry because the girl wanted to further education, hubby to be said "fine, no problem", but once they were married, he had a change of heart.

Some sisters I know also mentioned no second wifey but personally I'm against that.

shadha · #9 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 07:34 PM

We both echoed each others sections in the contract. Support in continuing our education, patience with work/salary, keep the house Halal, mutual respect, children come first, and in the event of divorce how the child custody and child support goes.

The only times where our sides of the contract 'differed' were in his section when he requested that our children not attend daycare and my part where I requested that our children not attend public school. Also, I added that in the event that he loses his damn mind and seeks out a second wife, it will be immediate grounds for divorce.

I have no regrets for my contract. We didn't put in arbitrary stipulations or anything. It was simple, straight-forward, and we kept it real.

shadha-

vegetables · #10 (**permalink**) 11-14-2007, 07:48 PM

Hrmm haven't thought much about it but it would probably go something like this:..
I would pay for her education if shes in school. While the kids are young I wouldn't want her working full time... In case of divorce all kids need their mom more so that'll probably lean her way depending on circumstances. Def not going the American way and giving away half of what I have in the event of a divorce

displaced · #11 (**permalink**) 11-15-2007, 03:22 AM

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Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

ok maybe contracts are of some use in this country

nothing wrong with naked sundays.

Timbit · #12 (**permalink**) 11-15-2007, 07:58 AM

How does a contract help anything?

I mean... if he gets a second wife, that's grounds for divorce anyway, at least if you're in Canada/America/the UK, yes?

And if somebody changes their mind on something, then what happens?

Ilikemyscarf · #13 (**permalink**) 11-15-2007, 08:24 AM

Education after marriage
Be allowed to work

wheelworks · #14 (**permalink**) 11-15-2007, 08:38 AM

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Originally Posted by IbnMardhiyah

Use the search function please.

No I want to start a new thread...

You can always ignore my threads if they offend you instead of spamming em...

wheelworks · #15 (**permalink**) 11-15-2007, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Timbit

How does a contract help anything?

I mean... if he gets a second wife, that's grounds for divorce anyway, at least if you're in Canada/America/the UK, yes?

And if somebody changes their mind on something, then what happens?

So you're willing to give your life away to a complete stranger with just a verbal agreement?

A contract ensures a woman can keep her rights as well as prevent either party from being taken advantage of.

When a couple meets, it's practically impossible to know all the ins and outs of the other party even if you spend years doing it, because they don't live together.

All the benefits of a contract outweigh it's potential disadvantages. I pity the girl who goes into marriage without a contract. It might go well, but that's a very slim chance...