Does Marriage solve loneliness?

Akram2 · #1 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 07:01 PM

I have been feeling lonely for many years because of the cirumstances in my life. If i get married will it solve my loneliness problems?

sumiyia · #2 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 07:19 PM

it may or may not. i dont know your circumstances, and even if i did, i can't really say.

Timbit · #3 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 07:24 PM

For many years?
You're 20.

gmk · #4 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 08:35 PM

According to this article:

New Depression Rx: Get Married | LiveScience

Depressed people find a larger improvement in happiness when they get married than happy people do, but happy people are happier in their marriages in absolute terms. So, bottom line is, yes marriage can help, but if you want to be even *happier* in your marriage, work on being happy first. (I know, easier said than done)

zakk · #5 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 10:01 PM

you have to love yourself before you can really love someone else.

wheelworks · #6 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by zakk

you have to love yourself before you can really love someone else.

And how may I ask?

Dubai3000 · #7 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 10:42 PM

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the_only_one · #8 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 10:57 PM

Nope it doesn't we gotta learn tobe content with ourselves...imagine, if u find yourself boring, how would ur spouse perceive you once you make it obivious that u are not content with urself? then u'd be selling urself short..with the exception she/he is complete opp. of u and finds everything abt u intriguing..these are rare exceptions..

real · #9 (**permalink**) 10-22-2007, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by wheelworks

And how may I ask?

learn to love Allah the way He asks you to.

wheelworks · #10 (**permalink**) 10-23-2007, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by real

learn to love Allah the way He asks you to.

Oh now I get it. Ok

lol_lol · #11 (**permalink**) 10-23-2007, 11:35 AM

it depends what kind of marriage your in, if ur in a bad marriage then your gonna feel more lonely than ever. its like when your surrounded by people but you still feel all alone.

iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu · #12 (**permalink**) 10-23-2007, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by lol_lol

it depends what kind of marriage your in, if ur in a bad marriage then your gonna feel more lonely than ever. its like when your surrounded by people but you still feel all alone.

speaking from experience?

lol_lol · #13 (**permalink**) 10-23-2007, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu

speaking from experience?

well yeah actually i have in the past, not the marriage part thou.

TariqBinSleepin · #14 (**permalink**) 10-23-2007, 01:40 PM

AssalamuAlaikum bro,

To answer the prominent question. Yes it does solve loneliness. But I think before you even consider marriage. Are you ready for it? Are you financially, emotionally, and socially, meaning, is your family behind this notion? Bro, if you're feeling lonely then it is time to get married. In my opinion I think you have to have your iman at a stage where you should understand what it means islamically to be getting married! Its a great thing and HALF of your deen to get married.

Here is some info. i found on marriage, written by: Prof. Abdur Rahman I. Doi Professor and Director, Center for Islamic Legal Studies, Ahmadu Bello University, Zaira, Nigeria. The article was published on the USC-MSA Site.

"Allah has created men and women as company for one another, and so that they can procreate and live in peace and tranquillity according to the commandments of Allah and the directions of His Messenger. The Qur'an says:

And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)

And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best. (16:72)

"O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty." (Al-Bukhari) "

I think, you should talk to you're parents about getting married. If you have a older sister or cousin ask them if they know any one who is looking to get married. Believe it or not, some may not agree but i think you can online as well. If you're of indo/pak decent theres SHAADI.com. Then theres a muslimsingles.com i think is a another matrimonial website. If you are in the chicago area theres ISNA which holds matrimonials every year. Theres Texas Dawah, not sure if they do it or not. But, in my opinon, i would try to REFINE my deen first before considering marriage, but like i said all this my own opinion. And keep your chin up BRO! Hang out with muslims brothers, MSA! Go on outings, just go to your local mosque, im sure they have like good events. Make some more muslim friends. Pray more, listen to lectures, just some tips, u dont have to listen to um but you asked. WHat brings you to being lonely anyways?

Aryan_ · #15 (**permalink**) 10-23-2007, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Akram2

I have been feeling lonely for many years because of the cirumstances in my life. If i get married will it solve my loneliness problems?

It might do. Try it and let us know how it goes.

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Originally Posted by zakk

you have to love yourself before you can really love someone else.

I thought that was a no-no in islam.