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02-12-2009, 01:51 PM
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Marriage without a wali.
As-Salamu Alaykum,
Is it possible to get married without a wali, im not a muslim but the man i want to marry is. My family is mainly women (mother and sister) i do not have any males that i am close with. Also is it discouraged to get married without the family knowing, the reason for this is that we want to have a halal relationship, but my family want me to put education first instead of marriage (they do not want me to be distracted) Thank you. 
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02-13-2009, 12:05 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
Assalam Alaykum,
Firstly, I would'nt advise you get to ask for help on this or any other public Islamic forum. The reason is that you need someone who is well versed in the religion and/or a Scholar to give you advise on something like the above situation. Is it possible for you to contact an Islamic Scholar somehow? Maybe the Imam of the mosque in your area? There are Scholars who you can get their details online or e-mail them. Well, technically a Man does not need a Wali to get married, but a Woman does. I'm not sure how the rule changes when it is someone who is a Non-Muslim from the Ahl Kitab [Jews/Christains], but I have a feeling she too would require a Wali considering the fact that regardless if its a Muslim Woman or someone from the People of the Book, the Man needs to give her her mahr.
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02-13-2009, 02:14 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
Asalamu Alaikum,
You can check out this link given below, which gives a general outline. But like Bluey said, for your unique situation you need to get a hold of someone who has strong authority in such matters and will be able to guide you according to your specific needs. Feel free to PM me if you need help finding someone. Islamtoday.Com - Marriage with Christian or Jewish woman And Allah(swt) knows best. Fi AmanAllah
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02-13-2009, 05:01 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
yeah, all you need are witnesses
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02-13-2009, 05:02 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
assalamu alaykum
You're not Muslim so I'm wondering whether Islamic law would even apply to you?  In the hanafi madhab a woman doesn't need a wali. In fact, a proposal and acceptance of it infront of two, sane, Muslim males is valid.
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02-13-2009, 05:26 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
Yes you can.
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02-13-2009, 07:42 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
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I'm not qualified to answer your question but I have to tell you...before you marry a muslim man....Make sure his family (mother especially) knows about you and knows of your intention to marry. I have heard many horror stories where the muslim husband never tells his family he married outside of the religion...and the poor girl gets horrible treatment because of it. ...So just make sure you cover all your bases and get the family involved before you make a huge commitement....Becasue in Islam...its not just a marriage of two people its a marriage of familes 
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02-13-2009, 08:41 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
ya'll got issuessss....... what are you gonna do if he knocks you up? "Oh mom, I'm just getting fat"? And then what if he leaves you?
Just kidding. Muslim men don't do that, right?
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02-13-2009, 08:42 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
Muslim men are responsible.
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02-13-2009, 09:19 AM
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02-13-2009, 09:46 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
And whatever happens don't forget the bicycle made for two
 
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02-13-2009, 11:36 AM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
what some of hte people above said.
having a secret marriage is going to hurt you... make sure the boy's family is well aware that he's marrying you. its common for the boy to 'play around' and then when mummy finds a serious contender for a daughter in law, you're left in the lurch. In either case - whether his family knows or not - make sure you get a civil contract done as well, by the government authorities. Many times, this will be your only protection, so do not compromise on this. Unless of course, he decides to run away and go back to his home country...
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02-13-2009, 07:18 PM
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Re: Marriage without a wali.
He probably just wants to get in your pants.
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02-13-2009, 08:26 PM
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02-14-2009, 06:49 AM
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