[raatkirani2005]

Originally Posted by HijabiPrincezz

and really, parents dont stick around forever. take care of them while you can.

This reminds me of my aunt. She's 70 and STILL taking care of her MIL

[amal512]

Originally Posted by infamousbrown

I hear what Glasgow is saying.

The reason I'm waiting on marriage is so that I can afford a place of my own. Even if its renting to start.

Don't get me wrong, I love my family and my parents to death. I however, have had 24 years to get used to them.

My future wife might not be able to handle the way things are run at our little zoo


Oh and I'll be damned if I move in with her folks. No. Nein. Nyet. Nai. Nahein. Non.

Her daddy and me in the same house might give her problems with who she has to answer to.

Think about the same situation, but reversed. How about her and her mother-in-law? What position would that put you in? think about it....

[infamousbrown]

Originally Posted by amal512

Think about the same situation, but reversed. How about her and her mother-in-law? What position would that put you in? think about it....

Correct me if I'm wrong but I'm pretty sure there are at least a couple of sahih hadith where the prophet disapproved of men favoring their wives over their mother.

That aside -

with respect to issues of authority etc, that's why I want my own place where I can live with my wife alone.

I thought that was pretty clearly spelled out at the beginning of the post you quoted.


+10 for reading comprehension.

[amal512]

Originally Posted by infamousbrown

Correct me if I'm wrong but I'm pretty sure there are at least a couple of sahih hadith where the prophet disapproved of men favoring their wives over their mother.

That aside -

with respect to issues of authority etc, that's why I want my own place where I can live with my wife alone.

I thought that was pretty clearly spelled out at the beginning of the post you quoted.


+10 for reading comprehension.

I meant in general, not 'you' specifically.. figure of speech(+10 for that!). Most desi men don't want to get in the middle of the mother and the wife, but it's bound to happen when both sides are complaining to him. Speaking from experience, it's good to have distance from both sides of the family.

[TrentReznor858]

Originally Posted by amal512

I meant in general, not 'you' specifically.. figure of speech(+10 for that!). Most desi men don't want to get in the middle of the mother and the wife, but it's bound to happen when both sides are complaining to him. Speaking from experience, it's good to have distance from both sides of the family.

I couldnt agree more.

[infamousbrown]

Originally Posted by amal512

I meant in general, not 'you' specifically.. figure of speech(+10 for that!). Most desi men don't want to get in the middle of the mother and the wife, but it's bound to happen when both sides are complaining to him. Speaking from experience, it's good to have distance from both sides of the family.

Which part was the figure of speech? Using the pronoun 'you', which figuratively referred to me instead of literally referring to me? +10 for your grasp of the language.

Again you echo the underlying reason behind my initial post.

What exactly are you getting at?

[amal512]

Originally Posted by infamousbrown

Which part was the figure of speech? Using the pronoun 'you', which figuratively referred to me instead of literally referring to me? +10 for your grasp of the language.

Again you echo the underlying reason behind my initial post.

What exactly are you getting at?

whatever man.. go pick a fight with someone who cares. salaams

[infamousbrown]

Originally Posted by amal512

whatever man.. go pick a fight with someone who cares. salaams

You think I'm trying to pick a fight? I'm just calling you on not making sense. Sorry if that was too terse for your liking.

[sally]

sigh.

We plan, and Allah plans....and verily He is the Best of Planners

[Asvi]

Originally Posted by thejellymill

In all the cases she's seen or that I've heard of it's always the 2nd born son who is expected to care for the parents (if there are 2 or more sons). I'm not sure where this 1st son thing keeps popping up from.

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. .......damn it! lol

[amal512]

Originally Posted by infamousbrown

You think I'm trying to pick a fight? I'm just calling you on not making sense. Sorry if that was too terse for your liking.

-10 for your lack of reading comprehension... read the last line I wrote. My point was and is that distance from both sides of the family is healthy for a couple. That's it.

[infamousbrown]

Originally Posted by amal512

-10 for your lack of reading comprehension... read the last line I wrote. My point was and is that distance from both sides of the family is healthy for a couple. That's it.

Haha no that part made sense.

What doesn't make sense is why you asked me the question to begin with if ultimately you claim to agree with my initial posting.

Unless you had a road to damascus moment somewhere in between.

[sumiyia]

ok children.. break it up.. and have a

[m_ali_qazi]

Originally Posted by infamousbrown

Haha no that part made sense.

What doesn't make sense is why you asked me the question to begin with if ultimately you claim to agree with my initial posting.

Unless you had a road to damascus moment somewhere in between.

who you callin a....."dont make sense"

[sumiyia]

hello infamousbrown... as far as me stifling debate goes.. i don't see how my cookie is stifling you two bickering about reading comprehension points...