[ablaye]

As Salam Alaykum,

How would you deal with living with a muslim roomate who does not pray?
Recently, I agreed to take in a muslim brother from Tunisia in my apartment as a roomate. He is much older than me. He is in his mid 40s and I am just 30 years old.
I am fed up with his non-islamic manners and ready to kick him out.
Would you do the same?

Thanks

[Timbit]

Originally Posted by ablaye

As Salam Alaykum,

How would you deal with living with a muslim roomate who does not pray?
Recently, I agreed to take in a muslim brother from Tunisia in my apartment as a roomate. He is much older than me. He is in his mid 40s and I am just 30 years old.
I am fed up with his non-islamic manners and ready to kick him out.
Would you do the same?

Thanks

Uh, no. It's none of your business what he does and doesn't do.
He's in his mid-40s and old enough to know what his religious obligations are.

You can try inviting him when you're praying. Be like "Wanna pray in jamaat?" That'll be like a little reminder to him. Or hang your prayer calendar in a spot that he can see.


But other than that, there's not much you can do and it's really not something to kick him out over.

[Sapphire]

What exactly do you mean by non-islamic manners?
So far all you've specified is the fact that he doesn't pray and tbh, that shouldn't be a big issue. I mean he's not affecting the living environment by not praying is he?

[tinkerbell]

its none of ur business.

[Ilikemyscarf]

Obviously it is his business because whatever his roomate does, is going to affect him too. I'd try talking things out first with him, it could just be a misunderstanding.

[wheelworks]

Hmmm....

Try leading by example and have more patience. If he isn't willing to change and you've exhausted all possible ideas, then kick him out

[Revert]

If it bothers you that much why not try sitting down with the guy and talking about why and whatfore before throwing him out.

[ablaye]

Originally Posted by tinkerbell

its none of ur business.

It is my business. It is my place and I invited him in because he did not have a place to live.
He is muslim and I can't stand muslims who don't pray.
When I gave him a prayer mat and showed him where the qibla is, he told me he did not pray and has not prayed for years. He told me that he even forgot how to pray.
When I pray, he sits on the couch and watches TV. He has no interest whatsoever and it is pissing me off.

[zakk]

You can't really force him to be interested. But perhaps you can set a good example for him by living Islam, and laying off the preaching for a bit. If he's forgotten things, or has never known them, directly preaching to him might make him defensive and push him further away.

As long as he is not ridiculing it, you might want to let him stay, since it could wind up benefiting him.

[Jamroll]

Ditto what zakk said.

Remember everyone is at different stages. Some people grew up in Muslim households but were never really shown how to practice Islam. Patience and encouragement.

[hijabihoodlum]

Originally Posted by ablaye

It is my business. It is my place and I invited him in because he did not have a place to live.
He is muslim and I can't stand muslims who don't pray.
When I gave him a prayer mat and showed him where the qibla is, he told me he did not pray and has not prayed for years. He told me that he even forgot how to pray.
When I pray, he sits on the couch and watches TV. He has no interest whatsoever and it is pissing me off.

when you invited him, did you specify that he had to pray? you really can't (and shouldn't) force someone to pray. as others have said, have patience. how about you make dua *for* him? please don't berate him though. it's not your right to ask religiosity of someone.

[Wolfn]

Also, if you force Islam onto him, that might turn him away. There's no compulsion in religion.

Just be concerned about yourself, pray the 5 daily prayers, go to Jummah, and act very Muslim around him. After awhile, he might join you in prayer or ask to go to Jummah with you.

BTW, how long has he been living with you?

[ablaye]

Originally Posted by Wolfn

BTW, how long has he been living with you?

Just a month. When I took him in as a roomate, I thought I was helping a muslim brother who needed a place to stay. But if he does not practice the deen, I feel I am not compelled to help him.

[YOUSUFofSD]

It's a burden on you bro, you were expecting to have a Muslim to help you out when you needed reminding and for you to help him out when he needed reminding. If you keep him as a roommate and help him out Allah will inshallah reward you. But if you feel him pulling you down, you may want to get a roommate that can help you in your Islam.

[Variable]

Is he bringing home girls or something? Or is it just the praying thing?