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Break off friendship but not all contact
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Break off all contact
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Remain friends
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Remain friends but with more limitations and being more cautious
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Its haraam, etc to have that kind of friendship in the first place.
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Its haraam, etc to have contact in the first place (friendship or not)
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01-06-2008, 10:21 AM
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
Being a loner is much better than being in a horrible group of friends or a nasty marriage innit 
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01-06-2008, 10:26 AM
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
ooooh this is a hard decison
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01-06-2008, 10:36 AM
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
Opposite gender friendships are detrimental to your marriage but you shouldn't keep these friendships before marriage anyway.
Only have that contact which is necessary.
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01-06-2008, 10:45 AM
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
So what about online interaction??
i.e. Islamica?
I'm confuzzled and curious 
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01-06-2008, 10:52 AM
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
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So what about online interaction??
i.e. Islamica?
I'm confuzzled and curious
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That's a good question but can only be productively discussed with someone who believes 'real world' contact should be that which is necessary only.
I would say friendly contact through private channels such as MSN is definitely off limits.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
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That's a good question but can only be productively discussed with someone who believes 'real world' contact should be that which is necessary only.
I would say friendly contact through private channels such as MSN is definitely off limits.
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What about webcamming is that halal?
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
webcamming is always halal.
Moving on, just adding to my previous post, yes, I would expect him to do the same [if I had to stop talking to my boy friends (hahaha  )] to his female friends. No double standards.
Also, I have like...2 boy-friends (hahah )so it wouldnt be all that difficult for me to ditch 'em  |
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
hmm I think it depends on your relationship.
certainly late night phone conversations would be out and discussing details of your relationship with your spouse would be a no-no.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
I generally avoid close relationships with women because of the problems that can happen. However, the answer to the question is probably no. I wouldnt cut off all contact but the nature of the relationship would change.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
NO I have 3 friends period.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
Hey, what about your feline friends.. 
I'ma tell them what you said and make them move in with me bwahahahhaa 
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
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Hey, what about your feline friends..
I'ma tell them what you said and make them move in with me bwahahahhaa
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haha they are my children not my friends!
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
Too true!! I hang my head for talking such nonsensical garbage.. 
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
to paraphrase chris rock, men dont have platonic female friends, they have friends they havent ****** yet lol. I share his sentiment. anywhooo I hope my significant other doesnt have any male friends.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
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to paraphrase chris rock, men dont have platonic female friends, they have friends they havent ****** yet lol. I share his sentiment. anywhooo I hope my significant other doesnt have any male friends.
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Haha.. that's so funny - but only coz I can imajin that lil twerp in his funny voice sayin it haha 
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