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Break off friendship but not all contact
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Break off all contact
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Remain friends but with more limitations and being more cautious
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Its haraam, etc to have that kind of friendship in the first place.
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Its haraam, etc to have contact in the first place (friendship or not)
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01-06-2008, 07:13 AM
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
I would break off all of my guy mates apart from Steven, hes da cool 
Plus 'the guy' doesn't/ wont have a problem with him.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
I'm a very trusting person. i'll make my guy save all his msn convos with his female friends and i'll go through them with a fine comb to make sure i'm not missing out any inuendos.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
if he wanted me to.
I don't have many guy friends anyway, just acquaintances. life is less complicated that way.
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i would remain friends.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
Define friends.
Does it mean that you'd call on them at their house and they yours? That you wouldn't mind being in the same room alone with em? That you would spend hours talking on the chat with em?
It's dangerous to push the boundaries of Haram and Halal donchaknow
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
If my wife wanted me to sure, but she doesn't mind the friends I have in real life.
all 3 of them 
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
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If my wife wanted me to sure, but she doesn't mind the friends I have in real life.
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I have trust issues. Each of my friends I ahve known over 20 years.
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
iA whoever i marry should be on the same wavelenght as myself on this. there should be no double standards on this issue islamically speaking
i used to think there was no harm in casual convos but it's really nothing worthwhile like displaced said. makes life less complicated. plus i think it's wrong
it's not about insecurity, it's about agreeing that something like this is wrong. like i wouldnt be ok with non zabiha eating, etc
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Wow, I thought you were kidding about the 3-friends-thing..
Sorry, I was only teasing you, bro 
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Wow, I thought you were kidding about the 3-friends-thing..
Sorry, I was only teasing you, bro
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I don't have ANY female friends donchaknow
I like being a loner
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Re: Would you cut off all opposite gender friendships after marriage?
Well you have your bike.. (and your phrase 'donchaknow') so u can't be that much of a loner, donchaknow
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Well you have your bike.. (and your phrase 'donchaknow') so u can't be that much of a loner, donchaknow
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I like long bike rides out in the open all alone. Gives me time to think about life and the pain lets me know I'm still alive. I have friends and theyre all guys who I kid around with and go to a halaqa with now and then.
Being a loner is nice...Sometimes...
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