Female Personal Hygiene

DramaRani · #**14941** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Salika

What the heck is going on in MPH? I'm confuzzled...

Anyways, by this time tomorrow it'll be illegal for me to marry anyone else. Oh, and I still need to finish packing. and I ahve a final at 6:30pm today. And I need to clean. And my flight is at 6:30am. I wonder if a cab can pick me up at 4ish am? Ya, probably...

Congratulations, Alh

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Salika · #**14942** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by afrakabob

mA, congratulations! it's not your actual wedding, is it? i thought that was in a few months.

Ya, that's in December insha'Allah. We're going to the court house and getting the marriage certificate. My parents felt more comfortable us being legally married ASAP since we were spending so much time together.

Salika · #**14943** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by khadeeja29

my sister in law wasn't able to conceive, even with treatment/procedures.. her husband stayed with her also, even under the pressure [to divorce] from his parents and sisters (he's the only 'marriageable' son - other brother has birth defects and no one will marry him). they ended up adopting

Ya, I know a few couples who stayed together even though one of them could not conceive.

khadeeja29 · #**14944** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by PhDGirl

That's sad about the pressure to divorce. Have they let up now that they've adopted?

yeah, i think they have.. because they adopted his sister's son from birth. he's 6 years old now. my husband said she used to cry because people would talk about her, no one ever congratulated her when the adoption went through, nobody threw her a baby shower, or did the usual traditions when their adopted son was born (like coming over with sweets), etc..

Asvi · #**14945** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 03:55 PM

i think its time for a group hug

thejellymill · #**14946** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 03:59 PM

khadeeja your sister in law has a very nice husband mA, she's really lucky

thejellymill · #**14947** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:01 PM

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Originally Posted by khadeeja29

yeah, i think they have.. because they adopted his sister's son from birth. he's 6 years old now. my husband said she used to cry because people would talk about her, no one ever congratulated her when the adoption went through, nobody threw her a baby shower, or did the usual traditions when their adopted son was born (like coming over with sweets), etc..

Poor lady

. May Allah reward both of them for their sabr and everything, ameen

thejellymill · #**14948** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:06 PM

alhamdulillah we're finally moving...about half the stuff has been moved out. My room in my apartment looks so bare!

I have horrible cramps

Timbit · #**14949** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:19 PM

Jellymill: Happy birthday!

If you can't have kids...just adopt. Enough kids out there need a home.

jaani · #**14950** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:26 PM

Congrats Salika!!

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sumiyia · #**14951** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:30 PM

3,141 pages done... 1,800 more pages to go. and then i start studying for my final tomorrow

iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu · #**14952** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:31 PM

i dont feel like cooking anymore

sumiyia · #**14953** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by khadeeja29

yeah, i think they have.. because they adopted his sister's son from birth. he's 6 years old now. my husband said she used to cry because people would talk about her, no one ever congratulated her when the adoption went through, nobody threw her a baby shower, or did the usual traditions when their adopted son was born (like coming over with sweets), etc..

wow... why are people such jerks??? they deserve a punch in the face..

DramaRani · #**14954** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:34 PM

My dad really wants to see Mamma Mia with my mom! She keeps telling him its a movie for girls

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Originally Posted by sona

insha'Allah whatever is best...

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p.s. in the case of my relative, she later married this guy that used to admire her in class.

and when she told him about her problem, he didn't think it was a big deal at all. alhumdulillah.

How chicken headed and low-balled? Was is really necessary to tell his family that? A simple, "I don't think it'll work out" wouldn't have sufficed? Alhumdulillah, you're cousin found someone that really was more deserving of her

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Personally, I don't think its a good idea to start a relationship like one of marriage based on a lie. Withholding information like being unable to conceive or other medical related things is kind of a big deal. And trust is a HUGE part of a relationship. This may also cause your spouse to question your morals and wonder if you were hiding other things. One of my cousins had double kidney failure. Alhumdulillah, he had a transplant and is doing well mA. He got married recently, but said that he made it very clear to his wife and the rest of her family that he was ill before and everything else. His inlaws were totally cool with it, Alh.

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Originally Posted by farah

i'm curious: if a number of people on different occasions have commented on a certain aspect of your behavior which they find to be rude or unnecessary, how long would it take for one to actually even consider their nasiha rather than tossing around "take it or leave, i am how i am"?

Some people are stubborn and are scared of change. What behavior is acceptable at their age now, will be unacceptable even to them in a few years. InshAllah, one day they'll look back and realize how they once were and promise never to be that way again. At least that's how I feel when I look back at the 21 year old Afifa vs he Afifa I currently am

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Originally Posted by Asvi

i think its time for a group hug

I have touch issues. I like to keep an arm's length away from people. When my friends try to hug me, I put up my hand for a high five instead

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Originally Posted by khadeeja29

yeah, i think they have.. because they adopted his sister's son from birth. he's 6 years old now. my husband said she used to cry because people would talk about her, no one ever congratulated her when the adoption went through, nobody threw her a baby shower, or did the usual traditions when their adopted son was born (like coming over with sweets), etc..

Dang

. We know two families that adopted children from Pakistan through the Eidhi (sp) Foundation. I remember attending a baby shower for one of the aunties. It was so long ago; however, people were so excited for her. I think that's pretty messed up. What happened to empathy? So what if she didn't birth the child and she adopted one? There are so many mothers that give birth and treat their kids like crap or worse. People that adopt should be celebrated that they are making a promise to care and love someone as if that someone is their own blood regardless of the reasons why they are adopting.

PhDGirl · #**14955** (**permalink**) 07-31-2008, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by khadeeja29

yeah, i think they have.. because they adopted his sister's son from birth. he's 6 years old now. my husband said she used to cry because people would talk about her, no one ever congratulated her when the adoption went through, nobody threw her a baby shower, or did the usual traditions when their adopted son was born (like coming over with sweets), etc..

Wow, that must have been hard on his sister. People are jerks - why not just be happy for them?