[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by nooni

sorry to hear that

now, i dont know how to express it to my friend (the bride to be) as to why i can't make it that day.we've been planning for her big day for few years now. it took her parents few years to accept this rishta when they finally did. this aunty made a big mess out of it..unfortunately, this aunty had some beef with her parents instead she unleashed at this poor girl..what a crappy way to get back at a family.. its heartbreaking when you can't stand up for this kinda injustice...this girl is one in million. known for her piety, patience and righteousness, the only thing crime she has ever committeed was meeting her fiance over the internet..thats the price she pays.

[nooni]

Originally Posted by the_only_one

now, i dont know how to express it to my friend (the bride to be) as to why i can't make it that day.we've been planning for her big day for few years now. it took her parents few years to accept this rishta when they finally did. this aunty made a big mess out of it..unfortunately, this aunty had some beef with her parents instead she unleashed at this poor girl..what a crappy way to get back at a family.. its heartbreaking when you can't stand up for this kinda injustice...this girl is one in million. known for her piety, patience and righteousness, the only thing crime she has ever committeed was meeting her fiance over the internet..thats the price she pays.

i dont even see why its considered a crime to meet someone online.... but do understand that the whole internet "dating" thing is new to our parents/grandparents generation. it doesnt give that aunty the right to do what she did, but maybe u can talk to ur mom about it and lighten the issue up a bit?

[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by nooni

i dont even see why its considered a crime to meet someone online.... but do understand that the whole internet "dating" thing is new to our parents/grandparents generation. it doesnt give that aunty the right to do what she did, but maybe u can talk to ur mom about it and lighten the issue up a bit?

it is possible that my parents might compromise and allow me..but it'll take a lot of elbow grease. despite of the fact, this aunty was the most liberal woman ive known..i still can't get over the fact, this particular aunty did such a thing. i had so much respect going for her.its unbelievable

[sumiyia]

i'd go anyway.. wth??? some people are so stupid..

[Sugarcore]

If you're invited to a wedding, aren't you obligated to attend, Islamically speaking? I think I read this somewhere but don't quote me on that.. anybody know the ruling on it? I'm not sure about the nikkah, but I know this is the case for walimas.

Sayyiduna Abd Allah ibn Umar (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “If one of you is invited to a wedding banquet (walima), then he must accept the invitation.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4878)

yeah...

Wow, someone gave me a one star rating. I got kind of used to seeing five stars on each of my posts.

[the_only_one]

Originally Posted by Sugarcore

If you're invited to a wedding, aren't you obligated to attend, Islamically speaking? I think I read this somewhere but don't quote me on that.. anybody know the ruling on it? I'm not sure about the nikkah, but I know this is the case for walimas.



yeah...

Wow, someone gave me a one star rating. I got kind of used to seeing five stars on each of my posts.

thankyou for quoting this awesome hadith. i usually win my arguments by quoting hadith and few ayahs of the quran that i know...i totally forgot about this hadith.


sumi: I would go to..but its my mom wouldnt be "too happy" about it..and i cna't take that...you know the frown you'd see..the long silence...

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by the_only_one

some women just need to think before they speak. seriously. just because one aunty let out a girl's secret on how her and her fiance met.[via internet].now none of our self righteous mothers are allowing us to attend the bridal shower/wedding etc...one small act ruined the couple's complete reputation completely...someone help me understand how backward our society is nowadays!

I don't understand the problem - why does it ruin their reputation or prevent people from going to the shower or wedding?

[heba]

WOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW what a horrible day. holy crap. i really really need a punching bag. i cant wait until tomorrow and my house is empty again. im beyond stressed out and WOW i just need privacy again and to sleep in my own bed

i need to vent and complain and let it all out. i cant stand anyone anymore i needddddddddddddddddd them all to leave and i need to sleep on a real bed my bed is BROKEN. i cried today from stress and anger adn frustration

ughhhhhhhhhhhhh

AND to top it all off my nose is peeling from sunburn and i look so ugly and it hurts

[jaani]

Originally Posted by the_only_one

some women just need to think before they speak. seriously. just because one aunty let out a girl's secret on how her and her fiance met.[via internet].now none of our self righteous mothers are allowing us to attend the bridal shower/wedding etc...one small act ruined the couple's complete reputation completely...someone help me understand how backward our society is nowadays!

If she really is a good friend, then you should go. Talk to your parents and try to make them understand that it doesn't matter how they met or what that horrible aunty said......what matters is that she is your friend and you can't let her down.

Actually, it is no ones business how they met. Apart from the reason that the aunty had some problems with the girls parents, I think the mentality here is that now all their daughters will find a guy off the internet........and you know just how wrong that is!

I hope you find a solution to this......forget what society thinks, do the right thing!

~j

[sumiyia]

my family is the most dysfunctional family in history. masha'allah

[Ilikemyscarf]

Ugh, I would take emotional pain over this physical pain any day. This is so painful. Forget childbirth, I can't handle this.

[Sugarcore]

ohomyfreeeeeeeeakingosh, I can't even sleep in on a Saturday. Stupid construction workers decide to use their bulldozers and turn on their alarms repeatedly at 6 in the morning. I have the worst headache ever. arrrrghhhhshutupppp!

[displaced]

Originally Posted by the_only_one

now, i dont know how to express it to my friend (the bride to be) as to why i can't make it that day.we've been planning for her big day for few years now. it took her parents few years to accept this rishta when they finally did. this aunty made a big mess out of it..unfortunately, this aunty had some beef with her parents instead she unleashed at this poor girl..what a crappy way to get back at a family.. its heartbreaking when you can't stand up for this kinda injustice...this girl is one in million. known for her piety, patience and righteousness, the only thing crime she has ever committeed was meeting her fiance over the internet..thats the price she pays.

I would go. you're a grown-up now. ou can make your own decisions.

[spicyhijabi]

Originally Posted by displaced

I would go. you're a grown-up now. ou can make your own decisions.

I would go too.
I don't see how they met as being such a big deal that you shouldn't go.

[Salika]

Originally Posted by spicyhijabi

I would go too.
I don't see how they met as being such a big deal that you shouldn't go.

As much as I don't agree with the aunties here, just going against the parents' wishes (yes, even if they are all grown-up) is easier said than done.