[sally]

i really kinda wish sometimes my mom would be home more often.

[sumiyia]

had a mental and emotional breakdown yesterday. fun times.

[thejellymill]

dua's for qudsia and sumiyia and everyone else

alhamdulillah i just woke up. The ibuprofen got rid of the aches and pains but the stuffy head and drippy nose is still here. Plus, I missed jumu'ah...my apartment is ON TOP OF THE MASJID so how sad is that? I see all the brothers playing bball out there after jumu'ah. Wish I'd gone and seen some of my friends.. oh well. It's homework time now!

[farah]

hi friends

[fatima]

Originally Posted by sumiyia

had a mental and emotional breakdown yesterday. fun times.

duaas coming your way sumi

sheesh...when it rains it pours in fph

hang in there ladies. keep in mind that we're never given any burden we can't bear. im here if any of you needs anything

ok i know this is super cheesy and gay, but i think its true and i actually really like this quote: "everything is OK in the end, if its not OK, then its not the end."

[serendipity_000]

Originally Posted by sally

i really kinda wish sometimes my mom would be home more often.

Yea...I wish my parents in general were home more often. We live in Conn and my father works in Manhattan and his job leaves him little free time. He is ALWAYS working. He doesn't even need to work at all, but he's addicted or something

[DramaRani]

I need some advice...

Please don't quote the white part. I'm going to go back and delete it in a bit. Thanks .

Here's what I need to know, should I go or not? I was planning to show my face for 45 minutes and leave, but now I don't even feel like doing that. What would you all do?

(Remember please don't quote the white part. I'm going to delete that.)

[vanillawafer]

Originally Posted by DramaRani

I need some advice...

Please don't quote the white part. I'm going to go back and delete it in a bit. Thanks .

Here's what I need to know, should I go or not? I was planning to show my face for 45 minutes and leave, but now I don't even feel like doing that. What would you all do?

(Remember please don't quote the white part. I'm going to delete that.)

I wouldn't go. I'd stick to my original plans. They seem important since you made them a month ahead. I'd either email or call her back saying I couldn't make it since I already had plans, in a nice way of course. I wouldn't want her to think I wasn't going just because of what she said.

[DramaRani]

Originally Posted by vanillawafer

I wouldn't go. I'd stick to my original plans. They seem important since you made them a month ahead. I'd either email or call her back saying I couldn't make it since I already had plans, in a nice way of course. I wouldn't want her to think I wasn't going just because of what she said.

I wasn't going to change my original plan that I made over a month ago. I'm still going there since that starts later in the evening. The thing that really put me off was just her attitude in the email about it not being offensive. Yeah its not offensive, but when that person who it wasn't really meant for, but it was about has to read it, that's offensive.

[vanillawafer]

Originally Posted by DramaRani

I wasn't going to change my original plan that I made over a month ago. I'm still going there since that starts later in the evening. The thing that really put me off was just her attitude in the email about it not being offensive. Yeah its not offensive, but when that person who it wasn't really meant for, but it was about has to read it, that's offensive.

How well do you know her? is she a friend or more of an acquaintance? If she's a close family friend, then maybe I'd go for 45 min or so like you said. If its not, then I wouldn't' bother at all. Have you told your mom about it or no? Its more family thats worried about offending people. I really could care less.

[fatima]

fifa, is it possible its a misunderstanding and she meant that in a "i know she's not from CT so i didnt think she'd be able to come all the way here for it" way?

it seems like she tried or is trying to make things cool with you if she apologized a few times. i usually try as a rule of thumb to give friends the benefit of the doubt and try not to judge their intentions if anything weird like this ever happens.

as to whether or not you should go...i think you should at least for a little. if you have other plans, its all good. but bear in mind that after what went down already, if you decide not to go for whatever reason, it is only going to prolong the tense situation and probably make it worse since she will most likely assume you didnt come cuz youre still mad (and that may not be the case). i guess to make the decision, weigh whether or not its worth it to you to have the extra drama and hassle in your life. if it were me, id suck it up and go even if i didnt really want to, even if its not a misunderstanding and her intentions were not what they should have been, you can still be the better person and not stoop to her pettiness.

anywho...if you do go, have fun!

[DramaRani]

Originally Posted by vanillawafer

How well do you know her? is she a friend or more of an acquaintance? If she's a close family friend, then maybe I'd go for 45 min or so like you said. If its not, then I wouldn't' bother at all. Have you told your mom about it or no? Its more family thats worried about offending people. I really could care less.

I've known her since the day she was born. Our families are very good friends. My mom doesn't know about the email because my mom and dad would be pretty pissed. My mom's actually invited to another event that day too, so she's expecting me to go drop the gift off in case she can't make it.

Originally Posted by fatima

fifa, is it possible its a misunderstanding and she meant that in a "i know she's not from CT so i didnt think she'd be able to come all the way here for it" way?

it seems like she tried or is trying to make things cool with you if she apologized a few times. i usually try as a rule of thumb to give friends the benefit of the doubt and try not to judge their intentions if anything weird like this ever happens.

as to whether or not you should go...i think you should at least for a little. if you have other plans, its all good. but bear in mind that after what went down already, if you decide not to go for whatever reason, it is only going to prolong the tense situation and probably make it worse since she will most likely assume you didnt come cuz youre still mad (and that may not be the case). i guess to make the decision, weigh whether or not its worth it to you to have the extra drama and hassle in your life. if it were me, id suck it up and go even if i didnt really want to, even if its not a misunderstanding and her intentions were not what they should have been, you can still be the better person and not stoop to her pettiness.

anywho...if you do go, have fun!

The event isn't even in CT. The event is here in our hometown. The thing is that she did something in the past to me, which took me a very, very long time to forgive. Our friendship has never been the same since. I am the type of person that won't hold a grudge, but then I don't want to have anything to do with that person. I don't hate her and I am not mad at her. I just don't want to be that person's friend. You know what I mean? I've always gone out of my way to be nice to her and I've always attended every single event that she's had. I just feel really turned off about this.

This is so freakin' complicated .

[thejellymill]

DR: man.. ugh. that's uhh, erm awkard, to say the least.. that wasn't very nice of her. She was obviously feeling like a deer caught in headlights when she found out she accidentally sent it to you and then it sounds like she tried to act "tough" (by saying there was nothing wrong in the first place) in an attempt to look less foolish. She's the one at fault here for being so careless with her emails.

I agree with fatima though, I think you should go as a way of saying "alright it was awkward but let's just forget about it"...of course if that's what you want to do. Inshallah after that if any more drama stems from this awkward incident it will be her responsibility and not yours because you would have been the bigger person. Good luck

[zakk]

I need a bunch of duas, please.

[thejellymill]

Originally Posted by DramaRani

The event isn't