[MossadConspiracy]

Originally Posted by niqabi

Another factor might be the tickets. Going back home can cost easily up to 1400 .. per immediate family member and if you're working with a tight budget, it becomes impossible to spend that much on tickets plus the actual wedding expenses!

well, yeah but the amount that is saved on the wedding itself will offset it and then some, unless the family is really big

but i see your point too. a wedding like that would probably only work out if one of the two people getting married is a fob or is living back at home..

its a pity because the weddings in egypt are a million times better than egyptian weddings in the USA

[MossadConspiracy]

Originally Posted by zakk

plus, for girls, friends are a big deal. And unless you're uber-rich and can pay for a bunch of tickets, she's going to be basically friendless for all the festivities.

another good point, but shouldnt family be more important than friends? I know this isnt true for everybody, but alot of people have way more relatives in their parents' country than they do here.

But I now understand why people are so averse to the idea.

ws

[sumiyia]

friends i grew up with and that are like sisters to me and who i'd give blood for

>

random relatives who i've never even met or heard of or care to hear of or talk to


... my whole dad's side of the family is back home. and part of my mom's side of the family as well. i would've hated to have my wedding back home. the relatives HERE gave enough drama as it was. i swear... random cousins who i hadn't spoken to in DECADES showed up out of nowhere so they could pretend to be my "sisters" and get joota chupai money and gifts in gold. lame.

[displaced]

Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

salam

i have a question that you girls might be able to help me with. its purely hypothetical, but lets say you were gonna get married to somebody whose family is from the same country as yours and somebody suggested the idea of having the wedding back home. The cons are that some of your friends couldnt attend, the pros are that all your family from over there could come and the wedding would be much fancier, better attended, better catered, etc. Why is it that most girls seem to be so dead set against that idea?

u have a great night, ws

probably bc friends can't attend and it takes away more of the planning process.

fiance and I have agreed on doing katb el kitab back in cairo so his family and friends can attend but the the wedding here so mine can with the additional benefit of it not having to be an enormous party (which it would if we did it in egypt). I'm not dead set on anything. I'd be happiest if we didn't have a wedding at all but this is a reasonable way to please everyone.

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by sumiyia

friends i grew up with and that are like sisters to me and who i'd give blood for

>

random relatives who i've never even met or heard of or care to hear of or talk to

.

Seriously.

My best friends are family and having a wedding without them would be just wrong.

[MossadConspiracy]

Originally Posted by displaced

probably bc friends can't attend and it takes away more of the planning process.

fiance and I have agreed on doing katb el kitab back in cairo so his family and friends can attend but the the wedding here so mine can with the additional benefit of it not having to be an enormous party (which it would if we did it in egypt). I'm not dead set on anything. I'd be happiest if we didn't have a wedding at all but this is a reasonable way to please everyone.

yeah, those seem to be the two main reasons. I guess it makes sense too, especially in families where most of the clan has immigrated.

I just think the weddings in Egypt are awesome. I always have so much more fun over there, and they are definitely fancier (and cheaper, especially if you're in a well connected family). If two families are going to spend way more than they should on throwing a big party, they may as well spend it on something awesome instead of something mediocre. But whatever, weddings are all about making the bride happy, thats the entire point of the affair

[Aryan_]

Cheaper is definitely better when it comes to marriage.

[MossadConspiracy]

Originally Posted by sumiyia

friends i grew up with and that are like sisters to me and who i'd give blood for

>

random relatives who i've never even met or heard of or care to hear of or talk to


... my whole dad's side of the family is back home. and part of my mom's side of the family as well. i would've hated to have my wedding back home. the relatives HERE gave enough drama as it was. i swear... random cousins who i hadn't spoken to in DECADES showed up out of nowhere so they could pretend to be my "sisters" and get joota chupai money and gifts in gold. lame.

yeah but in the end, family is family. you have the same ancestors as they do. its not a trivial connection, and i think its pretty important islamically too. Anyway, I can understand that there would be disagreement about that, alot of people put their friends before their family or vice versa. Its a matter of personal choice

i dont get the thing about giving blood... thats a pretty small sacrifice, most of the blood that people donate is for complete strangers

[MossadConspiracy]

Originally Posted by Aryan_

Cheaper is definitely better when it comes to marriage.

yeah but its not just cheaper...

cheaper, fancier, more fun, better attended, better food, much better music..

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

i dont get the thing about giving blood... thats a pretty small sacrifice, most of the blood that people donate is for complete strangers

I dont think she ment it litterally....more of symbolic kinda thing to emphaize her point.

[MossadConspiracy]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

My best friends are family and having a wedding without them would be just wrong.

yeah but would you do that at the expense of family? You're probably lucky in that you wont have to make that choice

anyway i was just wondering why most girls seem to be against it and you guys enlightened me, so thanks for doing that. I see where you're all coming from. It just sucks because weddings in Egypt are great, and whatever the two families end up spending to have a wedding here could have been spent on something ten million times better back home

[MossadConspiracy]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

I dont think she ment it litterally....more of symbolic kinda thing to emphaize her point.

I understood how she was using it, but thanks for clarifying anyway sister

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

anyway i was just wondering why most girls seem to be against it and you guys enlightened me, so thanks for doing that. I see where you're all coming from. It just sucks because weddings in Egypt are great, and whatever the two families end up spending to have a wedding here could have been spent on something ten million times better back home

glad FPH was good for something Just remember the marriage is what counts a wedding is just a day...or 5 depending on the culture hahaha

[Aryan_]

Hijabiprincess - thanks for the advice, I took what you said on board.

Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

yeah but its not just cheaper...

cheaper, fancier, more fun, better attended, better food, much better music..

The way I see it, if you're going to get married, that should be enough. Spending thousands of pounds on stupid decorations and belly dancers that you aren't even going to remember a year into the marriage is pointless, and just tells me the guy is trying to compensate for something else.

And don't get me started on food, any time food is preceded by the word catered I know it's going to taste crap.

Anyway, I should probably say something about tampons round about now.

[sona]

i like how this thread has been hijacked by 2 random guys.

:sarcastic smiley: