[HijabiPrincezz]

oh my GOD! i did 6 loads of laundry today. and i am TIRED. lesson of life: NEVER let your laundry pile up until ur down to ur last peice of shirt or pant and it hits you that you better wash em before thats gone too. unless you really enjoy tiring urself out.



hectic hectic day all revolving around DIRTY LAUNDRY!

[Ayooshi]

Originally Posted by HijabiPrincezz

oh my GOD! i did 6 loads of laundry today. and i am TIRED. lesson of life: NEVER let your laundry pile up until ur down to ur last peice of shirt or pant and it hits you that you better wash em before thats gone too. unless you really enjoy tiring urself out.



hectic hectic day all revolving around DIRTY LAUNDRY!

Asalamu Alaykum,

aww

When my mom was in pakistan, and I had midterms, I did the same. The pile ended up so huge that I filled 4 garbage bags of it and took it to the cleaners instead.

It was pretty tiring though...stuffing them into those bags. :P

Fi AmanAllah

[ChotooMotoo]

Originally Posted by HijabiPrincezz

oh my GOD! i did 6 loads of laundry today. and i am TIRED. lesson of life: NEVER let your laundry pile up until ur down to ur last peice of shirt or pant and it hits you that you better wash em before thats gone too. unless you really enjoy tiring urself out.



hectic hectic day all revolving around DIRTY LAUNDRY!

wow, that's a LOT of laundry

I think the most I've ever done was 5 loads at once (in a laundromat), but that included my clothes, my husbands clothes, towels, and bedding.

[thejellymill]

wow.. im sad. I don't think I even own enough clothes to do five loads of laundry

Sumiyia: man your poor friend, I really feel for her . However you have really good reasons for wanting to keep them and I understand. I would totally let someone borrow my clothes if it was like 5 or 10 years down the line (and no question about it if it was my daughter or my son's bride) but this situation is different and I agree with other fph-ers that you should nicely refuse and "sugarcoat" it (like someone else said). Does she like any of your other clothes that you suggested? It's a good idea to have your family help her out too if that's what she wants.

Good luck

[thejellymill]

I feel really really weird. My sister took off her hijab yesterday. I knew she had been thinking about it (she has been talking to our mom about it for months and my mom has told me). I know that it's her decision but at the same time it feels awkward to me and I feel hurt in some way (I feel weird for feeling hurt). The thing is, we started wearing hijab almost together (she did 3 months before me) and she actually sort of "inspired" me or helped me, even though she's 3 years younger. We went through all the stuff together that beginner hijabis go through. I guess I feel hurt because of that and also because she didn't really talk to me about it because she told my mom she felt I would be pushy and be angry at her and hate her for it.

So basically she picked me up at the train station yesterday wearing hijab and when we got home she told me she wanted to just leave it off after our hair appointments in the afternoon....what could I say? I asked her over and over again why? You can't just put it on and take it off. I don't know, I will probably come up with 100 things I could have said but at the time I was in total shock (and still am sort of). We went to my brother's 8th birthday party last night at this arcade/gokart place and she went wearing a short-sleeved t-shirt, jeans and no hijab. Of course my nonMuslim grandma couldn't stop talking about it (she never wanted us to "cover our beautiful beautiful hair") and I could tell my sister was very uncomfortable. She had told me earlier that "when I think of people saying 'I'm so glad you did this,' it makes me feel like I'm doing something bad" and I felt like saying "maybe because you are."

Everybody else is alright with it, mainly because none of them really care about hijab either way (my dad hates it actually) and they all feel she was too young in the first place to decide (she was 12).

Ugh. This has been a terrible terrible week and I still have a lot of late homework left to turn in for my online class.

[Salika]

Originally Posted by thejellymill

I feel really really weird. My sister took off her hijab yesterday. I knew she had been thinking about it (she has been talking to our mom about it for months and my mom has told me). I know that it's her decision but at the same time it feels awkward to me and I feel hurt in some way (I feel weird for feeling hurt). The thing is, we started wearing hijab almost together (she did 3 months before me) and she actually sort of "inspired" me or helped me, even though she's 3 years younger. We went through all the stuff together that beginner hijabis go through. I guess I feel hurt because of that and also because she didn't really talk to me about it because she told my mom she felt I would be pushy and be angry at her and hate her for it.

So basically she picked me up at the train station yesterday wearing hijab and when we got home she told me she wanted to just leave it off after our hair appointments in the afternoon....what could I say? I asked her over and over again why? You can't just put it on and take it off. I don't know, I will probably come up with 100 things I could have said but at the time I was in total shock (and still am sort of). We went to my brother's 8th birthday party last night at this arcade/gokart place and she went wearing a short-sleeved t-shirt, jeans and no hijab. Of course my nonMuslim grandma couldn't stop talking about it (she never wanted us to "cover our beautiful beautiful hair") and I could tell my sister was very uncomfortable. She had told me earlier that "when I think of people saying 'I'm so glad you did this,' it makes me feel like I'm doing something bad" and I felt like saying "maybe because you are."

Everybody else is alright with it, mainly because none of them really care about hijab either way (my dad hates it actually) and they all feel she was too young in the first place to decide (she was 12).

Ugh. This has been a terrible terrible week and I still have a lot of late homework left to turn in for my online class.

Aw JM, you should not feel weird for feeling hurt. Every time I see a hijabi take hers off, I feel sad too (no offense to anyone who's done this). I find it ESPECIALLY sad (and I'm not saying your sis is doing this or going to do this), when a girl goes from hijabi to like, showing cleavage and stuff.

I can't even imagine what it would be like if it were my sister. I'd be hurt too. You kind of feel like it was a struggle you were going through together and you wonder why that struggle didn't carry one. Khair insha'Allah

[fatima]

jelly i can relate to the way youre feeling. i have a cousin who is a few years older than i am, and i always really looked up to her as a kid. she was also an inspiration for me to start wearing hijab too. a few years ago she decided to take it off after wearing it for over 15 years. it was definitely a shock and disappointment. but allahu alim, people struggle in different ways...this is just a more visible one. make duaa for her and continue to be a good example for her, but at the end of the day, shes your sister, and im sure she's still a good person. whether or not she wears a hijab doesnt change who she is inside. inshallah khair

[Ilikemyscarf]

so she took her love
for to gaze awhile
upon the fields of barleyyyyyyy

[afrakabob]

Originally Posted by thejellymill

I feel really really weird. My sister took off her hijab yesterday.

i used to feel really upset about that too... but lately i've begun to wonder if i want to take it off myself. i feel like a hypocrite most of the time.

[kellyjaz]

My nose looks weird this morning... hmmm

[comportment]

Originally Posted by sally

lol inshaAllah you too!

i AM SUCH A MUSHFACE BARF i actually grinned from ear to ear at that like an idiot

SIGH I JUST WANNA GET MARRIED FOR THE CUTE CLOTHES


inshaAllah

if i have a seperate nikkah and rukhsati event, i would like to wear a white dress at one of em..or think about it, i dunno

That'd be cool. Mix it up, confuse everyone.

i just want one gathering where everything happens so i don't have to be the center of attention for too long..
but that's just me

[qudsia]

..don't be so quick to judge the girls that take their hijabs off. it's harder than you think it is. and if someone doesn't consult you about it, be it your best friend or your sister or whoever else...honestly? it's not about you. it's about them. and what they're struggling with. i've struggled with it myself - and continue to do so.

it's not easy. so while i know you guys mean well..saying things like what's been posted above makes those of us who HAVE made that decision (or those of us who are thinking about it) feel even worse.

don't know who said it...but whoever did is right: we all have our own personal struggles to overcome, some of us just get stuck with the ones that are more 'visible'. consider yourself lucky if yours aren't so public (and subject to such harsh judgement).

[Asvi]

These random people keeps IMing me on AIM...wth?

[moonlightrose]

I really really need your duas right now, ladies.

[comportment]