Female Personal Hygiene

Spice · #**11536** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 07:49 PM

If he's going to get a massage, itll be from my hands.

iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu · #**11537** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by serendipity_000

Would you be okay with your husband going to a spa and getting a massage?

Or would you get a couples massage with two women giving the massages to you and your husband?

Or if you do go to a spa, is it okay to get a massage if a guy gives it to your husband and a woman to you?

I wouldn't want a guy or a girl massaging my husband

Salika · #**11538** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:01 PM

I don't mind if a guy gives my husband a massage. We can't get massages together though for the main practical reason that i'm a hijabi and if a guy is massaging him in the same room well, he can't see. Heck, if you're not a hijab it's still awkward.

sumiyia · #**11539** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Salika

What the @#$^%&#%@$# does that mean?!!?!

here's what i got out of it. i could be totally wrong though.

How to determine wage of a tipped employee:

If tipped, his wage will increase by an amount determined by employer, but not more than 50% of the applicable minimum wage.

Exception:

Employee (either by himself or through a representative) shows that the actual amount of his received tips was less than the amount determined by employer.

If the employee makes this showing, then the amount the employer must pay him is deemed to be increased by the lesser amount.

DramaRani · #**11540** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Spice

Hi ladies, I ask that you make dua for my grandpa- he's very sick. I think i've posted about him before in fph, and yeah, we're really close. He's well over 100 but was in great health until only recently. um. yeah. duas plaesde.

InshAllah your grandfather will be ok!

sally · #**11541** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:16 PM

what do you girls think about over-friendly uncles? how do you deal with/react to them?

Salika · #**11542** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by sumiyia

here's what i got out of it. i could be totally wrong though.

How to determine wage of a tipped employee:

If tipped, his wage will increase by an amount determined by employer, but not more than 50% of the applicable minimum wage.

Exception:

Employee (either by himself or through a representative) shows that the actual amount of his received tips was less than the amount determined by employer.

If the employee makes this showing, then the amount the employer must pay him is deemed to be increased by the lesser amount.

thanks Sumi! ok I couldn't rep you but that makes a whole lot more sense. You used periods

Sorry when I see a sentence that's more than 4 lines I get lost

btw, did you get my pm?

Salika · #**11543** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by sally

what do you girls think about over-friendly uncles? how do you deal with/react to them?

If they have less than 4 wives you can marry them.

Timbit · #**11544** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by sally

what do you girls think about over-friendly uncles? how do you deal with/react to them?

Perverts. Stay far away and don't interact with them unless you absolutely have to. Don't leave any kids with them. Telling your brother/father/mother that they're a little ajeeb might also help, just so everybody's aware.

iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu · #**11545** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Salika

If they have less than 4 wives you can marry them.

EWWwwwwwwww

Asvi · #**11546** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Timbit

Perverts. Stay far away and don't interact with them unless you absolutely have to. Don't leave any kids with them. Telling your brother/father/mother that they're a little ajeeb might also help, just so everybody's aware.

i would say the same as Timbit. i know girls who had bad experiences w/over friendly uncles. yuck!

Spice · #**11547** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by sally

what do you girls think about over-friendly uncles? how do you deal with/react to them?

I love my uncles. Theyre the best. Although my brothers do a good job of keeping some of the weird ones well away from our family settings- at home or at a party. So I'm only really around the good ones- I've known them forever.

But some of the weirder ones, I've heard some very twisted things which just happened to leak into the womens circles. I make sure my dupatta is well spread around me when I'm around unfamiliar ones. I do the same with the ones we're really close to, but my gaurds go up when it comes to the ones we dont entertain much. Also, if we're hosting a dawat, and there're strange uncles, its segregated, and when it comes to serving tea, I prepare it and have a brother or cousin come and take it.

I just try to be very careful around uncles I dont know much, I've heard stories that have made me a lot more.. aware.

But to make it simple, the men in our family make sure no weird men are ever in our familial settings, and only let those in who we've known forever and they trust. Even then, I dont make appearances unless absolutely necessary or if serving.

Salika · #**11548** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:26 PM

Ok in all seriousness, what do you mean by overfriendly? I know some uncles that just crack more jokes and are more talkative and although I'm not used to that behavior from an uncle, I woudn't be freaked out by it. If he's going out of his way to talk to you or stands a bit too close for comfort or says things that are inappropriate, then ya, I'd be more weary.

thejellymill · #**11549** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Timbit

Perverts. Stay far away and don't interact with them unless you absolutely have to. Don't leave any kids with them. Telling your brother/father/mother that they're a little ajeeb might also help, just so everybody's aware.

I agree. Stay away and keep your kids away too.

Unfortunately ever since I heard a few weeks back that one friend/relative of mine got molested as a child I've been hearing all this other stuff about sex offenders and child molesters too. It's much more prevalent than we imagine unfortunately. I also found out from my mom that one of her uncles (my great uncle) used to try to touch her inappropriately when she was little. Fortunately she knew it wasn't right and stopped it before it happened (several times) by kicking, screaming and crying. Years later she has found that this same uncle has tried stuff with others in the family too (and gotten away with much more than he did with my mom). I will never look at him the same again. Also when I was little I had an older male relative that acted like he absolutely adored me...years later looking back I realized that the touchy-feeliness was too overboard although he never did anything outright inappropriate (i.e. sexual) thank GOD. This person today is known as a pervert by most in the family.

I talked to my parents this weekend about this too and they said that this was the very reason they never let me spend the night at other peoples' houses, esp in Pakistan, because of the mentality and taboos over there.

People are sick.

sumiyia · #**11550** (**permalink**) 06-01-2008, 08:40 PM

oh and salika... thanks for the PM! i haven't had a chance to see a doctor yet.. but i totally think you're right about the whole vitaminD/milk thing.. i noticed today especially... i wasn't feeling so great, and when i left our cave of an apartment and was out in natural light, i felt much better. i spend most of my days indoors and without any sunlight. what are some good multivitamins i should take?