[sona]

Originally Posted by zzze

assalamu alaykum
epidural? do u even have to ask for one of those?

yes. they won't administer one unless you ask for one.

and let me break it down for y'all...

giving birth is honestly not that bad. i'm being serious.
ok, fine - contractions are painful. very very very painful. and if they're too painful for you to bear, then you have the option of getting an epidural.
but the rest of it goes by in a blur. labor, pushing, delivery - it's over so fast.

the real hard part is taking baby home with you and taking care of it.

[Salika]

My mom had the first of us without epidural because she wanted to and she advised me against it. she's like it's just too painful. I used to be like "ooo, I want to try it naturally" but as I get older I'm like no, stick me, I'm all for it!

[thejellymill]

there's a point at which you cannot have the epidural anymore though so you have to make the decision before labor reaches a certain point right? Also my mom and a friend who had one both said sticking the needle in your back is very uncomfortable and painful...until it becomes numb.

And you said contractions are very very very painful... I want to stab people when I have cramps + nausea + backache. I can only imagine how bruised my husband will be. Epidural it is for me! Or...adoption There are plenty of poor needy orphans who need caring for right? Why make more babies if there are so many neglected ones already?

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

Originally Posted by sona

yes. they won't administer one unless you ask for one.

and let me break it down for y'all...

giving birth is honestly not that bad. i'm being serious.
ok, fine - contractions are painful. very very very painful. and if they're too painful for you to bear, then you have the option of getting an epidural.
but the rest of it goes by in a blur. labor, pushing, delivery - it's over so fast.

the real hard part is taking baby home with you and taking care of it.

ok, will remember to ask!

I'm not afraid of the pain, just the embarrassment of the whole situation. I feel like Bree

That's what I think too, when friends speak of the pain...the baby will be there FOR THE REST OF YOUR MORTAL LIFE. I'm pretty sure that's harder than childbirth, I know I get stressed enough with my brothers and sisters, can't imagine what mothers go through masha Allah. You all deserve Jannah...and maybe progesterone, too lol

[thejellymill]

Originally Posted by zzze

assalamu alaykum

the placenta? You can eat it too...my rabbit ate hers. Bulbous head lol. We were all one at some point...nice thought eh?

aaaaaahhhhh ewwwwww *covering eyes and ears* stop tainting me with your dirty minds!

[Salika]

Soooo............... eyeshadow?

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

no, go to the make-up thread

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

awww, Sona

jazakallahkhair.

[thejellymill]

yea, jazzakAllah khair.. inshallah it wont be so bad. I bet it's just like other stuff when people blow it out of proportion. That image from health class though will never leave my mind

----

ok so..
I have a semi-personal question so I'll try to make it as general as possible inshallah. I've been wondering for a while now.. the hot and humid weather is here and my usual Dove original bar soap just doesnt seem to work everywhere anymore. I have to rinse off about twice a day because I'm worried about "smells" and I feel so gross and musty/sweaty (im not talking about underarms here, i have no problem with that alhamdulillah). I have heard of "feminine hygiene soaps" but I've never tried one. I hate the kind of stuff like body wash that leaves a residue-like or coated feeling on the skin. What's a good brand or kind to use that will clean and deodorize too?

[hijabihoodlum]

reminding myself that i'm still hood, dammit.

[Pushpa]

All you ppl going on about childbirth...

I'M THE ONE WHO'S GOING TO HAVE TO DO IT IN...*counts*...7 WEEKS' TIME!

I really don't want an epidural - so I'm looking into other forms of pain-relief. I started having those Braxton Hicks contractions last week and they were rather painful but not unbearable. Of course I understand they don't compare to the real serious contractions...

I would prefer not to have anybody in the delivery room with me at all, except MAYBE my husband, if he behaves himself and stands exactly where I tell him to. And as for mother-in-laws being present - I can't think of anything worse. I wouldnt even have my own mother in there, let alone anybody else's.

The poop thing grosses me out but I guess you have too many other things to think about at the time than to worry about that. I'll be needing everybody's dua's soon, inshallah.

[ChotooMotoo]

Originally Posted by Pushpa

All you ppl going on about childbirth...

I'M THE ONE WHO'S GOING TO HAVE TO DO IT IN...*counts*...7 WEEKS' TIME!

I really don't want an epidural - so I'm looking into other forms of pain-relief. I started having those Braxton Hicks contractions last week and they were rather painful but not unbearable. Of course I understand they don't compare to the real serious contractions...

I would prefer not to have anybody in the delivery room with me at all, except MAYBE my husband, if he behaves himself and stands exactly where I tell him to. And as for mother-in-laws being present - I can't think of anything worse. I wouldnt even have my own mother in there, let alone anybody else's.

The poop thing grosses me out but I guess you have too many other things to think about at the time than to worry about that. I'll be needing everybody's dua's soon, inshallah.

Yeah, my mom has started talking to me about labor and delivery, my sister too. Both of them had really hard labors. All you girls thinking c-sections are easier, it's total crap (my mom will tell you in gory detail about how wrong you are, she had 2 kids c-section and one vaginal). You STILL have to go through labor, even if your delivery end up being by c-section. There is also a chance with c-section that they will give you general anesthetic, and you won't be awake for the birth. Abdominal surgery SUCKS, I should know I've had one. It SUCKS BIG TIME. Don't choose a c-section. If you have to have one, do it, otherwise try and avoid it.

Who cares if you poo yourself? At some point you're going to become quite old, and it will happen anyway. You're in pain, (even if you're on drugs). You won't care. Your MIL won't care either. Remember she gave birth once too, and chances are she also pood herself. Nurses don't care either. They've seen worse. Just think of the mess they have to clean up once you give birth, a little poo is nothing.

I'm gunna have my mom (inshallah) and my husband there with me. That's it. When my mom gave birth ages ago, she only had nurses. My sis had her FIL in the room, and that was it. She told me that even though she and he didn't get along, it was still quite comforting to have someone familiar in the room.

[Salika]

Originally Posted by zzze

assalamu alaykum

no, go to the make-up thread

make me!

hmph!

[thejellymill]

I think the only person preferring a c-section was zzze ...i know how it goes, it's ugly and painful and terrible for the mom

btw I dont think I could even have my mom there...maybe for a short time at the end or something but not the entire time. I dont know what my mom is like in those kinds of situations so we'll see. My mil on the other hand already drives me nuts (i can totally imagine her being annoying while im trying to push a watermelon through a pinhole and me blowing up on her. NOT good for inlaw relations )

My husband is good at staying calm in situations when he wants to so he's probably allowed. And plus, he would have helped make it and he'll be the direct reason I'm in this "mess" (literally, eww ) so he needs to be there to witness it.

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

you sound like a strong woman masha Allah, pushpa, i'm sure you'll be fine I'll make a dua or two for u iA. Have u got all the cute little baby grows ready? and tiny newborn nappies? and babywipes. I Love babywipes, they smell so clean and fresh.

jellymill - i dont think ur supposed to use anythign there, except products specifically designed for those areas, and they do more than just soaps (if any?), i'm sure they're located near the sanitary towel etc area in the stores.