[Nabisco007]

Originally Posted by sumiyia

right now i want to take certain people and rip off their heads with my own hands. and i'd do it slowly, so they feel every bit of pain that they deserve.

ok that sounds really cruel. past Jummah was on forgiveness...I think it made me soften up but it's still sad when people hurt you especially when you didn't do anything to them at all

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

Originally Posted by displaced

I suck at friendships apparently

heh me too. I have trouble making good friends with girls and it seems like whenever I do I end up moving or something :-(

guys are so much easier to get along with because they're not all obsessed with drama and catty... unfortunately guys don't really make good platonic friends either... for obvious reasons...*sigh*

[jaani]

Originally Posted by iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu

heh me too. I have trouble making good friends with girls and it seems like whenever I do I end up moving or something :-(

guys are so much easier to get along with because they're not all obsessed with drama and catty... unfortunately guys don't really make good platonic friends either... for obvious reasons...*sigh*

I get along more with guys, I guess because of my brother. Girls aren't bad, but they form judgments, cliks, attitude, horrible trust issues, and meanness quite easily. Girls are too much drama.....no offense anyone!

~j

[thejellymill]

Since I moved to the US I only had one best friend. I had two best friends in Pakistan and it seems every best friend I have turns out to be a rotten egg. The first one was in like first grade and she turned out to be one of those pathological liar types...the kid that lies to get attention...ugh. I talk to her sometimes on gchat but it's awkward b/c we have nothing in common and sometimes odd comments are made. The second girl I became good friends with in third grade and around fifth grade she started turning weird and our friendship started getting kind of abusive. I remember yelling at her once for punching me too hard and she was like "yea whatever." Thank God I wasnt around to see how far that would have gone because we moved to the US. I recently found her on facebook and she's a total weirdo...1000 piercings, smokes, drinks etc etc..basically a hippy/emo/druggie . The third best friend was here in the US and we met in eighth grade. She slowly got involved in more and more drama and became meaner and meaner until finally she had a huge fight with her stepmom (and a girl at school), left in the middle of the night to go to her mom's place in another city and never contacted me ever again even though I called her a ton of times.

I just dont have good experiences with best friends and I've always been the type who prefers a small amount of good friends (quality, not quantity) so I'm not a super social person anyway. I find it hard to make friends a lot of times. Sometimes I find that the girls here in MSA form "cliques" and act really...I dont want to say outright snobbish so...distant? cold? In their own world? So I dont have too many Muslim friends around here, maybe like 3 or 4 and the rest are non-Muslims of all types. Plus I tend to act like a total random retarded goofball and I think people dont react well to that...I like to be around people who are like me. So really the out-there-crazy hijabis who curse and talk about hot guys aren't my type and neither are the uber-religious kind. I don't think I fit in usually but oh well...it doesnt bother me as much anymore.

Oh, and I also find it to be MUCH easier to be friends with guys but being Muslim (and now married) it's not as easy. I remember when I was little I used to like boys more than girls (while other girls were running away from the boys). I wasnt a tomboy and I didnt want to be a boy or anything...I dunno what it was, I just liked hanging out with boys for whatever reason.

[jaani]

Jelly: you remind me of......me!

~j

[zakk]

Laimunn, TUMS!

[Salika]

Ya guys are def much easier to talk to.

I have a handful of close female friends. I'm not crazy but I have tend to have a facetious sense of humor which most people don't understand but I'm trying to cut the sarcasm at the advise of one of my teachers and it's not the best quality.

I wish I could be friends with penguins but they're too far away

[sally]

alhamdulillah ive never had crazy drama with my friends like ive heard a lot of people do...sometimes here and there things will be weird with an acquaintence but i end up telling them what's up or whatever. my close friends are pretty sweet. ive always done quality over quantity.

speaking of friends, i just spoke to one after forever and a half it seems...SIGH. i forgot all the good times we'd shared.

[Spice]

Alhamdulilah, I have the best friends in the world, alh,

[sally]

spice owns the prettiest pink/orange hijab ever.


im trying hard not to nazar it.

[new_muslimah]

I miss my mother

She died soon after I turned 8 and for two years I thought that if I hadn't gotten older she would be alive. Needless to say my birthday is never exactly a happy time. Last year for my birthday about 16 of my cousins all went to Mexico together, it was seriously one of the best times I've ever had and the only birthday that was actually happy for me.

Alhamdulillah I've had some great friend experiences and some crappy ones. Recently this desi guy liked me and this desi "friend" I had got her undies all in a knot because of it and tried to make him stop liking me by saying crappy stuff about me because she thought it was "wrong". She felt like she epitomized what desi guys should like...

One of my best friends I've known since I was 2 years old...she is still my best friend. I love her, she is like an older sister to me. Most of my best friends are my cousins though...they have really been there for me through the difficult and good times.

[new_muslimah]

We can't have profile pics on Islamica anymore?

[Bruinrab]

I've had a few very close friends in my life...basically, people that were like family. I agree with whoever else said it earlier...they're just acquaintances to some degree or other. I also find it much easier to "hang out" with guys because they're so much more straightforward - no games, no drama, no crap, and I have a similar sense of humor.

But I was a tomboy - I used to play war with the boys in school, but I was always the doctor fixing them up when they got "injured". Luckily, at some point I discovered that I liked boys even though they might have cooties. It would have been a little awkward if I didn't.

[sumiyia]

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