[farah]

Originally Posted by DramaRani

Thanks for encouraging me to drink soda!

lol. don't worry, regular soda still leeches calcium from your bones, is a major cause of effing up your teeth/cavities, has an unhealthy amount of sugar and could cause a sucky caffeine dependence

[Ilikemyscarf]

Okie Dokie question for you all. Do you think it's fair for girls to put off sex out of fear after they're married? I don't. The reason I ask is cuz one of my girlies is engaged and apparently she told her fiance she needs atleast a week after marriage before she's ready.Obviously he got very upset. But, she's ok with kissing and hugging him I told her about how one thing leads to another once things heat up. She kept insisting she's not like that, she doesn't have the desire blah blah. I told her she was being very selfish and unfair to her hubby. She doesn't have the right to take it away or make him wait longer. What do you guys think?

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

Okie Dokie question for you all. Do you think it's fair for girls to put off sex out of fear after they're married? I don't. The reason I ask is cuz one of my girlies is engaged and apparently she told her fiance she needs atleast a week after marriage before she's ready.Obviously he got very upset. But, she's ok with kissing and hugging him I told her about how one thing leads to another once things heat up. She kept insisting she's not like that, she doesn't have the desire blah blah. I told her she was being very selfish and unfair to her hubby. She doesn't have the right to take it away or make him wait longer. What do you guys think?

Well, I think the first lesson for her would be to keep that part of her life between her and her husband.

[Timbit]

Uh, that's kinda private and personal.

It's just a week though; it won't kill him, especially if they're still doing other things.
I don't get how she decided on a week though. How does she know she'll need a week?

[nooni]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

Okie Dokie question for you all. Do you think it's fair for girls to put off sex out of fear after they're married? I don't. The reason I ask is cuz one of my girlies is engaged and apparently she told her fiance she needs atleast a week after marriage before she's ready.Obviously he got very upset. But, she's ok with kissing and hugging him I told her about how one thing leads to another once things heat up. She kept insisting she's not like that, she doesn't have the desire blah blah. I told her she was being very selfish and unfair to her hubby. She doesn't have the right to take it away or make him wait longer. What do you guys think?

actually, in Islam, its recommended, NOT REQUIRED, that a virgin is given a week before consummation, that way she has some time to get to noe him one on one before and 3 days for a non-virgin.

as i said, its not something that has to be done, they can consummate the marriage five min after their married if they wish but islam does provide this right to the couple to make things easy for them if need be

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

I wouldn't say it's ''unfair'' on the husband, since it's something that should involve both their consent. That's some messed up thinking. Anyway...it's not a problem just yet as she's just engaged. Sounds like she just wanted to talk about harami things really.

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by zzze

assalamu alaykum
Sounds like she just wanted to talk about harami things really.

Maybe - or she could just be really nervous and not know where to turn (hence the wanting to wait a little bit). I still think she shouldn't talk about that with friends, but I can understand why she might feel anxious.

[Ilikemyscarf]

Ahaahahhahahahahaha...it's not talking about 'harami' things. I'm sure the fph chats you guys have are ssoooooo halal.
@ nooni, is there a hadith or something that says that? I've never come across it. And what do to in such a case where the guy doesn't want to wait but the girl wants to?

[Spice]

Its unfair for us to assume anything of the bride to be, ladies. And I dont think there's anything 'harami' about her being nervous about her wedding night and discussing it with a close friend.

ilikemyscarf: Tell her to just sort of go with the flow and keep calm. I'm sure things will...work themselves out?

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

Originally Posted by sumiyia

argh!!! i'm soooo hungry!!! i just want to keep eating and eating!!

preggo??

[Ilikemyscarf]

Originally Posted by Spice

Its unfair for us to assume anything of the bride to be, ladies. And I dont think there's anything 'harami' about her being nervous about her wedding night and discussing it with a close friend.

ilikemyscarf: Tell her to just sort of go with the flow and keep calm. I'm sure things will...work themselves out?

IA when I speak to her next time, she isn't on now.

Oh sis thejellymill, can you add me to ur fb? Thanks .

Another thing, many girls throw swear words at each other when they are joking around. That doesn't go well with me. My friends and I don't call either other B*tch and such. What about you guys?

[sumiyia]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

IA when I speak to her next time, she isn't on now.

Oh sis thejellymill, can you add me to ur fb? Thanks .

Another thing, many girls throw swear words at each other when they are joking around. That doesn't go well with me. My friends and I don't call either other B*tch and such. What about you guys?

me and my friends call each other kutti. and also kameeni. and sometimes saali. but that's about it. oh and also, stupid, dumb, jerk, loser, idiot, moron, and etc.. though they aren't swear words per se.

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

IA when I speak to her next time, she isn't on now.

Oh sis thejellymill, can you add me to ur fb? Thanks .

Another thing, many girls throw swear words at each other when they are joking around. That doesn't go well with me. My friends and I don't call either other B*tch and such. What about you guys?

Not really... The worst I do is call people hussy

[Spice]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

Another thing, many girls throw swear words at each other when they are joking around. That doesn't go well with me. My friends and I don't call either other B*tch and such. What about you guys?

I've always found that to be very disgusting. I'm glad my circle of friends doesnt do that.
But I do know a lot of people who do.

[ChotooMotoo]

Originally Posted by Ilikemyscarf

IA when I speak to her next time, she isn't on now.

Oh sis thejellymill, can you add me to ur fb? Thanks .

Another thing, many girls throw swear words at each other when they are joking around. That doesn't go well with me. My friends and I don't call either other B*tch and such. What about you guys?

Your friend is saying that now because getting married is a big thing, and naturally makes one nervous. She might find that in the heat of the moment all her plans go out the window though, and if they do I hope she won't feel ashamed or anything.

No, I don't swear at my friends, or anyone else. I do say d@mn a little more than I should though