[Spice]

Originally Posted by cheesy0strawberries

What exactly is the opposite of a black man ?

White women!

[cheesy0strawberries]

I hate the terms "black" and "white" as applied to humans. They're polarizing, overly simplistic, and stupid.

[psychoteddybear]

Originally Posted by Purple_alien

my dad hates me. I am sure of it. First he refuses to allow me to get married (Keeps telling me if I get married without his permission, I'm going to Hell) Then, he only looks in like 1 place. But whatever, MashaAllah, right? Well, now he tells me I can't go to Law School because If I do, I have to move out. I wanna punch him in his face right now! I'm still gonna go ahead with it, but his non support hurts, especially when he tells his kids they can do anything. He didn't even support me when I was getting my BA, now he's acting all proud and crap.

There's trying to respect your elders the best way you can under the circumstances, and then there's having to decide what's best for you in the long run and how it will improve your life for the better...that's sad about your dad, Inshallah he'll change his mind soon...but perhaps practicality is best considered when it comes to where you are in your life right now, your age, your qualifications, when you'd like to retire, where, and etc...and when you'd like to settle and have kids and all that..of course it's not possible to predict how your life will travel but structure is always helpful...life is short and otherwise you're a good person Inshallah and hopefully Allah swt will see what's going on and will know himself only what's in your heart...

If you're trying to be reasonable to him and he doesn't fess up to the root of why he's preventing you from bettering your life...perhaps a compromise might work, meeting halfway?

Hang in there...there is no perfect family in the world..and we've all got particular things to face in life...what goes down must eventually come up Inshallah...

salams,

psycho

[HijabiPrincezz]

i went to a persian nikah ceremony/wedding (it wasnt the reception though, just the nikah) last night it was my high school freind's nikah who i just cant BELIEVE IS NOW MARRIED mashallah!!! and it was amazing it was all white with yellow flowers and sooo ....mashallah. yes it was my first non-desi wedding ive been to! (and i totally dressed wrong for it cause i thought it wouldnt be seperated so i didnt do my hair, and therefore i didnt end up taking off my hijab lol and b) i wore shalwar khameez...so i was kinda upset that no one filled me in on the "wear pants and a nice top or a skirt and a nice top or a dress ) but it was FUN!

[HijabiPrincezz]

oh oh oh and i attempted to do the "zargheet" (? is that how u spell it??? or even say it??? i dont know! ) the little "arab/persian wedding call" thingamjjiger...i seriously only thought the arabs did that but allll night long from the minute she walked to the bench to get nikahfied, EVERY female in the room went crazy doing that hehe...so i joined in! i dont know if i was doing it right or not but it was fun joining in! lol.

[the_only_one]

now, i know the answer, i can breathhhhhhhhhhh in peace and keep it at the back of my

mind...i hate waiting for something to happen which is out of my control so i can

move on with my life...i hate mysteries..

[sanuri11]

if anyone has trouble with ingrown hairs on legs or stubby feeling after you shave/epilate/wax, you should use a pumice stone on them before hand. pumice stones are those things you rub on your feet to take off dead skin and make em smooth.

do that gently with your legs. first soak them in warm water then rub them gently with the stone... its a nice massage too. it leaves them feeling sooo smooth, and for me its been a reeeal problem cause im light skinned with dark, thick hair.

use it!

[zzze]

assalamu alaykum

Originally Posted by cheesy0strawberries

What exactly is the opposite of a black man ?

a horse?!

a fair man, obviously ( he's not a caucasian)

Originally Posted by cheesy0strawberries

I hate the terms "black" and "white" as applied to humans. They're polarizing, overly simplistic, and stupid.

should i give you a general history of my father's ancestors instead? Ok, may have come from Sudan, not sure, then emigrated to benghazi, later settled in tripoli...hmmm!

[jaani]

@DramaRani, Deel, iSHi, Aida, the_only-one, Scarfy. And thanks Sumi, but I'll feel better now Thanks for your support and love girls...I really appreciate it I'm feeling much better right now and I didn't chop off my hair either I watched a sad movie last night and cried at every sad and heart wrenching moment and that kind of de-stressed me. I think I'll just watch a sad movie whenever I feel crappy

My mum has allied with my sister to "talk" to me, but I'm not accepting any of her calls Apparently the guy has the same nature as me. I'm more introvert, shy, observant, sensitive, and less social. My sister is the complete opposite and thats why she rejected him and told my mum that I was better suited I don't want the guy having to be the same like me...thats boring I actually prefer someone opposite me. My family knows about this, but they still insist. He's currently doing his masters and has a good academic background, but nothing on his bio-data appeals to me. My mum had asked me what I thought about him, and I said a straight no and when I say no, that means no, never - ever! I'm just ignoring this topic with everyone because talking hasn't helped and I believe silence is the best remedy - at least, this way we won't get into fights and arguments They'll eventually forget about this and if not, I'll get my dad involved. He knows about my sis getting the rishta, but not about me

~j

[Ilikemyscarf]

maaaaaaaaaan i'm at a point in school where I feel like I have to decide whether I can do it or not. my grades are really bad right now.
i need tips on self-confidence.

[sally]

Originally Posted by thejellymill

If suicide wasnt haraam I would go throw myself off a roof or something, we're going to live apart another year...AT LEAST six months. I dont want to do this anymore

sorry to hear that.. i dont doubt that it's the toughest thing in the world

at least you're married to somebody you cant live without! that must be loooove

i hope things work out for you.

and distance makes the heart grow fonder, or something

Originally Posted by PhDGirl

Sally, I think it depends. Like for you, I think it would be nice if you found someone who's into fitness since that's such a big part of your life. My husband and I do have some similar interests and that is something we talked about, but it's not like we share every single hobby or anything. Your spouse should also be your friend if possible, so some common ground is helpful for that.

yeah..but like, the working out thing is my own time..i dont want to share it with anyone..not selfish but it's like a zone out/get away for me and i wanna keep it that way. plus if i got a husband who wanted to work out we wouldnt be able to do that together bc id go to a womens gym

anyway i still think youre right. common ground is necessary..and common ground in terms of values and stuff solely just doesnt cut it sometimes. that happens to me with my friends or new friends i make, and i dont even live with them..i lose interest if theres nothing common to discuss every so often

[sally]

some people make me utterly sick

im upset and i just wanna move back to my hometown so bad..im realizing i dont really like it as much as ive been convincing myself here..

blah

[heba]

soo
i feel liek crap. and i hate work, i work too dam much!!! like almost 35hrs a week while im a full-time student with a HUGE courseload.

and i have a paper/presentation on monday and i havent started and i work all day tomorrow, and i feel liek throwing uppp, and im mad at someone, and i hate life alot right now

anyway, gotta suck it up and start on this paper! ughhhhhhhhhh

[sally]

yeah i have to write a paper too. aaaaaaagh. and im so turned off by a lot of things.

i just wanna go on a cruise, man.
inshaAllah.