[hefty]

Originally Posted by Spice

You're having a baby? well, congrats!

thanks!!
jk i'm not having a baby ... yet.. but inshaAllah hopefully sometime soon!

[Asvi]

Originally Posted by hefty

thanks!!
jk i'm not having a baby ... yet.. but inshaAllah hopefully sometime soon!

awww..congrats !

Originally Posted by DramaRani

Albeit living with the in-laws isn't the most ideal situation, think about how many duaas you will be getting from them. And other people like your inlaws' friends, will probably say nice things about you too and make duaa for you. Think about how it makes your sister-in-law look - the one they don't want to stay with . Think about how much your husband will appreciate it. I know now you've had your "taste" of freedom (living without the inlaws) and it feels like you're regressing with them coming to live with you, but inshAllah it will help them grow closer to you and strengthen your marriage, iA .

That's exactly how i look at it and it makes me feel a lot better. Most of the time i'm ok with my inlaws living with me, but Sometimes my selfishness gets the most of me
I just hope i'm able to take care of them and maybe in the process gain a few good deeds.


HAPPY BIRTHDAY LAIMUUN !!

[Spice]

Originally Posted by hefty

thanks!!
jk i'm not having a baby ... yet.. but inshaAllah hopefully sometime soon!

Well, inshAllah khair then
Good luck

[sumiyia]

So.

Freaking.

Hungry!!!!

[DramaRani]

I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally don't want to go to the gym, but I neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed to go. Why is this so damn hard ?

[Salika]

Originally Posted by DramaRani

I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally don't want to go to the gym, but I neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed to go. Why is this so damn hard ?

Awww, I'd trade places with you right now but I'm stuck at the library working on a paper.. soo goo and be grateful you can go And uh, please burn some calories for me, sanks you very much!

*tummy hurts*

[heba]

hm
i was talking to a guy before, and one major major thing that we couldnt agree with , was the whole living with in-laws bit (he was brown). it was one of the biggest reasons for us ending things.
i cant see myself doing it. like...what if i wanna walk around the house in booty shorts? or, what if i just wanna be lazy one day and sloth around? and where is the privacy?

i guess im just not used to it..i actually dont know anyone that lives with their in-laws. its not something that people do in our community AT ALL. like back home, people would live in the same building as their parents or something at most, but never in the same house.

props to those that can deal with that though

ANYWHO...im bored i hate being alone and waiting for time to pass at school...it suuuuuuuuuucks

[Salika]

Originally Posted by heba

hm
i was talking to a guy before, and one major major thing that we couldnt agree with , was the whole living with in-laws bit (he was brown). it was one of the biggest reasons for us ending things.
i cant see myself doing it. like...what if i wanna walk around the house in booty shorts? or, what if i just wanna be lazy one day and sloth around? and where is the privacy?

i guess im just not used to it..i actually dont know anyone that lives with their in-laws. its not something that people do in our community AT ALL. like back home, people would live in the same building as their parents or something at most, but never in the same house.

props to those that can deal with that though

ANYWHO...im bored i hate being alone and waiting for time to pass at school...it suuuuuuuuuucks

Ya, it seems almost unheard for Arabs. I don't think I could live with my in-laws unless I had to (like if they were sick and needed their son), but ya, alhamdulilah for good in-laws

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by Asvi

Thanks everyone

even though i've already expressed my feelings to my hubby, i wont get to live on my own because that would harm my marriage, and i'm not gonna let some stupid thing like that ruin my relationship w/my hubby cuz i love him too much to lose him. so i'd live w/ my inlaws if it comes to that. my MIL has already told me that she'd rather live w/me than her other DIL.. so i have no choice. sad i know. sometimes it sucks to be really nice. lol

sorry if somone asked this ...( to lazy to go back)

but i dont understand how *not* living with your in-laws would harm your marriage...or did i just understand that wrong?

[PhDGirl]

Originally Posted by heba

hm
i was talking to a guy before, and one major major thing that we couldnt agree with , was the whole living with in-laws bit (he was brown). it was one of the biggest reasons for us ending things.
i cant see myself doing it. like...what if i wanna walk around the house in booty shorts? or, what if i just wanna be lazy one day and sloth around? and where is the privacy?

i guess im just not used to it..i actually dont know anyone that lives with their in-laws. its not something that people do in our community AT ALL. like back home, people would live in the same building as their parents or something at most, but never in the same house.

props to those that can deal with that though

ANYWHO...im bored i hate being alone and waiting for time to pass at school...it suuuuuuuuuucks

Yeah it can certainly be a big issue, so it's best to know about each other's expectations before marriage. I am far too independent for that sort of lifestyle, but it works for others and they are happy.

[jaani]

Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

Well, I took the exam. It was really hard. I for sure mised 6 points, becuase I couldn't answer the questions in the alloted time. I don't feel that bad though, becuase a) I'm really confident about my other answers b) lots of people couldn't even finish. So, I'm hoping that in the end I get a B in the class.

I'm sure you did excellent!!

Originally Posted by iSHi

So when I asked my cousinw hat she wanted from here hse specifically said anything Playboy(the brand). I tried telling her reppin the bunny wasn't cool. But she didn't get it and that was kinda the only thing she wanted....what do you guys think of the merchandise that has the bunny on it?!

I wouldn't encourage such behavior......explain to her that its wrong and you'll get her anything else

Its possible that she might not know what the bunny really stands for....she might just like it for the bunny

~j

[iSHi]

Originally Posted by jaani

I'm sure you did excellent!!




I wouldn't encourage such behavior......explain to her that its wrong and you'll get her anything else

Its possible that she might not know what the bunny really stands for....she might just like it for the bunny

~j

I think thats most likely the case. Darn Arab fobs.


Anyways, I'm stupid. My mom left some milk on the stove and I mixed it with my milk(my mom uses lactose) thinking "why waste it?". Now my tummy churns and I feel like but I can't and this is just the suck. I wiss I knew how to amke myself puke.

[DramaRani]

Originally Posted by iSHi

I think thats most likely the case. Darn Arab fobs.


Anyways, I'm stupid. My mom left some milk on the stove and I mixed it with my milk(my mom uses lactose) thinking "why waste it?". Now my tummy churns and I feel like but I can't and this is just the suck. I wiss I knew how to amke myself puke.

I so want to insert an lol_lol joke here , but I don't want to be mean, especially since she's been so nice lately .

[thejellymill]

Like zzze I'm also a bit of a natural recluse. Plus I do have a nosy, dominating type mil. I wouldn't mind living nearby my husbands parents to help them out financially or physically but in the same house is out of the question. I can just as many rewards that way insha'Allah, as well as helping out my own parents i'A.

Like heba said, privacy is important, esp when it comes to stuff like "booty shorts"...I DO like to shop at vs a lot . At home I like to dress like I did my "pre-hijab" days of high school and that would not fly with my in-laws. At their house I once stepped 2 feet outside my husband and I's bedroom door wearing a thick-strap, high-neck tank top to grab a towel (their AC doesnt work upstairs and it was the middle of summer). I didnt realize but my fil was vacuuming the stairs and he saw me but acted jolly as usual and didnt comment on my shirt (even though I held up the towel feeling awkward). I also like what onetspvanilla said about having pringles for dinner...sometimes we're both tired and don't feel like going out/cooking *shrug*...i know mil wouldnt like that

Immediately after I got a "talking to" from my mil about how "we don't wear things like that" around the guys (my fil, i wear hijab around the bil) . That situation was different b/c it was an accident and in their house but quite frankly, I dont need somebody else moving into my house dictating what I can and cannot wear for myself/my husband.