[Asvi]

Originally Posted by Purple_alien

Where in the great garden state?
I think I wanna have something like that- the whole "Arab engagement" I wanna be married Islamically, but still live at home for a year. That way, I can still do what I need to do. Then, when I am ready, we can live together. (plus, I wanna give him time to get ready to deal with me and my crap.)

Rutgers area and Bridgewater areas my in-laws and parents live there.

Originally Posted by Aida

We had all girls swimming sessions at our college and the lifeguard instructed that the girls wear polyester pants. The reasoning was that cotton absorbs chlorine or something along those lines . So, go for it.

Thanks

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by Waves

Isn't it better to have the walima right after the nikkah? Most couples I've seen have both parties within one week of each other. Less confusion that way (unless of course there are situations where it can't be avoided).

I agree ....unless its a issue of schooling i think all those things should be done close to one another.

I know one couple who had thier nikkah done....and then were gonna have their walima in 2 years ...and then she got pregnant and missed having a 'real' wedding.

[heba]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

see i dont get that ...in my opinon the bridal shower is just supposed to be friends of the bride no in-laws, no parents, no aunties. .....just good ol fashion fun with your friends before you depart to marriage world.

the birdal showers we have are like friends, family, brides side, grooms side (the women, of course). but theres like people's moms and stuff. theyre actually really fun, we play games and eat and dance and stuff..

but when its a bunch of people we cant really have our time with the bride, which is why we did the lingerie party, it was like 10 of us, was reaaally fun.

anywho, are nikkah and walima synonymous with katbktaab and wedding? im confused now too lol

[Salika]

Originally Posted by heba

the birdal showers we have are like friends, family, brides side, grooms side (the women, of course). but theres like people's moms and stuff. theyre actually really fun, we play games and eat and dance and stuff..

but when its a bunch of people we cant really have our time with the bride, which is why we did the lingerie party, it was like 10 of us, was reaaally fun.

anywho, are nikkah and walima synonymous with katbktaab and wedding? im confused now too lol

Ya, theyre synonomous

The former are fiqh terms the latter are cultural

[Salika]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

I agree ....unless its a issue of schooling i think all those things should be done close to one another.

I know one couple who had thier nikkah done....and then were gonna have their walima in 2 years ...and then she got pregnant and missed having a 'real' wedding.

Ya, my fiance-husband and I pretty much consider ourselves married and our parents are pretty liberal don't require us to be chaperoned 24/7 and he's even allowed to visit me (I live away from home) but a lot of Arabs would consider that taboo.

The only thing that is stopping us is ya, my school, otherwise we would just get married

Oh well, better that way bc when I'm done I'll be done and don't have to be a student/wife/mom alhamduliillah

[heba]

so why are the brownies so confused with how we do it, if they do the same thing

[Ilikemyscarf]

Originally Posted by heba

so why are the brownies so confused with how we do it, if they do the same thing

It took me a while to get what you meant by brownies...

[farah]

Originally Posted by heba

so why are the brownies so confused with how we do it, if they do the same thing

man, i'm desi and i have no idea why everyone's so confused

[Spice]

Because in Brownie terms the engagement is the official announcement to the community that so and so are hooked, hands off! (haha, had to say it). The families do a 'nishaani' where they exchange gifts and so on to seal the deal, this is part of the 'engagement' (traditionally speaking)
Engagement=mangni, sagai.

The 'wedding' is the actual nikkah, where they really get hooked, and usually move in together immediately after (which isnt always the case). If they dont move in together then the 'rukhsati' (when the larki moves in with him) is held at a later time. But once they're nikkahed, they're allowed to date and stuff.

Oui.

Back to my pile of dishes

[jaani]

So I didn't want to make a thread about this because there's some haramified and besharam stuff on it, but its quite an interesting site. Take a look

PostSecret


~j

[heba]

Originally Posted by jaani

So I didn't want to make a thread about this because there's some haramified and besharam stuff on it, but its quite an interesting site. Take a look

PostSecret


~j

that is a super cute site. and did you watch the video at the bottom? cute, but creepy, idea

www.ifoundyourcamera.net

[Sugarberry]

hahahahaha i cant believe you just called desi people brownies hahahaha

[sumiyia]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

hahahahaha i cant believe you just called desi people brownies hahahaha

me and my friends call ourselves brownies.



in other news... my husband is so cute (and so lame)... he comes over to me, jack's my laptop and opens the website to the condo we rented in hawaii, and says "remember??? " hahaha..

[heba]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

hahahahaha i cant believe you just called desi people brownies hahahaha

LOL. its what i call my desis at school...haha...brownies just sounds so much cuter than desi

[thejellymill]

hehehahaha sumiyia husbands are such cute little dorks!

Ok so this is my new favorite song