[MossadConspiracy]

fat7a -> katb kitab -> dakhla

[heba]

Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

fat7a -> katb kitab -> dakhla

you go girl. but wtfs a dakhla lol

[MossadConspiracy]

wedding night

farah --> laylat al-dakhla

it means night of entry. the wife enters the husbands house and they're officially a married couple.

[heba]

Originally Posted by MossadConspiracy

wedding night

farah --> laylat al-dakhla

it means night of entry. the wife enters the husbands house and they're officially a married couple.

and where does the husband enter?



kidding?

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by heba

right

there is the "fat7a"-->thats the announcement that 2 people are talking and plan on getting married (they call it an engagement..like part 1)

then there is the engagement (part2? lol) and that is when islamically you are married, and you have a big engagement party (some are as big as weddigns- like my brothers he had on the weekend in lebanon)

then there is the wedding..which is the white dress big party with dinner and dancing, and then honeymoon and live together

so basically you have 2 engagements! and 3 parties to celebrate the marriage. ( not including the henna and bridal shower)

[MossadConspiracy]

well i didnt want to go there but thats the real meaning

ws

[Salika]

Originally Posted by heba

and where does the husband enter?



kidding?

haha fiqh wise it is when the bride enters the husband's house, it's not that kind of entrance but people think thats what it is

get your minds out of the gutter

[heba]

Originally Posted by Sugarberry

so basically you have 2 engagements! and 3 parties to celebrate the marriage. ( not including the henna and bridal shower)

basically.
the first "engagement" isnt usually a party though, just close family at the house, sometimes the sheikh comes, food, socializing.

the second one is the partaaaay.

then bridal shower comes between second engagement and wedding.

when my cousin got married, we threw her an additional party, a lingerie party, lol where it was just close friends. because at the bridal shower its a bunch of old ladies and stuff

[sally]

wait, i thought salika is islamically married? like she can live with her husband technically?

im so confused. freakin arabs. jk :flower

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by heba

when my cousin got married, we threw her an additional party, a lingerie party, lol where it was just close friends. because at the bridal shower its a bunch of old ladies and stuff

see i dont get that ...in my opinon the bridal shower is just supposed to be friends of the bride no in-laws, no parents, no aunties. .....just good ol fashion fun with your friends before you depart to marriage world.

[iTz_NoT_Me_iTzZu]

That's a LOT of partying

[Salika]

Originally Posted by sally

wait, i thought salika is islamically married? like she can live with her husband technically?

im so confused. freakin arabs. jk :flower

I can be technically..

... but part of the nikkah is consummation. You're basically kind of suppose to announce it in a subtle manner.

I learned over the summer when I took the fiqh of marriage that if a couple has the nikkah but the girl gets pregnant before the walima (and it's sunnah to do the walima right around the time, particularly after the marriage is consummated), then the guy is not automatically considered the biological father of the child. If the guy dies, the family is not obligated to claim the child.

Also, although we know usually the wife can not deny her husband without a reasonable excuse but that's not true for the first time if there's no walima. She can say no.

A lot of fiqh technicalities and are mostly useful for couples who don't each other very well or see the process as still getting to know each other.

Arabs consider the nikkah time as a time for the couple to get to know each other. Some Arabs do the nikkah almost right after after the acceptance. Traditionally, a lot of parents did not let the nikkah'd unwalimafied couple be alone. That's been laxed over the past few years.

My fiance-husband proposed to me after the meeting ... and I accepted after a few days and we continued to get to know each other for a few weeks but did not announce our engagement then had the nikkah and that's when we announced it...

[Purple_alien]

Originally Posted by Asvi

i'm goin to NJ morrow

Where in the great garden state?
I think I wanna have something like that- the whole "Arab engagement" I wanna be married Islamically, but still live at home for a year. That way, I can still do what I need to do. Then, when I am ready, we can live together. (plus, I wanna give him time to get ready to deal with me and my crap.)

[Sugarberry]

Originally Posted by Salika

I can be technically..

... but part of the nikkah is consummation. You're basically kind of suppose to announce it in a subtle manner.

I learned over the summer when I took the fiqh of marriage that if a couple has the nikkah but the girl gets pregnant before the walima (and it's sunnah to do the walima right around the time, particularly after the marriage is consummated), then the guy is not automatically considered the biological father of the child. If the guy dies, the family is not obligated to claim the child.

Also, although we know usually the wife can not deny her husband without a reasonable excuse but that's not true for the first time if there's no walima. She can say no.

A lot of fiqh technicalities and are mostly useful for couples who don't each other very well or see the process as still getting to know each other.

Arabs consider the nikkah time as a time for the couple to get to know each other. Some Arabs do the nikkah almost right after after the acceptance. Traditionally, a lot of parents did not let the nikkah'd unwalimafied couple be alone. That's been laxed over the past few years.

My fiance-husband proposed to me after the meeting ... and I accepted after a few days and we continued to get to know each other for a few weeks but did not announce our engagement then had the nikkah and that's when we announced it...

i think your confusing alot of girls by calling your engagment 'nikkah' ...because allot people see the nikkah as when you get islamically married.

[Aida]

Originally Posted by Asvi

are polyester pants good for swimming? what do you ladies wear when swimming?

We had all girls swimming sessions at our college and the lifeguard instructed that the girls wear polyester pants. The reasoning was that cotton absorbs chlorine or something along those lines . So, go for it.