[jaani]

Originally Posted by sumiyia

i just cut off like 7 inches of my hair. lord knows what possessed me to do it.



edit: i did it while the husband was out. i told him i pulled a britney spears and took his trimmer to my head. he's freaking out right now. i'm so evil

so does your head feel lighter?

i cut off 3-4 inches a month and half ago.....feels light and breezy

~j

[thejellymill]

Well, my main problem is I have no spine. I used to let stuff slide for almost 3 whole months until it got to the point where one roommate assumed I would pick up her monthly waste when it was my turn to clean the bathroom (I left the trash where it was). What ensued was a 3-week long cold shoulder from her which ended in me emailing her and asking why it had gotten to that point. I tried to set up a boundary after the reconciliation, saying, "no matter whose turn it is, clean up your own stuff" and she immediately became defensive. This was the first bad sign.

Every time I have asked them to quiet down, my request had been blatantly ignored or they go on for a little while before quieting down (to prove a point maybe?). I just want a little peace and quiet between 11 pm and Fajr so I can get some rest. Ironically, once when I was cooking (at 9 pm) I turned on the exhaust only to return and find it off. Assuming I must have forgotten and turned it off, I turned it back on. Immediately the louder roommate (whose room is adjacent to mine) yelled from inside her room, "I'M TRYING TO SLEEP, WHATS WRONG WITH YOU!" I was so shocked . Like an idiot, I muttered sorry and went back to my room. I'm such a spineless weakling.

Another thing I'm also tired of is stepping in puddles of water in the bathroom so today I left a note in pink marker with flowers and hearts drawn on it that said "please clean up the water." While cleaning my room tonight I heard them talking in low voices in the living room. I caught words that made me think they were discussing me and one of them said "well she is b****y." So now I think they think I'm a b**** now after all of this, that is why I say I feel like a pest.

I think this has reached the must-move-out level, except I do have my name on a lease that isn't up until July (I'm outta here as soon as school ends in May and subleasing the rest!). I really appreciate the advice though

[Salika]

Originally Posted by DramaRani

Don't kill me for saying this, but you know when you confront someone about their inconsiderate behavior, it just makes you a target. No matter how nicely you say something, you really open up yourself for an attack too. She probably felt that you and your friends were being "inconsiderate" while she was studying and she (at the time) didn't say anything and just let roll off of her back. So she assumed you would do the same with the music at 4:30 am. I don't agree with her. Maybe you and your friends didn't know that you were being "loud" or that she was even studying.

Ya, I know that's why she brought it up, she probably did feel like I was attacking her, even though I was very nice to her. I didn't yell at her, attack her, or anything and my friends and I did not intend at all to be loud (actually we weren't being that loud, we were just talking). But she brought her friends over all the time and they were pretty loud too. Had she asked us at the time to lower our voices, of course we would have.

I just thought it undermined her own argument on the one hand because she was basically saying that she should not have to adjust her schedule to mine yet expects others to adjust our schedule to hers. I mean it's fine if you thought my friends were loud, but to first tell me that she should not adjust to my schedule then ask me to adjust to hers is just not fair.

I think it's a bit immature when you try to have a talk with someone and all they do is bring up stuff that you did. It's like why are you telling me now? I realize it's a form of defense, but we all get criticized. I mean it's one thing to say "hey, ya, you're right, I'm sorry but since we're on the subject, I have a couple of qualms myself if you don't mind" versus "oh ya, well you do x, y, z..."

Anyways, whatever, that was years ago. Ya live ya learn.

My daddy is so cute. When I asked him to see the doc this weekend he, as usual, tells me to go to my pediatrician. I'm like married and in grad school, but he still wants to send me to the pediatrician

[DramaRani]

Originally Posted by Salika

Anyways, whatever, that was years ago. Ya live ya learn.

I'm glad you don't live with 'em anymore. My classmate had a bad experience with roomies too. They accused her of eating their food. They purposely broke some of her picture frames and she found some of her clothes in the garbage. I remember picking her up for class one morning and she was in tears. Bichari.

Originally Posted by thejellymill

I think this has reached the must-move-out level, except I do have my name on a lease that isn't up until July (I'm outta here as soon as school ends in May and subleasing the rest!). I really appreciate the advice though

Whatever! They are miserable cows. They obviously are afraid of you if they can't even say it to your face. May isn't so far away! InshAllah you'll find someone quick to take over lease .

[jaani]

Originally Posted by thejellymill

Well, my main problem is I have no spine. I used to let stuff slide for almost 3 whole months until it got to the point where one roommate assumed I would pick up her monthly waste when it was my turn to clean the bathroom (I left the trash where it was). What ensued was a 3-week long cold shoulder from her which ended in me emailing her and asking why it had gotten to that point. I tried to set up a boundary after the reconciliation, saying, "no matter whose turn it is, clean up your own stuff" and she immediately became defensive. This was the first bad sign.

Every time I have asked them to quiet down, my request had been blatantly ignored or they go on for a little while before quieting down (to prove a point maybe?). I just want a little peace and quiet between 11 pm and Fajr so I can get some rest. Ironically, once when I was cooking (at 9 pm) I turned on the exhaust only to return and find it off. Assuming I must have forgotten and turned it off, I turned it back on. Immediately the louder roommate (whose room is adjacent to mine) yelled from inside her room, "I'M TRYING TO SLEEP, WHATS WRONG WITH YOU!" I was so shocked . Like an idiot, I muttered sorry and went back to my room. I'm such a spineless weakling.

Another thing I'm also tired of is stepping in puddles of water in the bathroom so today I left a note in pink marker with flowers and hearts drawn on it that said "please clean up the water." While cleaning my room tonight I heard them talking in low voices in the living room. I caught words that made me think they were discussing me and one of them said "well she is b****y." So now I think they think I'm a b**** now after all of this, that is why I say I feel like a pest.

I think this has reached the must-move-out level, except I do have my name on a lease that isn't up until July (I'm outta here as soon as school ends in May and subleasing the rest!). I really appreciate the advice though

jells: isn't there a manager or some head person you can discuss this problem with? find one and explain the situation, maybe they could find a way to a better solution

~j

[thejellymill]

Originally Posted by jaani

jells: isn't there a manager or some head person you can discuss this problem with? find one and explain the situation, maybe they could find a way to a better solution

~j

Nah, I live above the masjid in masjid-owned apartments and there's no official landlord...just a maintenance-type person. I think once I get some good earplugs and sleep, I'll be able to handle the rest of it fine. Hopefully 2 months flies and like DR said, inshallah get someone to take over the lease ASAP.

Thanks for the support guys

[DramaRani]

I was just cleaning off some stuff from my dressing table and I found a present from my old student - a Paris Hilton perfume and lotion gift set. I'm totally regifting it







Jk... I don't know what I'm going to do with it!

[sumiyia]

wow... reading these stories reminds me of all my bad experiences.... sure glad i don't live with roommates anymore. you'll get through it soon jelly...

[ChotooMotoo]

I'm finding my homework to be impossible. Why does she make us derive these stupid equations WHY!!! We have a test next week, it takes hours to do just this one problem, there is no way it will be on the exam so WHY did she assign it?

[farah]

Originally Posted by DramaRani

I was just cleaning off some stuff from my dressing table and I found a present from my old student - a Paris Hilton perfume and lotion gift set. I'm totally regifting it







Jk... I don't know what I'm going to do with it!

happy wedding, foozball?

[farah]

okay i should totally be studying. which i will do. starting.... now.

....right after i make some coffee.

[Bruinrab]

Originally Posted by ChotooMotoo

I'm finding my homework to be impossible. Why does she make us derive these stupid equations WHY!!! We have a test next week, it takes hours to do just this one problem, there is no way it will be on the exam so WHY did she assign it?

And this is why I stayed the hell away from pchem. Orgo was scary enough.

[DramaRani]

Originally Posted by farah

happy wedding, foozball?

I hope her man likes the smell of skank. LOL. Jk. Fooz knows I'm buying her Shaan Masala. They are forever on sale buy one get one free . She thinks I'm kidding, but I think that's what she's going to get if I have no job, so make duaa girls .

[moonlightrose]

I need some buy some earplugs myself...sometimes it just gets crazy here.